Porn Eliminating Interest in Dating

Discussion in 'Dating during a Reboot' started by A Soul, May 27, 2024.

  1. A Soul

    A Soul Fapstronaut

    Have any of you ever felt like pornography has suppressed your interest in seeking romantic relationships with women?

    After a few days into a streak, I get the urge to seek romantic relationships. However, I've always resorted to pornogrpahy to fulfill that urge, instead of investing time and effort into finding a partner.

    Also, after a relapse, women IRL become much less interesting excluding the most attractive ones - probably because watching P provides me with a false sense of having many options, through the endless scrolling (judging) to find the perfect vid or whatever.

    How has PMO affected your dating lives?
     
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  2. silex_jedi

    silex_jedi Fapstronaut

    i'm ashamed of what i have done and unassuming, reading some testimonies here made me withdraw from dating... i can't be honest about my addiction, it has the form of a burden right now. obviously it's so intimate and disgusting (sex is also disgusting generally, as it is attractive) so assuming someone would like to share time with me, if i put myself in her shoes, i would imagine frustration or disappointment discovering someone engaging in this practice, or having that proclivity... and most of all NOT BEING FULLY TRANSPARENT about it at the start...
    EDIT: to be honest my eyes meet with a nice girl, and then i am turning on, my soul, my mood, but then i remember i am recovering and have this baggage and don't want a promise that i believe will fail. i don't have the certainty that it will end well... plus all the emotional instability i have. so after a split second i return to introspection and ruminations.
    EDIT END

    i might never be comfortable about it, but i feel i need to be more honest about it with more people, including my close family... then it might be an asset in helping other abstain...

    i don't know.
     
    Last edited: May 27, 2024
  3. Porn and masturbation weakened my body and mind, making me a lesser version of myself, a more mediocre version of myself
     
  4. boggled_brain

    boggled_brain Fapstronaut

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    I can't even motivate myself to talk to women when I am on a relapse.

    When I am doing NoFap, it is so effortless. I mean, talk to them, they talk to me instead.

    Maybe the universe is sending me a message here... I dunno
     
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  5. terrible-chocolate

    terrible-chocolate Fapstronaut

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    150%. its kind of cyclical. you cant get laid easily, so you jerk off, and when you jerk off you dont give a shit about finding a date

    i did this for years and years and i didnt even realize i was doing it, or didnt care

    it was only after being tired of porn and realizing how terrible it is that i was like "i want an actual GF". i always have, but my anxiety and thirst about it, i could just turn to porn and feel better. after that i actually care about my appearance, and care about interacting with women.

    im crushing right now really hard on this girl who i only noticed at all because i wasnt fapping. and i only got the courage to interact with her and ask her out because i wasnt fapping and because i didnt have porn to turn to. porn isnt an option, but my brain still wants to have sex. so its gonna look for a lady i can make my babies with
     
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  6. A Soul

    A Soul Fapstronaut

    It is pretty evident that pornography and masturbation is being used as an alternative to finding a partner. Not only that, it even weakens one's will to find a real partner. Truly a vicious cycle.
     
  7. onceaking

    onceaking Fapstronaut

    For a long time, I thought I wasn't good enough for women because I looked porn, so I didn't even bother dating. I think purity culture contributed to that sort of mindset as well. Now, whenever I look at a dating profile, I look for hints that they would accept me if I every told them about my porn addiction. If a woman talks about having compassion or has a job that requires them to show compassion (like a nurse or a therapist) I'm more interested in them.
     
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  8. vitekastrid

    vitekastrid New Fapstronaut

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    It's understandable to feel a bit puzzled about the whole dating scene. Porn can play a role in how we view relationships and intimacy. While it's okay to enjoy some adult content ai sexting, it shouldn't replace the excitement of meeting someone new and building a real connection. Explore new hobbies or activities where you can meet like-minded people. And remember, there's more to a relationship than just physical attraction. It's about finding someone you connect with on a deeper level. Just be yourself, and the right person will come along when the time is right.
     
    Last edited: Jun 15, 2024 at 4:35 AM
  9. UpyetDown

    UpyetDown Fapstronaut

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    With anyone yes, but so has a history of feeling not enough.
     
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