PMO makes me so tired, I can't function

[GettingBackToLife]

I am a family man and having a loving caring wife and 2 beautiful kids, but I can't resist the urge to PMO and after multiple relapses now whenever I PMO I am so tired that I often fall asleep or wake up late to work. Does anyone else have this problem after PMO? If so how did you work through it?

 

[Runtilmylegsdropoff]

Your spanking off and out all that spunk and also literally fapping your very life away. Eventually a lot of your hair will start falling out as well.

 

[Haroon226]

i dont get it. why dont you go to your wife to fulfill your desires.urges??

 

[wake_up]

Your spanking off and out all that spunk and also literally fapping your very life away.

That may be true, yes.

Eventually a lot of your hair will start falling out as well.

I don't know, how this statement may be helpful to him. Scaring addicts with "facts" or cold truth doesn't work ...

i dont get it. why dont you go to your wife to fulfill your desires.urges??

1. Yes, that's a really good question.
2. And does your wife know about your PMO addiction ? (then she could help you better)

Oh, and 3. btw, how long have you been addicted ?

I can't resist the urge to PMO and after multiple relapses now whenever I PMO I am so tired that I often fall asleep or wake up late to work. Does anyone else have this problem after PMO? If so how did you work through it?

yeah man, I know what you mean ...
I hate this lethargic feeling as well. At least I only have to go to work and not provide for a family.

I'm sorry to tell you that, but - as you probably expected - there is only one solution to that: Quit PMO.
Yeah, I know ... not that helpful statement
So let me explain:
Last year I started to cut down with "easy" mode by allowing only short MO sessions. It's far better, as I dont waste time watching P and the images fade from my memory. This saved time is better invested in sports (e.g. body weight excercises) & meditation.
But I've got still the same lethargic feeling. So that's why I have now even more motivation to quit this addiction entirely.
I guess, you've got a lot of stress, etc. And using the willpower method doesn't seem to work.

So maybe this will help you quit, what I posted recently:

Hey, I totally know what you mean.

I asked a similar question but I didn't get the answers I needed ...
(https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/massive-cravings.72946/#post-603186 )

Some things you could do immediately are these:
https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.p...them-details-during-reboot.65138/#post-556415

And if you think, you can't fight it, then it's ok. I couldn't handle it with the willpower method, too.
So try "easy" mode first, as Gary Wilson recommends: Just remove P from your life, and MO for the next few weeks as much you need to. (At least that's somehow working for me). In this mean time your brain fog gets better and you can improve on the other fronts.

And my current approach is this one (even if it not that intuitive it seems to work)
https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.p...op-smoking-applying-the-method-to-pmo.155008/
Check out the book if you keep relapsing.

Good luck !

So if you are saying "It’s a constant battle" then easy mode (+meditation) + the Allen Carr book is definitely for you.

 

[john27]

i dont get it. why dont you go to your wife to fulfill your desires.urges??

That's not how addiction works.

Some guys seem to think that a relationship will magically fix their problems, it won't.

When you're in love during the early stage of a relationship it might go away for a while because your brain is drugged out on love hormones. Your old habits will come back when that initial phase wears off and things get "boring" again.
That's how I experienced it anyhow.

My last relationship was partly ruined because of my PMO addiction, although I was still too young to understand it at that time. I just thought I was depressed. I didn't think of porn as a problem because "everyone was doing it". Instead of talking to my girlfriend about my problems I escaped into the internet. I dropped out of school and intentionally stopped responding to even my closest friends because I felt I didn't need them in my life anymore. PMO made me into a zombie. I ignored my girlfriend and all her needs for over a year before she finally gave up and broke it off, she really tried. I look back on that today and feel absolutely horrible for how I treated her.

This was ten years ago. I'm still alone today and I will be as long as I don't deal with this problem.

 

[wake_up]

That's not how addiction works.
Some guys seem to think that a relationship will magically fix their problems, it won't.

No, I don't think that a relationship will magically fix the problems, but I don't understand, why people don't involve their partner to help them. (Ok, maybe shame & guilt feelings). But sooner or later your partner will notice your PMO addiction ? Or you "hide" it somehow until the whole relationship collapses, like you said.
At least I don't get, why the people don't release their sexual energy/urges with their partner, so they are totally drained and don't need any PMO ?

Your old habits will come back when that initial phase wears off and things get "boring" again.
That's how I experienced it anyhow.

Yeah, this is an addiction and depending on the situation it may pause for a while until it creeps back.

This was ten years ago. I'm still alone today and I will be as long as I don't deal with this problem.

I think that's the right way. We have to be "stable" on our own. Everything else is dependent/needy in some way, and wont end well. (But as I said, if you already have a partner and dont want to break up, why not let them help you ?)