Porn is ruining my sexual life (In a relationship)

Tan Korrey · Jul 15, 2022

Hi good people,
I have been watching P and M since I was 10 years old and today I am 28 yo.
I was always M non-stop, but it took me a long long time to even understand its an issue that is blocking me from reaching my highest potential.
I'm in a loving relationship for the past 2.5 years, and I fall back to watching P every second week I would say.
When I don't watch it and M my life is amazing, I have tons of energy and just an awesome feeling of pure happiness in my life, and of course my sex life is decent.
Because I feel great I allow myself to follow my cravings every now and then, and thats when everything goes to sh*t.
I can't just watch P once every few days, if I watched it once I'll watch again 3-4 maybe more times that day and for the following week, I lose so attraction to my girlfriend which terminates our sex life and I JUST FEEL SAD all week long.

Wish me luck on my journey to quit P & M entirely (Its now my 4th day without it), and of course I would love to hear some advice or comments from you!

BlueVest73 · Jul 18, 2022

I thought I made this post, it’s very accurate to what I have been through.

The cravings got me and I watched 2-3 times a day, and asked to have sex almost every night. After 6-7 nights, I gave up and explained that I wasn’t happy with the relationship since we rarely had sex.

I also started losing attraction to her because of porn so we are on the same page.

I made her insecure because she couldn’t turn on (perhaps because of my poor skills and lack of understanding); and the insecurity grew. After some while, I explained that not having sex is a deal breaker and I felt horny almost everyday.

I broke her heart, and regret having that talk that day. I mentioned the things above and made her more insecure. She wanted some time off, and we got back together after a few days; however it was never the same.

After 2 weeks (recent days), she said she wants more time off which is understandable. Possibly, I gave her traumas and I don’t want to manipulate her. She can make her own decisions about the relationship but I said no matter the outcome, I will support her. She also mentioned she loves me, but I am on day 12 and I feel like I am a decent human being who has a normal libido.

It just took much time and a half a heart for me to figure out what the problem was. I feel very bad, and wish I never started watching porn.

I am on day 12 and feel very attracted to my cute girlfriend. After day 6 where immense sexual urge was built, everyday is getting better (apart from the break).

I started reading books everyday (Your Brain on Porn, Controlling People) instead of watching porn and learned a lot of things. I wish I stopped wanking to porn and read the books way earlier in the relationship. I am scared to lose my first love…

Tan Korrey · Jul 18, 2022

BlueVest73 said: ↑

I thought I made this post, it’s very accurate to what I have been through.

The cravings got me and I watched 2-3 times a day, and asked to have sex almost every night. After 6-7 nights, I gave up and explained that I wasn’t happy with the relationship since we rarely had sex.

I also started losing attraction to her because of porn so we are on the same page.

I made her insecure because she couldn’t turn on (perhaps because of my poor skills and lack of understanding); and the insecurity grew. After some while, I explained that not having sex is a deal breaker and I felt horny almost everyday.

I broke her heart, and regret having that talk that day. I mentioned the things above and made her more insecure. She wanted some time off, and we got back together after a few days; however it was never the same.

After 2 weeks (recent days), she said she wants more time off which is understandable. Possibly, I gave her traumas and I don’t want to manipulate her. She can make her own decisions about the relationship but I said no matter the outcome, I will support her. She also mentioned she loves me, but I am on day 12 and I feel like I am a decent human being who has a normal libido.

It just took much time and a half a heart for me to figure out what the problem was. I feel very bad, and wish I never started watching porn.

I am on day 12 and feel very attracted to my cute girlfriend. After day 6 where immense sexual urge was built, everyday is getting better (apart from the break).

I started reading books everyday (Your Brain on Porn, Controlling People) instead of watching porn and learned a lot of things. I wish I stopped wanking to porn and read the books way earlier in the relationship. I am scared to lose my first love…
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Hey there, thanks for sharing!

I did something two days ago, that I didn't think I would do in a million years -
I told my girlfriend about the whole thing! How I watched P as a teenager to cope with anxiety, how every now and then I fall back, how it makes me feel, and that I'm now making an effort to quit in order to live the best life I can.

She responded with full understanding, full compassion, and zero judgment.
Besides it helping me commit even more to the process, it reduced my feelings of guilt and really made me feel free cause I wasn't hiding it from her anymore.

I love the way you don't put any pressure on her, and I'm sure things will work out the way they should for you, stay strong and keep on going, you're on the right path!

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