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Porn has made me lose interest in normal women

Discussion in 'Self Improvement' started by Namekian23, Nov 21, 2017.

  1. Namekian23

    Namekian23 Fapstronaut

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    I remember back when I was much younger, talking to females was exciting and meaningful. I didn't know what flirting really was until I reached middle school. However, that was when my porn addiction started as well. And over the years, it has gotten much worse. It's getting to the point where I'm losing interest in women (in the real world) altogether. Not surprisingly, I've never had a girlfriend and have never been on a date. Although there were some cases where I could have had the chance.

    Basically, all this porn use has made my interaction with women become kind of awkward and meaningless. They would genuinely like me as a person, and even attempt to know me more by talking and interacting with me, but in most cases, I would turn them down. Even worse, I would get rejected, and it's happened quite a few times.

    Subconsciously, my sadistic mind is more concentrated in the life of the porn world rather than the real world. Because of this, not only do I have psychological problems with women and porn, but physical problems such as PIED. There are stories about other Fapstronauts talking about breakups, embarrassments, and other problems involving real women. The biggest issue for me is this: It's starting to freak me out! Like seriously!!

    Every day I go to work, come home, and either hang out with my family and friends OR I would fap several times a day. I would lock myself in my room by doing so. I know that women in the real world is much better for me, but in reality, my mind and body is trapped. It's no wonder that I don't know how to effectively interact with females like I used to when I was younger. Not to mention, life is passing me by like sand through an hourglass. There are so many things that I want to do (dating, being in a relationship, getting married, etc.) but I don't know how.
     
  2. noonoon

    noonoon Fapstronaut

    Awareness of the problem is an important first step. You're in good company here at nofap as many of us have had the same experience as you. The good news? The first step is simple. Sober up. The bad news? It's incredibly difficult.
    Start be identifying some goals. Nofap for a week?
     
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  3. Namekian23

    Namekian23 Fapstronaut

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    I haven't done Nofap for a week in a while. I don't know if I can, but I'll try.
     
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  4. Of course you can :). But maybe take it a day at the time, that I think is the wiser approach in the beginning. Then keep coming here, motivating others, reading what other people have experienced and maybe start up a journal? What works for me is exercising, reading and socializing. Keep on going! I believe in you :).
     
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  5. robsonlealtv

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    Man, I have the same problem than you.

    I started watching porn when I was young. Now I am 23 years old and I have never been in a relationship. Actually I kissed just one girl in all my life. Yeh, I know it looks weird, but its the reality. Unfortunately sometimes its difficult for me to feel something for a girl. My mind makes me believe that they should be like the girls on the videos, but they are not!

    Anyways, I would love to stay with you and that we could help each other.

    Where are you from?
    I am from Brazil but I have been living in Australia for almost one year.

    Thanks bro.

    Cheers!
     
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  6. Namekian23

    Namekian23 Fapstronaut

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    Thanks for your support man
     
  7. Namekian23

    Namekian23 Fapstronaut

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    Yeah I hear you man; it really sucks sometimes. I mean, if we didn't had these porn addictions, our relationships with women would be so much better. Don't feel bad that you've only kissed one girl, because some people haven't had a kiss at all...And they are probably worse off than you. Just take it one day at a time. Okay? I find it's best that you focus on yourself and find other things that make you happy besides women, but just for a while. Because when you're happy with yourself, just for a little bit, that's when things start changing for the better. Go find a passion or a hobby or whatever. Besides that, I'm from the United States by the way :)
     
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  8. Jonny Swizurk

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    You have McGregor as your avatar.

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  9. Namekian23

    Namekian23 Fapstronaut

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    Thanks dude. That just made my day! :)
     
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