Pre maid marriages/Same culture dating?

I know that here in America it takes allot for woman and men to find marriages. Especially after years with break ups and flings. One thing I'll just never understand is that it seems like in other cultures its easier to find a Woman. As well with some that already have pre made family marriages. I know that other cultures are more strict and of course they expect you to be the head of the family eventually. But for me I don't understand how people are just gifted some times and it naturally comes especially with some cultures?

I have had a hmong friend in the past. I actually revealed to her that I liked her at one point back in high school because we would always be talking. She was basically like a sister to me back then. After I revealed that I liked her, flat out told me she didn't like me enough because I was Caucasian. To her parents she said it would be degrading to like a white guy? I admit it sunk in but I was still a fantastic friend to her.

Another point is I just don't get pre maid marriages. I just remember watching a documentary in high school a long time ago. I remember distinctly the girl saying "I don't know if I like him but I have to be with him and be his wife. There for I will."


If I had a woman or something like that past high school. Maybe things would of gone so much easier. But what are your opinions?

 

A lot of people these days marry for the wrong reasons. Also most people have forgotten the art of conflict resolution. Usually in a marriage, everyone fights, and over time these create cracks... And especially with today's culture, both partners refuse to listen to the other side, put themselves in different shoes and look for an escape instead of looking inward and trying to become better. (After all, who doesn't have flaws, and unless it's for outright cheating or dishonesty, most flaws can be sorted.)

 

Yes. Marriage is pretty much a contract especially when you can have a joint account like my parents do. I realize they are perfectly happy of course. I mean they've got their life planned out you know. I work with a few Indians/French/Latina. I believe one Philippine gal already had a pre planned guy and shes married. She is honestly the cutest woman I've ever seen and I see why they gave her a good man so quick. I'm just saying if it was more like that here where things were pre planned it wouldn't be so bad. Kids wouldn't have fathers that they don't know who they are.

 

Is that your real streak and picture man by the way? Your jacked!
Yes that is true. Any Marriages have flaws regardless of who your with. A side from the happy posts on Social Media and textes. I always believe there is more going on then meats the eye.

 

Yup, I have been free from porn addiction for a couple years now. And no, it's Ilya in my avatar.

 

I have no idea who that is. But congratulations on the streak!
I've made it to day two again actually free. I'm excited but I feel as I may slip but I won't.

Three days in and I'm going to enter a challenge.

 

You know. I've actually heard of this before, especially in the Asian culture like Japanese or Thai. I remember I read a post on here a while ago about a relationship. The guy was from Europe and this woman was Asian I believe? He was fretting about her parents not liking him and that it was soon to be a failed relationship.

I don't believe in getting the parents trust. It will come over time and it takes time to receive.