Porn has caused my relationship to brake down

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Almost lost, Mar 31, 2020.

  1. Almost lost

    Almost lost Fapstronaut

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    I ued to use porn at least 1 mayve twice a day

    This use has wired my brain in such a way that the desire has dropped off my relationship and i may have lost my girlfriend because of this and my lies

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  2. Almost lost

    Almost lost Fapstronaut

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    Back again. I'm still falling into distrucctive cycles.

    Its like I'm on automatic. I have a morbid curiosity about women that I can't shake staring at them all parts of them. Manly new and novel women to me

    This has happened to me while around my current /may be soon to be ex girlfriend
    1 at New years eve I was caught staring at a girl at a party
    2 on the beach in mid June again staring at a woman and her big boobs
    3 in a pub on a night out
    4 the following day
    5 at the beach again
    6 with her new house mate

    All this revolves around New women. None of which I wanted to be physically active with or was really sexually excited about but I couldn't stop staring at the has my brain being conditioned from years of porn to look at women this way

    My current status with porn is NoFap for 4 days a relapse after a good few months.
    I would watch softcore no penatration porn and images almost daily.

    This comes along with a big addiction to technology mainly YouTube which consumes my life and limits my social interaction
     
  3. Almost lost

    Almost lost Fapstronaut

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    Anyone help me with this

    How do I fully retrain my brain
     
  4. Psalm27:1my light

    Psalm27:1my light Fapstronaut

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    You quit looking at porn and masturbating.
     
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  5. Actions. Make actual physical motions towards what you want. When you have these moments of clarity, get as much physically accomplished toward your goal as possible. Literally, make a choice and immediately take action or its going to go limp like a log of throwaway thoughts in your mind. Porn cheapens your thoughts, and in my experience you devalue your own thoughts after you become aware of deviating from your true values. The more you distance from your real ideals and goals, the less you give merit to your choices, thoughts, ideas, and you become a rag doll to outside manipulative forces such as advertisers, porn, your mothers incessant nagging, your boss calling you a bum. Etc.

    Youtube problem? Call your internet provider to block the youtube server (this is possible right?). Porn problem? Have them block adult sites. Get rid of your computer, get a dumb phone, throw the tv or monitor away. What really holds you back from sacraficing these things that are hurting you and sabotaging your goals? How badly do you really want to recover your functioning, your relationship, or your integrity? This is no passive decision to make. You are either serious or not. Treat it like a life of death situation. What will it take??
     
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  6. Almost lost

    Almost lost Fapstronaut

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    Right lads I'm 8 days in no pmo.

    My head is fried I seam to be constantly tired and I've being dreaming of women the last 2 nights.

    Does anyone know what is happening to me.

    Is this normal
     

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