porn induced taste or is it just who I am, Trigger warning, need help

It could be porn induced but I am no expert. Was it like this before the femdom stuff?
I do not even know what it is so no triggering for me.

 

Hey! I could relate a lot to what you’re mentioning in your post. Relapsing from stress, not eating enough, and trying to get your SO out of their comfort zone are things I’ve had to deal with as well.

I can’t really say for certain if that is something curable or not. If you think the interest is only from viewing P, my best guess is as you go through rebooting those particular urges should fade away over time.

In my opinion, there’s nothing wrong with liking femdom and practicing it with your SO. If it’s something you want to phase out of your life though, I say go for it and see how things go. Best of luck to you

 

That’s really hard to say. I think that’s something that you can only discover yourself with time and introspection. For the moment, I would suggest focusing on recovery and see where that leads you.

 

I guess its different for me I had a strong female figures in my life and an abusive Aunt and none of this rings true for me.
I was also abused by some others but I never adopted that particular behaviour. That topic is for another time.

I am interested in figuring out why this occurred with you.
I am not going to be sexiest and say that woman are not bright and some can be real strong. I would love to wrestle with a strong woman. LOL.
Men aren't that much smarter or powerful as you put it.

 

There is a really good part of the book "Your brain on porn", where the author talks about a study once made, where researchers gradually made rats turn on to the smell of a dead rat, by spraying this scent on the rats sexual partners. This is normally a smell that rats despise, and won't go near, but in the end of the study when presenting the rats with the opportunity of a normal smelling partner, or one that smelled like death, the rats chose the latter, and they even got turned on just by the smell of death...
This just shows how much your brain can change, from how it was meant to work!
And the theory is, that it should turn back to normal with time.

Best of luck!

 

Like any long-term porn addict will tell you, PMO tends to make your kinks more extreme. It's like drugs in that way -- you always need a bigger dose. The good news is that (at least from my experience) if you can stay away from PMO for a significant time, all these weird fetishes and extreme porn will interest you less and less.

 

Pretty easy: Do a clean reboot. Don't watch ANY porn for 90 days. Not even for a second.

If you still have that fetish, it's probably NOT porn-induced but would have been your preference anyway.

But here's the thing: IF your gf is enjoying it, too, there's no reason to "cure" yourself. If that's your kink and what makes you happy, by all means, live a fulfilled sex life without being ashamed of it!
The only thing you need to cure is your porn addiction.

 

Being stronger physically can not be your only measurement of strength.
Intellectual strength.
If you are talking about biology why is that men mature at the age of 40 and woman probably in their 20s or younger.

And woman genetically have stronger immune systems than men and woman are more resillent in other areas of biology and the majority of women out live men.
To me that does not sound like males being superior.

Their are more inventers and other men in academia because in history woman where not aloud to read or have an education.
Men. Yes, stupid Men refused them education and woman are still refused the same pay in identical job roles.

If these Men were not so insecure and perfectic they would not have blocked woman because of their ridiclious notion ego. Woman have gone along with men thinking they are superior for decades.

A truth you need to know.
Unlike men even if a woman is superior to a man she will have the modesty and reservation to not hold it over that man as men do.
History again.
Men go to war(If you still think men superior why did these unintelligent men. Yes, men go to war to be killed).

Another one.
I would love to see a man single handley raise many children at one time and still have a job and maybe education and be a amazing parent and if you look at the woman who does this. It seems effortless but if you ask a man to try.(The list of inadeqcies and issues are long).

Another one. Why woman gentically more successful at academic studies.
It the way they are created to be serious, focused, humble to not overstep their own intellect.

I am a man but not a stupid man.
You still want to talk about physical strength go and look some pictures of female bodybuilders. Strength case closed.

 

This is spot-on. If you enjoy it in a healthy and consenting relationship, then there is absolutely nothing wrong with it. Quit the porn, and you may find the fetish goes away, but if it doesn't, then what's the harm in incorporating it into your sex life? The important thing is that you are doing it with an actual person who wants to have sex with you rather than sitting alone in a dark room infront of a screen for hours on end - that's what messes you up - that's where the shame and regret comes from.

In terms of wether or not it's 'really you' or just porn induced . . . it's probably a bit of both. You likely already had something in your psyche that made you lean towards this genre . . . but the porn is almost certainly what turned that little inclination into a fully blown fetish. Personally, I've found my unwanted TS fetish subside with long streaks of no porn - maybe it will be the same for you. But if not, don't feel bad about it, just keep enjoying the benefits of not watching porn while being greatful that you have a GF who is happy to participate in something that you like.