Porn flashbacks, a relapse?

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by John MccRaty, Jan 27, 2017.

  1. John MccRaty

    John MccRaty Fapstronaut

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    So I'm on day 35 of my hard mode reboot, I feel stronger now that I know I can do it, but recently I've been getting porn flashbacks and when I do I can feel my penis grow in size (not to the point of getting an erection cuz I'd always stop it before things go that far).

    Is that a relapse? I mean I get the flashbacks and some urge to "get lost in the porn thoughts and enjoy them" but I always stop it before things go south.
     
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  2. ReturnToGlory

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    I am fairly new at this forum, but my understanding is this:

    You are asking about a reset, not a relapse. A reset is when you break a challenge and start your day count over from the beginning. A relapse is when you have returned to old habits and aren't doing a challenge, or are struggling to even go a few days without fapping.

    If you are asking about a reset, my opinion is that having a mental fantasy or porn flashback is not a reset for hard mode, unless you fap.

    I would add that, having an erection, whether partial or a full boner, is not a reset, either and I don't think it is something that you want to stop from happening, because it is healthy. It's shows that your body is healthy. Just let it happen and let it pass. That's just my opinion: I'm not an expert and not a doctor.
     
  3. bken

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    If the thoughts are spontaneous I wouldn't dwell on it. It would be different if you actively try to seek them out and then feel excited. But still then if you resist them and think nothing of them you have nothing to worry about even if you get an erection. As long as you don't welcome the thoughts you're good.
     
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  4. Your brain is changing, I get the same weird random thoughts, sometimes violent. Makes me go wtf. It's part of it all..if you aren't watching porn or masturbating you are good.

    Imagine a Vietnam war veteran, you can't tell him you arent allowed to have flashbacks either.

    Porn has an impact on us, especially if you are highly sensitive like me. It is a wrong kind of stimulation to have. You need serenity in your brain, no negativity. Who needs porn if you can go out there and seek girls?

    It's best you avoid it forever.
     
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  5. John MccRaty

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    Well, truth is they pop up in my mind when I'm about to sleep, that is, when my "guard is down", and when they first come I do pay attention to them for like 5 or 8 seconds or even less but I immediately shift gears when I realize that my attention to them is becoming deliberate.

    Also, ever since the reboot I can sometimes feel a rush in my penis while smoking (a purely biological rush, no sexual thoughts), sometimes to the point of a near-ejaculation, but again, I always take control and pull the rush back. Is that a restart? I hope not. Also why is this happening? I know that smoking might cause the brain to relax so much that you're (biologically) off your guard and that might produce dopamine, but really? A near ejaculation? Has this happened to any of you before?
     
  6. Nope. Don't smoke either. Sounds weird.
     
  7. John MccRaty

    John MccRaty Fapstronaut

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    Really? I'm already dealing with one kind of withdrawal and now I have to deal with nicotine cravings too? I'm human you know!
     

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