Porn tricks you into liking unhealthy things

I know exactly what you mean. With some fetishes, it's even more insidious, because the problem sits with your own brain rather than the porn. Some things would destroy you as an individual. If they are so worrisome and you are adequately afraid of them, your brain can twist it into a fetish as a way of softening the blow of such a thing potentially happening. I believe most humiliation/masochism is derived from this little trick of the mind.

Porn does the heavy lifting for a lot of things the brain lays the groundwork for. Never forget that it is your brain which torments and tricks you; porn is simply an instrument toward that end.

I have been fortunate enough that I have not tried and do not intend to try the things that I have been inundated into fetishizing. I am sorry to hear you have gone that far. DM me if ever you would like to discuss it, brother.

 

Good way to look at it, what is it that you tried? These days, I think it's important to have a healthy amount of shame regarding this topic since you consciously know its awful for you.

 

Definitely can see how some of the roads I’ve gone down porn wise have been absolutely repulsive. Things I would never want to happen in real life nor would I ever participate in them. But then why do I look at those things acted out in porn if I find the idea abhorrent? Because porn has wrecked my brain and I want to get a bigger high. That’s why I need to reboot and rewire my brain.

 

Hey there,
I feel like that too mate!!
It is not new but after I relapse I feel like I am a looser!! I feel like I did something which I knew was wrong but did it. This is worst part after a relapse.
I am now trying to avoid that just as you said. I would become mindful of those urges when it comes and I think of something else that can be even more emotionally depressing(like if I relase it would affect my studies etc) and this helps. Along with that I will develop good habits to give myself a gist of what my life would be if I continued developing good habits!!
I hope the best for you mate!!!
Happy journey!!!
Cheers

 

i agree with you a 100% Porn makes us go after stuff we would not go.....like i don't wanna name those P categories....but u get the idea. you are not alone.

There's a cure for this.......it is to stay the fuck away from Porn. And do healthy stuff like Working out & meditation...

 

So true... the separation between the values I try to espouse and the depraved porn I watch leads to so much inner turmoil.

 

Porn is extremely damaging but pretends it is not therefore making it even more damaging. Normalisation of porn is the worst thing that has happened to society.

 

Im straight as an arrow, but over years of watching extreme porn videos like ga*gb**gs and all that stuff where the ratio is 1:10+ girl/guy, i have unfortunately wired my brain to respond when it sees a dick in porn. And that really fucking sucks, cos I know how disgusting that is for me and I know that the shit my addiction is trying to tell me i should act on will never bring me pleasure, will bring me an eternity of mental torture and will pretty much kill the real me. But I believe ive figured out why i respond to this stuff. Years and years of watching those specific videos has conditioned me to respond to everything on the screen. And in those videos you see a girl and a bunch of d**ks. So unfortunately, my brain conditioned its reward circuit to respond to all that shit. When i see a naked guy I feel repulsed. But when its just the d**k, despite feeling disgust, my addiction sparks up and anticipates further reinforcement. Unfortunately I just figured this out now after a relapse after 70 days. Every day during that streak i was playing those scenarios in my head to make sure i wasn't responsive to them. It was until i relapsed that i realised how counterproductive that was as it just kept the spike around longer. This streak i will get it right and eradicate this artificial and destructive conditioning for good!

 

That it does that it does ,

 

I think this is why some guys watch transwoman, your not necessarily aroused by the dick but if there's a women's face involved oddly all those ques are still there but it's a nymoho women not natural but different , it takes a lot of escalation to get to that point , I fucking hate it that I watch it , I really need to do a proper reboot of at least 90 days, heads always in a fog after I see that shit , in all honesty it's torture , to have gotten your brain so desensitized that you need to stop for a long period of time to normalise but yet you use porn as an escape , you watch porn to relax etc but it only brings you more strain, especially that shit . Scientists say straight men are the ones who watch it and when we see a women near a dick we get aroused because if some primal shit, you have to get hard or harder to be more sexually aggressive . When I see a dick on a male, or even in straight porn im not aroused by it I'm turned on by the girl , when I watch transwoman stuff my brain is in a state of confusion it doesn't know wether to be turned on or turned off , but here I am because if desensitization watching this fuckin shit

 

Its a real shame that this escalating addiction has no regard for real life consequences. It just wants its fix in sickening ways. The fact that i know that these scenarios would never provide me with actual sexual pleasure and would induce lifelong feelings of inferiority and mental tortue, on top of the fact that I would never want to do that shit has made me never do that stuff in real life, thankfully. If i never found nofap, im scared that I would have allowed my brin to hijack me. Relapsing to this crap makes me feel disgusted by at least i didnt do it in real life. But I know that if i stop reinforcing it, it will die.

 

Porn is a drug. All drug addicts eventually need more of their drug of choice to get high. The “more” in porn is all of the disgusting genres and sub genres. I have found myself getting “high” on some genre and starting to masturbate and realizing I can’t actually get off to the genre because my real self wakes up and says we cannot orgasm to this it’s disgusting. It’s very disconcerting. And disheartening.

 

Happened to me, some people dont get why my genre of addiction (Anime Porn) is so tough for me, but thats case they experienced a different Porn genre.

 

Ok retrying Nofap seriously by 4th time, saw some Thinking ape vids, I think it'll be helpful but we'll see.

You gotta rationalize a female and shutdown the lizard brain.