(Possible trigger) Intervention needed: I'm hooked on findom and camsites

Yep, been there many times myself too. Never got heavily in to putting money on it but I can relate.

Again, absolutely relate to you here too. It's like the recognition of you being there is the hit.

My own experience... close the accounts, right now. Block the sites. Do everything you can to put enough in the way of going back there, so that when the urge hits and the willpower fails there's points to slow you down and give you a chance to step in and stop.

And then, start asking WHY you're on these sites. What are you missing in real life that you're feeding here.

 

FIRST STEP: Realize it is a BUSINESS transaction. The providers goal is to seperate you from your money.
Longer term interactions, over weeks and months, may provide an ILLUSION of apparent closeness and emotional intimacy...but 99.5% of the time (or more) it is just that --- an illusion.
Your provider likely has a life, an in-the-flesh real boyfriend or three, and an entire world that does not include you. It includes your cash flow, but highly unlikely you are not thought about.
It is easy to say "Just Stop". For some it is near impossible to do.
My friend @TGAguy has wrestled with a distant variation of this ...and has some good viewpoints...maybe you should reach out to him.
Good luck here. Welcome to NoFap.

 

Thanks @Tiny Brat .

@ExtinctionBurst — the rush from spending money on a woman can be incredible. I am addicted to a camera model and had thrown money at her when it was totally unnecessary, in addition to paying for hours of private chats. I’ve spent the last year getting farther and farther away. But it is a process that takes time and effort and tears to work through.

Take it one day at a time.

 

Think to yourself why would you want to spend that kind of money on a prostitute. You could take a real girl out on a whole weekend with this kind of money and I'm sure she would appreciate it way more.

 

Also if you are in a situation like this, just try to nut asap. I know it's against most of Fapstronaut but you already relapsed when you are on these kind of sites. Just nut and be done with it.

 

Hi amigo,
Toxic stuff you are in.
Thanks for sharing your story. That is always the first step towards freedom.
I've found out how the mechanism of findom works. It's really evil stuff. But at the other hand, it's "just" another form of pornography, a way to stimulate arousal.

I wrote an article about findom in my journal.
Once you understand the mechanism, it will become far more easy to say no to this shit.

Also check out my articles about femdom, because findom is just another kind of femdom (female domination).

 

Make the promise to yourself to avoid this for a given time(1,2 weeks)and then donate to equivalent money you would-have used. donate directly unto the hands of beggars,bestow alms upon them. food, shaving equipment, nail clippers, anything,give to the homeless or beggars.
do this,you will realize the spiritual truth about Money and cure yourself sexually also.

 

Thats exactly why I am here. The cam sites that is. Don't feel bad im at about 10000 in the hole right now. I think what gets me is how you can control them and they do as you say. That gets me even more than getting off to them.

 

The cam girls will always be nice and communicate with you. They want people in their room. The more people the better. Eventually, they know you are there for virtual sex. They all have lives and boyfriends. In the countries like Colombia and Romania this is an accepted business. They do NOT care about you. They want your money or to use you if they are bored. Trust me. I spent hours and hours talking to cam girls. I thought they were interested in my live. They are not. They want your money. Anything you ask them for has a price. They are there to perform sexual acts and get paid.

 

Been there, think I've rid myself from it for good though now. I had to repent and ask God for help though. On a practical level just add other activities into your life and it will help too. Some go to the gym, some read.

literally anything else is better than fapping lol.

 

hey OP, how is your journey battle going?
What camsitequitter said is true, in ravaged countries like colombia(which had\has?) a long civil war, "trades" such as webcam proliferate like the plague.
That means there is a connotation of Exploitative to it! we would be taking advantage of a victim!

 

The solution is taking prescribed pills. Nothing else would work in my opinion.

 

What kind of pills. I will do anything to get rid of findom

 

Donate the equivalent money if findom spending, dont be greedy+selfish+lustful. if your currency is the US dollar(I dont know) you are blessed in the nations of the earth,so you also contracted a grave responsibility to be an appropiate steward.
take heed! take the reins! The solution is nigh,trust in this fact.

 

You know even when you quit yes it will still be at the back of your mind but as the days and weeks go by it will start to fade as you start to heal. Porn is draining your finances, health and self esteem, so Nofap is the only and last option. And from someone who was in a similar situation to you on!y two and a half months ago life is so much better for me and I know it will be better for you aswell but is down to you to take the action.

 

There are some good suggestions here. I have deleted my accounts and installed a website blocker that I cannot easily unblock. A further thing to consider is putting your savings into something non liquid, like a pension or property, so that the money is not easily available. I've done this and it makes me feel 'poor' because I don't have the spare cash sitting in a bank account and therefore contains my spending. The added benefit is that money in property or a pension is usually a better investment then it sitting in a bank.

 

I'm sorry that you are suffering from this addiction. I really hope you aren't in any financial issue yet.