Porn has permanently destroyed my sex life

Discussion in 'Porn-Induced Sexual Dysfunctions' started by Gavalar09, Jan 16, 2020.

  1. Gavalar09

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    Exactly what in getting.
    It's look like im recovered and then I just crash!
     
  2. TheTimeToChange

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    Okai Man. Your 2 theards just scaring.
    It's okai i don't really wanna blame you for writing down your negative experiences, but please note that this is a forum where you can find every help, and you also get help from others in order to be able to have a normal life.

    First of all, the subject of the theards are also scaring and it would be better if you give detailed information of your current situation, especially if you ask for advise or opinions.
    After like 15 comments in your theard you said you had 20 sex in a month, and you are wondering why you don't have any libido. 20 times is A LOT MAN in a Month. Seriously. Especially if you are on a journey.

    When i saw you had sex 20 times in a month first what came in my mind was : you are may addicted to sex, which is usually comes from perfomance anxiety. You are doing sex a lot to check, if you can, and not by pleasure.
    This feeling is the same when someone is addicted to Masturbation more than porn (me).
    I've noticed i'm also doing MO, because of performance anxiety, caused by the millions of porn i watched
    I think you need a Hard Mode Nofap process (No sex, no PMO, No MO), for atleast 90 days (as the basic).

    Some questions for better understanind:
    1) You said you replased to porn and everything began again (ED, etc).
    What do you mean under relapse ? How much porn you watched for how many days ?

    2) If I pair your previous theard and this one, where you said you had sex 20 times and then relapse, if i were you i may wouldn't be shocked, if my libido is gone and you can't get hard. You are exhaused for sure.
    What caused you have sex that much? What you felt inside? (thoughts etc.)

    3) Is your brain porn free ? I mean daily basis ? Do you think of sex a lot ?

    This forum and the main website is here for you man. We all are in the same boat as you. Let us help.
    Don't worry. For sure everything will be fine, you may just didn't notice something, and you may never recovered totally.
     
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  3. LetsGetThroughThis

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    Yeah man, very crappy. Luckily I woke up with some libido and morning wood yesterday, but once again its gone. This whole process is extremely frustrating.
     
  4. Gavalar09

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    It's very confusing to say the least! Over a month now and nothing really is turning around. Ive not seen morning wood for a month.
     
  5. Ashar1997

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    From 14 (2011) year a occasional fapper with TV content

    And from 2014 fapping with porn
    From last 4 month a heavy fapper till 15 Dec 2019
    From 16 Dec my dick even not get singal erection
    today till my nofap 52 day a not get even a single erection

    Please help me bro

    All day susidal thought
    Feeling energetic
    No sleep issue
    Not interested to talk to anyone
    Get irritated to anyone who talk to me
    Dick even not getting for urine pressure


    Please help me bro.
     
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  6. RealPurpleBelt

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    Keep your head up brother. The fact that you are here means you are winning the war. You may want to go talk to a doctor, there might be an incontinence issue, or a problem with your pelvic floor that physical therapy can help. I have a very close friend who is a physical therapist specializing in reproductive issues. This is more common than you may think. Also, cutting out alcohol, eating a ton of meat, and working out may help your libido and reproductive system health. I know it's not the answer you might be looking for, but I hope it gives you something to consider.
     
  7. Ashar1997

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    Should I have to go to meet a doctor
     
  8. Zimzi

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    You’re 16 days in. Flat line is usually 2 weeks in don’t worry.
     
  9. Nucleus

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    There’s a YouTube channel called “virility training” that’s all about recovery from the various causes of impotence. NoFap is one thing he mentions but he also goes into diet and exercise. You might want to supplement your NoFap with the training offered by the presenter.
     
  10. Username321

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    It might be you lost your chi or sexual energy after ejaculation. My best suggestion would be not to force yourself to orgasm when with or without a partner. In other words, try to have sex without the goal of orgasm. Sure you can please your partner and also explain to them what you are doing so they don't get all hung up on getting you off.

    About 6 years ago I stopped pmo without knowing about nofap. It just sort of happened for me organically. I was studying Taoist sex and de. I had a partner for about 6 months. We would have crazy swinging from the chandeliers sex all weekend long. I wouldn't ejaculate for 2 weeks. It was a phenomenal feeling! I had SO MUCH ENERGY!

    I split with that woman and then didn't date at all for the next 3 years and PMO'ed every day. I'm fucked!

    I had a 120 day streak and then broke it with my imagination, many times a day for 3 days. Then I took a break had shitty sex, semi hard sex with a woman. Didn't ejaculate and then pmo'ed and I'm back in flatline, d shrinkage etc etc. Ugh!!!

    I am pretty convinced that ejaculating a lot is wearing me down.

    Study Karezza and Taoist sexual ways. You might find some answers.

    Also to all memebers, you really owe it to yourself to watch Heal on Netflix. My summation, your mind is a very powerful tool! Use it to heal yourself! ;)
     
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    How many times did you ejaculate with her and over what period of time?
     
