Porn ruined everything

Discussion in 'Problematic Sexual Behavior' started by Demonic 777, Aug 31, 2020.

  1. Demonic 777

    Demonic 777 Fapstronaut

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    Im suffering from severe brain fog 4 years now. Deep thinking is severely damaged, my brain is too exhausted to think and rationalize various situations.

    I've lost any sense of ephoria, I'm 24/7 more or less into an anhedonic state. 4 years ago, even thinking of having a gf gave me butterflies in the stomach, now even hugging and kissing with my gf doesnt feel that good.

    My apetite for life and sense of adventure have completely gone. I have forgotten how it is to wake up in the morning and feel enthusiastic about studying or work on a project, or doing something creative or making plans for the future.

    Everything now feels scary or indifferent at the best. It is a struggle just to go on with everyday activities.

    I get hit with panic attacks and derealization episodes, not to mention i feel melancholic and fatigued all day for no reason at all. My life seems pointless with my brain being at this state.

    The only thing that gives me hope is that when I went 14 days into nofap, no pmo, no internet recreational use, i saw a small but noticable improvement in the above symptoms. I imagine that if that went for much longer, I would see bigger improvements, or at least i hope so. I think I'll might have to go 6-9 months no pmo as it is suggested for severe cases like mine. It is had as hell, but my motive is huge.

    If anyone has or had any similar experience, I would more than appreciate their insight on the issue.
     
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  2. My advice here is two-fold:

    1. Don't worry about how long this takes - maybe it'll be I've quick, maybe longer. It all depends you, the length of the porn use, how heavy you used, etc. But don't worry about how long it's going to take our house l you've been sober - quality of sobriety I'd more important than a number, and in terms of timescales I can tell you now for long it'll take, and it's the same for all of us - as long as it takes.
    2. Don't set yourself a deadline - if I'm strong I apologise, but it sounds like you're staying that after X period of time, you might be able to do whatever again. In my experience this is a massively detective attitude - it might keep the addiction dormant but it won't beat it; it might reduce the worst excesses but it means you're still essentially using a gateway drug. I'd advise that you aim not to go back to anything - it's what's worked for me.
     
  3. Di.Do.555

    Di.Do.555 Fapstronaut

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    Totally normal.
    You have conditioned yourself to only respond to high stimulus, anything below won't give u any pleasure.
    The brain is highly elastic, so with enough time and patience everything could be reversed/ reset.
    Don't lose hope.
    Let it take a year or two. Believe me it is worth it.
     
  4. Little Prince

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    I used to be much worse than you. Even now I have all the symptoms you wrote except I never been with a woman...
    It gets better but you need to stop watching P forever really.
    I used to be better, I started learning so I can have a career, things seemed fine and I thought what harm could some P do now if I'm fine? Well, send me back to how I've been before the previous no PMO...
    I don't even remember what enthusiasm is, I have no hobbies, I'm not interested in anything, I had a week off from work, I wrote a list of things to do and barely did 3 of them today only because it's the end of the week so I thought I'd at least to something.
    Quit P forever and don't stress about how long it takes until you're fine. It gets better.
     

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