Porn and it's curse of self-negation

Discussion in 'Self Improvement' started by JohnnyNoFap, Oct 4, 2014.

  1. JohnnyNoFap

    JohnnyNoFap Fapstronaut

    58
    30
    18
    Hi all,

    For everybody interested, I recieved some tips and knowledge on how to handle 'it'. PMO.

    In my bio you can read I'm PMO'ing and struggling since 6 years and tired of it. I can state that I've tried many things to get rid of it, but we can't unless we get to the core of the problem: Self-negation. It might seem off and odd, but this is where it all starts. You will recognize feelings as depression, low self-esteem, tired and even worse, a failure! Looking at P, doing M up to O, is not our problem! It's not what we need to overcome, although we want it so bad. Our freedom. Are we slaves? Are we bound? At least I am, but it's not because of what we do on the internet or in the bath/bedroom. This stuff goes deeper than that. Yes, we are addicted, yet not slaves. PMO is not what's holding us back. Insecurities, sell-negation is. I have learned that feeling bad about ourselves in any way is not the solution. 'Cuz it's keeping the circle alive. We feel bad (about ourselves, sometimes we don't even notice) so we PMO and than we feel even worse. And so on. Remember the feeling when you didn't need it for days, yet one small amount of 'Life' thrown you back to earth. Those moments are precious, because the tell us it's not about us, neither about PMO. It's about how we feel about who we are and what we do. Being mad at ourselves because we cope with these issues isn't gonna help at all. Sure, everybody goes crazy when we tell about our problem, yet do they even know the struggle? Whenever someone thinks it's 'Easy' or 'Simple' to quit, just remember that he or she doesn't know the pain. Don't get mad at yourself because of them. Yes, there will be a day when freedom occurs, but only if we can let go of our negative selfs and thoughts. And at last: use the time wise. Don't hang out with your problem all day. 'When will I fail, when will it happen again...' No. ust take a deep breath and look for fun things, things that change mindset. Get to the core, and the symptoms will fade...

    -JohnnyNoFap-
     
  2. CasualMe95

    CasualMe95 Guest

    Great post man!
    Great insight!
     
  3. Baradimo

    Baradimo Fapstronaut

    6
    0
    1
    Truth. And yes, great insight!
     
  4. NotAfraid

    NotAfraid Fapstronaut

    315
    20
    18
    Great post! I love it.

    I've also noticed, that when I feel great I have no need to PMO. When I feel good, the thought of porn makes me sick.
     
  5. JohnnyNoFap

    JohnnyNoFap Fapstronaut

    58
    30
    18
    That's exactly what I mean! But I also noticed that on a good, warm and nice day the struggle is alive as well. Like, my body needs it because it wants, not because it necessarily needs. Watch out for those emotions as well.

    Thnx for the positive feedback, ppl!

    -JohnnyNoFap-
     
  6. Man On Fire

    Man On Fire Fapstronaut

    18
    2
    3
    This reminds me of how I would sometimes justify smoking during periods of successful abstinence - I would do it to spite my good self, to negate my positive achievement and to feed feelings of depression.

    Having recognised these negative traits I feel I'm now looking at them from a new perspective when they appear and I'm not reacting to them in the same negative way.
     
  7. fapadonna

    fapadonna Fapstronaut

    90
    2
    8
    This was a great post! Thanks. Stay strong everyone
     
  8. blankcanvas

    blankcanvas Fapstronaut

    34
    0
    6
    Very interesting and insightful reads here. Thanks Johnny, keep going dude!
     
  9. Bigballs

    Bigballs Fapstronaut

    105
    64
    28
    That's so true I'm on day 3 now and I feel much better about myself even doing a little dance as I'm walking to the toilet. Just to pee lol but yes I think the better we view our self the better we feel and putting a distance between us and pmo is the space we need to rediscover ourself the positive self we have long last seen
     
  10. Foledawg603

    Foledawg603 Guest

    Very good insight Johnny. For me I usually seek PMO as a way to escape negative emotions and feelings. This was the way I got through many years, until I realized using PMO was something I did on a daily basis. In my reboot attempts the toughest parts have been on days and times where I feel emotional drained or my day did not turn out as planned.
     
    Sailor93 likes this.
  11. Casey54

    Casey54 Fapstronaut

    354
    177
    43
    Hey man, great post, never thought about the porn addiction like that. For me it's a whole different way of thinking and hopefully it will help me get over the 10 day hump. Thanks for posting
     

Share This Page