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Porn Addict looking for an exit

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by Jammy9600, Jun 10, 2018.

  1. Jammy9600

    Jammy9600 Fapstronaut

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    Hi All,

    Just joined NoFap, i'm a porn addict and I started watching porn when I was 13. I look at it obsessively and PMO every day usually 1-2 times a day maybe up to 6 times a day.

    I haven't had a relationship in 2 years and my last one suffered as a result of my addiction. My last few sexual encounters with women I either couldn't get it up or couldn't finish. I would hate myself after and feel embarassed. I know my addiction is the source of my problem, I watch it when i feel lonely or simply out of boredom/ for the sake of it.

    I'm looking for a way out of it, I've tried to give it up several times in the past but always fail. The longest stretch i've been without was 3 months and honestly I felt so much more content.
     
  2. NamoBuddha

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    Hi @Jammy9600
    Welcome to forum.
    You have reached three months without PMO and I believe you can attain it again.
    Here is some information that might help you to stay on nofap and increase your confidence.

    A success story, talking about how he overcome PMO.
    A YouTube vid, explaining how addiction work.
    An article, reading the benefits of nofap.
    Btw, I think you need to find something you want to do that will help you keep away from PMO. ←a reference for this

    All the best:emoji_thumbsup:
     
  3. Jammy9600

    Jammy9600 Fapstronaut

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    Hi @NamoBuddha

    Thanks for the message I liked the "rat park" video you linked. I can relate to not having a "constant source of happiness". It makes sense, I get bored/stay at home/don't socialise and so I turn to porn, but If I keep myself preoccupied and do more socialising/exercise/get out the flat then I'll be less likely to feel urges during the day
     
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  4. Hi. Welcome to forum!

    Make sure you create a personal journal thread in Reboot Logs section and blog there on a regular basis. As well as just generally be active participant in various forum discussions. I recommend this to everybody new here because it's the major thing that helped me when I was first starting. Just lurking on forums, reading and learning is great. But it usually is so much more powerful to engage. It helps to keep us motivated and accountable when we are active part of community. And keeps this in front of our minds so we don't forget about importance of it and slip away in our old habits. Sharing is also therapeutic. This is a major reason why AA meetings work so good. But that was developed before internet era. These days we can get most of the same benefits online through communities like this. So don't underestimate the power of active participation.

    I would also like to suggest you to look into mindfulness meditation. It has helped me personally tremendously to learn how to deal with urges and triggers. It takes a while to get good at it and notice results, so you need to be consistent with it, but once you do it's very powerful. It has been used by sages for thousands of years to deal with various issues of the mind. And in recent decades the science is also catching up to what ancient sages have know for centuries. Meditation these days are widely used as very effective tool by psychologists for treating addiction and by neurologists for supporting recovery of the brain. It is a great exercise for the brain the same way as jogging is great exercise for the body. Check out this Ted talk, it gives a good idea of what's it about when it comes to philosophy. As far as practical side of it there is this awesome smartphone app called Headspace for guided meditations to get you started.

    Wish you lot's of strength and success in your reboot journey!
     
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  5. Jammy9600

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    Thanks @The Serpent of Fire! I've heard alot about the wonders of meditation and mindfulness, never properly done it routinely so I will have to give this a go
     
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  6. RamboErecto

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    Welcome to the forum.

    Your status is pretty close to mine. Im also an addict that watch P obsessively. But since i started this path, i feel with new strenghts and challenges to do in my life.

    Hope it do the same to you! welcome!
     
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  8. Jammy9600

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    Hi @ShockTheSystem

    I agree cold turkey is the best way until i get rebooted. I know what its like on the other side and its much more chilled out and more content, i'm aiming for that feeling again
     

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