Hi all, I just came across this TED talk that I found very inspirative and true. Just want to share with you.
The need for approval as he states, like everything, is born from the original addiction of self-chershing. That is the petri dish for literally every problem that man has ever faced to grow out of.
Of course it's not. Every addiction has a deep sitting problem. A problem so deeply rooted you don't even know it most of the time. Maybe ur just disappointed with life or how things going or maybe you're in an unhealthy relationship or u do the wrong job. Or maybe you had a bad childhood or traumatic experiences in ur childhood (which is probably the main cause for an addiction. Whatever it may is it takes some hard work and deep reflection to bring that shit to the surface. Only thing that can help is to look deeply inside yourself and answer yourself the right questions. And writing shit down. Start a fucking journal, that's some really good help.
Truth. PMO was a symptom and manifestation of a deeper, underlying issue, or series of issues. In abuse cases, that acute feeling of not just self-cherishing, but self-preservation can show itself in this unhealthy PMO fixation.
Yes, that's exactly my point. I do no think I connot cope with the rejection, but I somewhat understand the (different) roots of my PA. (Anyaway, I would guess fear from rejection is not the primary problem either).
As a Christian, I believe that the deepest root of all problems lies in the lack of Love, including the Love we owe to our-selfs. (Then, I believe, that this can be healed through a vital relationship with other people, Jesus and God). This is in its deepest sense contradicting the Buddhist concept of overcoming self-cherishing, as far as I understand it. I do not like, the less intend, to rise religious disputation on internet forums. Just adding another piece to the mosaic of various views as a reply to the above post.
Perhaps this might be curiously of assistance I'm copying and pasting the address bar, usually at the top of the screen, above the video when it loads. I was surprised when it just rendered it as an embed, instead of a link.
