Positive/negative effects of semen retention in a marriage

Discussion in 'Abstinence, Retention, and Sexual Transmutation' started by Barnabas_, May 29, 2019.

  1. Barnabas_

    Barnabas_ Fapstronaut

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    Hi,

    Semen retention is something new to me (first time I read about it here in January this year), I am learning about this, from this website too, for example:


    During this 4 month and a half without P and M, I had orgasm/sex with m wife only a few times. So for example after abstaining from orgasm for the last 1,5 month two days ago we had sex and I felt awful emotionally a day after: fearful again, anxious, irritated, sad. Bad sympoms I didn't have for weeks.

    At the same time sex is important part of the marriage. So I am a bit confused with this issue as this physical closeness is important for my wife and me too.

    What is your experience of that? Especially these of you who are in a marriage?
     
  2. wwtl

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    As a recovering porn addict O is tainted for you forever, just as social drinking is for a dry alcoholic.

    Avoid O on your own side and you keep the benefits. A marriage with children should still work without the man Oing on a regular schedule.
     
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  3. Barnabas_

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    Thanks for you post bro.

    I am more and more aware of it. Yes, we have children.
     
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  4. Barnabas_

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    Started semen retention challenge again.

    Today day 7.

    Tried this in the past, maximum was able to do this for two months (without orgasm in a marriage).

    Now will try to do it longer.
     
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  5. bikinhappy

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    I am in day 13 now, married with 2 children.
    Just to learn about Tantra / Transmutation and how it will contribute to higher me.
    I think the best way is to educate ourselves about it.
     
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  6. mccormick

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    I'm working on this myself. While I'm not against having an orgasm with my wife, the biggest danger to me is the "chaser effect" and relapse with masturbation.
     
  7. Barnabas_

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    Yes, one of the reasons for me is also avoiding chaser effect. But the main one is experiencing effects of semen retention. So from 27 May I switched to hard mode.
     
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  8. mccormick

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    Do you have any other videos/sites to recommend for that?
     
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  9. EXPONENTIALLY

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    Karezza, read Cupid's Poison Arrows by Marnia Robinson with your spouse. Should be fixed.
     
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  10. Barnabas_

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    You may find also something about it in this link (especially what boxer David Haye says):


    Day 14 without orgasm.
     
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  11. Barnabas_

    Barnabas_ Fapstronaut

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    Semen retention: day 22.
     
  12. Targaryenn

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    What benefits do you feel after this days, man?
    Thanks.
     
  13. Barnabas_

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    More confidence & more energy, less fear/anxiety.
    No negative impact on a marriage so far.

    Last time I had ejaculation, it was on 27th May (it was after around 45 days without orgasm at this time) I felt sad/depressed/drained from energy and fearful for a few days.


    I am learing about karezza also.
     
    Last edited: Jun 18, 2019
  14. Pepezapallito

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    Recomiendo leer el libro "la pareja multiorgasmica"
    Yo tengo 29 sin O y tengo sexo habitualmente.
    Se puede tener sexo sin O.

    Zapa
     
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  15. Barnabas_

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    Semen retention: day 32.

    Learning to have sex with my wife without orgasm. This is new experience in our marriage, my wife does not fully understand this issue/importance of me not ejaculating but we are having progress on that.
     
  16. Pepezapallito

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    hola compa
    yo les comento que llegue al desafio 90 dias. tambien llegue al dia 40 sin eyacular. tengo un mejor nivel de sexo con mi esposa. ella no sabe nada de esto.

    zapa
     
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  17. Boanerges777

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    Have sex without O with your wife there’s books on it
     
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  18. Barnabas_

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    Semen retention: day 45 (so far 45 days was my longest streak in the past, from March this year to the middle of April).

    Benefits so far:
    - more energy
    - being more firm/decisive/assertive
    - need less time for sleep
    - being able to control better emotions like anger.
     
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  19. Targaryenn

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    Great job, man.
    Congratulations. You are strong!!

    Please update this page, I follow this and when you you can, write here some advices.

    I have a little question for you: how much hours you sleep at night now and in the past how much time you need to sleep to feel good?
     
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  20. DieselGuy2915

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    I am somewhere in the neighborhood of 50 days retention, married with kids. We haven't tried anything yet. Going for 60 days atleast before we try. Possibly 90. Gonna try with the O first. If it causes problems, then I will do another 90 and try without the O. But in the mean time, I will be reading up on karezza and tantra. During my time with PMO, early ejaculation was my issue, and it only got worse with time. So here's hoping that issue is resolved or getting better with the retention.
     
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