Porn and Relations

Dear Brothers, in the past months I have had a relationship with a woman. The question always arises with the following: when we advance to a relationship do we advance for love or is there something in us that wants to have and desire to have a sex relationship?
In my case I liked the person very much although the relationship was based on the satisfaction of the sexual impulses of both. The relationship ended the discovery by me of a betrayal through mobile phone messages.
From my experience I tell you who goes through the world of pornography and then has a relationship is very dependent on the partner at all levels and if we have bad luck in the person we choose can make of us as much as they want.
My route is a horrible route:
- Eighteen years with pornography during marriage.
- After marrying a betrayal we think we can make up for the betrayal by meeting new people, I have joined social sites.
"I was held hostage by many people on those sites in exchange for sex or images of these people.
- Short relationships where we are looking for sex caring and something that will compensate us and if we have bad luck with these people can destroy us life.
Conclusion:
- the effect that pornography has on us is devastating we are really dependent on sex on a brutal level;
- dependence on pornography may have to do with previous illnesses, as in my case, without having been diagnosed with bipolar disorder 3 and OCD.
- There is no single path but abstinence is the necessary and unique way to make an effective reboot to the brain no matter how hard it may be, as black as it may seem to us, because if a porn addict has a dating relationship, it can easily develop a relationship of total dependence with the person what is to be avoided.
70 days without masturbation and without sex until today.

 

read in some of the publications I read on this site, asking if often having sex does not break the abstinence of pornography. My answer is only one who sees pornography becomes addicted to sex. The brain preaches in matches, many and varied and sexxo by sex is to continue only an addition that the brain has. On the other hand, special care is needed with us because we are particularly vulnerable when the subject is sex. Abstinence, however boring or inhuman it may seem, has to be total for a period of time that can vary for each one differently. If the use of pornography took place duranate a long time the abstinence should last much longer, in cases exxtremos maybe a two or three years and have constant medical help. We are dealing with an addition that is worse than heroin for a simple reason I add to the heroine does not have in a way so easy and so cheap the drug that seeks. Cyber pornography is one of the biggest diseases out there.