Porn is Visual Meth - Escalators take not.

I posted this in response to another thread. It's how I feel about my issues around porn having also used drugs in the past. (5+ years free now).

You are not having a sexual identity problem you are having an addiction problem. You became addicted to the dopamine straight porn gave you.

At some point, that straight porn wasn't delivering the dopamine hit anymore. So you started looking and stuff that would have horrified you before to find the same hit. It's a combination of excitement and the forbidden that triggers the dopamine to light up again once more.

And so the process continues you get further and further into the abyss of escalation. It's like a drug addict.

1. 1st he tries meth and gets a good hit and can control it
2. He continues to use until with "diminishing" returns.
3. He ups the ante in frequency and dose to find that euphoria from the first hit.
4. Finally, he's injecting meth daily and has completely fucked up his life.

The porn is the meth pipe that delivers the drug (dopamine). Smash the pipe, stop delivering the drug and you will overcome this. It's really that simple IMO.

TLR - Like any addiction, starve it and it will cease to exist.