Porn FOMO

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by AnonUserHere, Apr 7, 2016.

  1. AnonUserHere

    AnonUserHere Fapstronaut

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    I don't generally use acronyms like the above however it fits for my current thoughts.

    FOMO - Fear of missing out.

    So out of respect for other Fapstronauts I'll try not to be too descriptive and to provide names and sites.

    As a user of porn in resent months just before NoFap I began using Porn more and more. I would wake up with it, use it during the day and at night again once, sometimes twice. A single type of porn overused would become boring and I'd need to look for other types to stimulate the brain. My favorite was images, because It was fresh, abundant and so easy to obtain. My second favorite was stories, but this was more difficult as finding a story that could stimulate me with it's genres while getting an author that I liked reading from (don't get me started on spelling typos). Then there were videos. Now, just watching some video where it's the same scene as all other videos also gets me bored. So I started finding certain stars that I liked seeing and trying to find more material of them.

    So here's my issue.
    I'd been feeling like there's so many new and exiting images being released and sometimes these can be so tastefully done that I struggle to see it as Porn and it sometimes comes across as art to me.

    I'm also wondering what the stars that I fancy have been up to, what new material they've made and if it's better than previous ones and so on.

    Anyone else feeling this FOMO?
    How do you deal with it?

    Looking forward to hearing your thoughts
     
  2. immanuel.iitd

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  3. kk76

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    Well I relate to fear and FOMO is in all areas of my life. Why do I choose two deserts in a restaurant? Why can I not be happy with what I have? Why isn't just getting some new clothes enough, why does it have to be full outfits?

    So yes I get you and I think it's a fear of not coping and fear of not being able to do it and so it's difficult and I expect to relapse therefore I will do it.

    Seeing that you are gaining and not losing is a good place to start with this. I wish I could do this in a controlled way and in a way that didn't cause problems or was addictive but I can't and I do not want that mess of a life back again.

    If I think about it then I get sentimental and deluded. Oh how I remember that clip I liked and the delusion kicks in I could watch it again harmlessly. The reality is that I can't and it's getting to that point of seeing that
     
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  4. AnonUserHere

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    Thanks for your response!

    You're right when you mention a clip that you liked. I keep thinking of videos, pictures and stories that I have stored that are favorites of mine. So easy to access. So easy to sneak a peak. Just to be sure that my reasons for them being favorites are still valid (or some other excuse I could make up). The only think in between me and that is my progress so far and NoFap.

    Thanks for understanding
     
  5. LimitlessTman

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    I often have the same fear. I enjoyed the content of my favorite Youtubers and it really wasn't distasteful. I just know that I can not succumb to the urge to check out their new content. Even as I type this the thought goes through my head, "It won't hurt to look." It is a lie told by the demon in my head. I am replacing the connection I felt by connecting on NoFap. I am following more people daily. Their content is life giving, the old content I was viewing was life taking. I really feel that the connection here is key and I need the whole village to prop me up.

    WE ARE STRONG TOGETHER

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  6. Thechosenone

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    You're missing out on losing the love of your life, your destiny and your health. That's more important. Who cares about a few pixels of colour on a screen. There is much more important things to be afraid of missing out on...
     
  7. AnonUserHere

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    I understand this feeling. I've also been sucked into youtube channels now and then. Hours can pass by and there's always more links to more vids. It's all types of addiction. I also find myself addicted to tv series. And (as far as I've found) there isn't an online community that talks about it and has people dedicated to helping each other. To find coping mechanisms.

    Thanks for your response
     
  8. AnonUserHere

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    Yes, These things are important, which is why we're all here. To take hold of our destiny and to improve our health (be it physical, metal or sexual).

    We care about the pixels of colour.. that's all porn is.. pixels. And we cared enough to abuse our use of it.

    Thanks for your response
     
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  9. kk76

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    I try and keep my internet use down. Just being on a computer was addictive in itself. I would get up before my wife just to go on it and it would be on all day and I would just find stuff to do.

    Now I go on it for a reason like to download something or sort out my photos but not for no reason bar bkredom
     

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