  12. Username321

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    An alternative, there are many books on this and yes it works. ;) After reading this thread, I think the commonality is that each of you has ejaculated. I think only once would have been fine. But I think many times can be depleting and cause us to go into flatline. Again, check out Karezza and Taoist sex. See below link for an alternative way.

    https://www.nateliason.com/blog/multiple-orgasms-men

    https://www.tantraconnection.se/artiklar/man-ejakulationer

    https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01N75RX66/ref=dp-kindle-redirect?_encoding=UTF8&btkr=1

    https://consciouslifenews.com/pract...taoist-secret-higher-consciousness/11133410/#

    https://www.amazon.com/Multi-Orgasmic-Man-Sexual-Secrets-Should-ebook/dp/B000FC12XM

    Just found this from another post.

    "I should clarify and state it was no porn or no masturbation to porn, I did masturbate to touch sensation only, I did have a release on day 20, then day 60, day 80, day 81, day 82, day 83. then nothing until day 100. all my releases were masturbation with light grip to sensation only, no porn, no thoughts of porn, just touch and maybe a few thoughts of vanilla if anything. when I masturbated 4 days in a row I then went into a flatline so masturbation should only be once I guess and spaced out quite well, be careful."
     
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  13. Alex__13

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    Orgasm is the key believe me. That's what happened to everyone. In the ancient world they explained this through a decrease in sexual energy ... read about tantra, Karezza sex etc they knew something .... more likely that during the orgasm something occurs ... hormone.. enzyme ... I can not say what blocks the connection between the brain and the dick. Its level increases with each ejaculation and orgasm reaches a level where even uncontrolled, morning and spontaneous erections disappear for weaks or months ... no connection with sex or porn or different fetishes ...
    Those are just the reasons why you have so many orgasms, but they are not the fault of the ed.
    Or may be related to dopamine which is completely depleted when orgasmed ....Something is happening
    I cannot give this phenomenon another explanation.
     
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    Na, the body is a miraculous organism! Yes, with a negative mind you are fucked. But if you believe you can heal, you will! ;)

    If people can heal from cancer, I think pied is curable too. It's all in the attitude.
     
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    I pmo'ed every day 3 - 5 times a day on and off for over 22 years. The last 3 was without a partner and that's where I missed the boat. The mind and body are amazing at healing. You just gotta believe!

    I personally think it's an ejaculation issue. Simply approach sex in a different way. I know to a Western mind this sounds crazy. But you can actually have an amazing time NOT ejaculating. If interested just do some reading of the links I supplied above. I can tell you from experience that ejaculating IS NOT as pleasurable as the methods mentioned in the links above. Plus you become a rock star to your lover. ;)
     
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    https://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/3iu9sy/terrible_flat_line_after_sex/

    Terrible flat line after sex

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    Trying to keep this concise. I quit PMO on Memorial Day after stumbling across the YBOP TED talk. My wife and I were going through a rough time and basically split up but still living together. The first 75 days were Hard Mode but I didn't find it that bad. I had lots of energy, looked at women differently, had a huge increase in confidence, and never even considered porn.

    About 45 days ago, my marriage started to get better. Every time we do have sex now, I get a terrible flatline hangover for 5-10 days. We did it last Sat night and I was exhausted Mon - Thurs... depressed, irritable, and ZERO libido. Even today, a week later, I still have no sex drive.

    This is causing a huge problem with my marriage. I'm not showing my wife any attraction because it's not there for days at a time. She hates being around me when I go through these depressed days. I miss those days of feeling the "Superpowers".

    So what should I do? At this point, I have a feeling something is messed up physically like low testosterone. Or am I rushing into things? I did go about 75 days with zero orgasm and I'm only on day 97 with no porn. Is this part of the reboot process or could the brain be going through some re-adjustment period after reintroducing orgasm?

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    Try this approach to sex for a while: http://yourbrainonporn.com/lovers-ultimate-sex-hack-karezza

    It sidesteps that "hangover." Many guys find it very helpful while their brains are still returning to balance: http://www.reuniting.info/karezza_porn_addicts

    Meanwhile, even when you don't feel up to sex, find a way to engage in a few moments of affectionate exchange. It'll keep her happy and help heal your hangover: http://www.yourbrainonporn.com/the-lazy-way-to-stay-in-love

    This might be of interest too: http://www.yourbrainonporn.com/men-does-frequent-ejaculation-cause-hangover
     
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  18. Okoto

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    i had a similar experience, somewhere last year i was 60 days PMO free, i was able to sustain erection for the first time and enjoyed sex. I relapse to porn and MO for only three days. since January 17 this year, I started nofap again. I had dead dick syndrome till only February 19. Now i see only a little improvement, morning wood is like 10% full, no erection with ladies, i get horny but no erection. I think it will get better. You are only 16 days, dont give up yet. I have given myself another 90 days. NO PMO.
     
  19. Okoto

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    Waaoowww.... I've seen my problem" compulsively thinking sexual thought. " Thanks man. I'm conciously going to stop this
     
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    FoamRoller can you please define the difference?
     

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