Precum Is Becoming a HUGE Problem

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Roybum

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Hello guys. I'm on day 70 of NoFap and a couple weeks into this journey I got into a long-distance relationship with a beautiful girl. For the past month, our talks on video chat have gotten sexual (at times) and precum started happening every single time we'd speak. I think most would say that precum is NOT relapsing but for me, it feels like it. I'm not experiencing the benefits of NoFap anymore like I did before I was precumming so much.

As soon as precum happens, I feel an immediate difference as if I actually cummed (definitely didn't though). I have tried switching to only voice chat and abstaining from any sexual talk whatsoever. The precum still happens. I used to be such a beast on NoFap. I was on point with recalling information, concentration was sky-high, super-focused in social interactions, incredibly motivated to get things done, and practiced lead guitar daily. Now, I'm not experiencing any of those benefits. I have even thought of stopping my chats altogether with my girlfriend but I love her so I can't.

Please guys help me. What can I do to stop precum?
 
I believe it’s natural dopamine release and since precum release by itself you don’t need to worry about that. As long as the body is doing it all naturally as it should when things happen naturally you don’t worry about it.
If these things were happening while you were fantasising talking/doing all these with your girl over phone, then you should be worrying that you are artificially getting dopamine home and releasing precum.
 
Your brain is smart. It will always substitute an outlet with another without you noticing.

It is a relapse getting aroused.
Some would say it isn't. But they are kidding themselves.
 
Thanks guys. I was thinking it was a relapse. I don't want to reset my counter (I'm on day 72) but it looks like I may have to. In the meantime, I am doing Kegel exercises. Hopefully after Kegel exercises for a month, the precum will stop. I don't want to stop voice chatting my gf.

It is hurting my reboot but I'll try to figure out a way around this one day
 
There's no way my brain could discern the difference between a long-distance girlfriend and all the other chicks I've watched on a screen, I doubt yours can either. You're obviously not going to stop talking to this girl and I'm not advising that you do, just that you're looking at this the wrong way. Pre-cum isn't the culprit, it's merely a consequence.
 
Sexting is like a relapse bro. You are sexually triggered by pixels and voices from your phone. That is like porn. The same brain pathways are being stimulated, the ones you try to diminish.
 
I am having such problem too. Even if I meet her physically without touching her, just talk, I will have precum. If audio phone call is romantic (not sexual), i will experience the same. Is this a problem to my streak too?
 
Peace2024 said:
I am having such problem too. Even if I meet her physically without touching her, just talk, I will have precum. If audio phone call is romantic (not sexual), i will experience the same. Is this a problem to my streak too?
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Yes, just don't do it. Why not just meet up in person and have sex like normal people.
 
Thank you for your support. Yes, we can't have sex now since we are not yet married (because of our religion).

Things like this are confusing me: the fact that I easily get erection when I see or talk to her despite I know that I had dysfunction even in the past days when I used to masturbate. It is confusing because some guys says they can't have proper erection to their wives in bed. I doubt if this might be same to me because I easily get erected by simple voice chat and physical meeting, would I experience dysfunction if I tend to have sex with her? I don't have idea because I am still virgin.

I am sorry if my note is not much comprehensive.
Happy_husband said:
Yes, just don't do it. Why not just meet up in person and have sex like normal people.
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Happy_husband said:
Being aroused is not a relapse. Being aroused and pre-cumming by digital content is a relapse, which unfortunately is the case here.
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Bro if you’re in a long distance relationship with your gf and you guys sext and call and you pre cum and get aroused by her over the phone (digitally) that isn’t a relapse. A relapse is when you go back to your old ways of watching porn and masturbation. I don’t see any of that happening in OP comment.
 
Life enjoyer said:
Bro if you’re in a long distance relationship with your gf and you guys sext and call and you pre cum and get aroused by her over the phone (digitally) that isn’t a relapse. A relapse is when you go back to your old ways of watching porn and masturbation. I don’t see any of that happening in OP comment.
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I respectfully disagree bro. In my opinion the same brain pathways are being triggered when getting aroused and getting an erection from pixels.

I think the brain does not make a distinction between porn of pornstar X Nd sexting with your girlfriend. I think the brain only knows the difference between pixels and real human interactions
 
Roybum said:
Hello guys. I'm on day 70 of NoFap and a couple weeks into this journey I got into a long-distance relationship with a beautiful girl. For the past month, our talks on video chat have gotten sexual (at times) and precum started happening every single time we'd speak. I think most would say that precum is NOT relapsing but for me, it feels like it. I'm not experiencing the benefits of NoFap anymore like I did before I was precumming so much.

As soon as precum happens, I feel an immediate difference as if I actually cummed (definitely didn't though). I have tried switching to only voice chat and abstaining from any sexual talk whatsoever. The precum still happens. I used to be such a beast on NoFap. I was on point with recalling information, concentration was sky-high, super-focused in social interactions, incredibly motivated to get things done, and practiced lead guitar daily. Now, I'm not experiencing any of those benefits. I have even thought of stopping my chats altogether with my girlfriend but I love her so I can't.

Please guys help me. What can I do to stop precum?
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So you're staring at a monitor watching a girl doing or talking about sexual things. Remind you of anything?
 
Peace2024 said:
Thank you for your support. Yes, we can't have sex now since we are not yet married (because of our religion).

Things like this are confusing me: the fact that I easily get erection when I see or talk to her despite I know that I had dysfunction even in the past days when I used to masturbate. It is confusing because some guys says they can't have proper erection to their wives in bed. I doubt if this might be same to me because I easily get erected by simple voice chat and physical meeting, would I experience dysfunction if I tend to have sex with her? I don't have idea because I am still virgin.

I am sorry if my note is not much comprehensive.
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I think you're fine bro :)
 
Happy_husband said:
I respectfully disagree bro. In my opinion the same brain pathways are being triggered when getting aroused and getting an erection from pixels.

I think the brain does not make a distinction between porn of pornstar X Nd sexting with your girlfriend. I think the brain only knows the difference between pixels and real human interactions
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I see your point BUT! I personally have a girlfriend and majority of the times I pre cum with her on call since she arouses me but I never lose benefits or once thought it was a relapse because want to know why? It’s your girlfriend not a random who you don’t know.
In fact one time I even released to her through call and guess what? I didn’t feel like trash or sad like I did when I PMO to actual porn because want to know why? Our brain knows how to distinct who is on the screen and if it’s your gf then you won’t lose benefits and in fact it’s a good idea for OP to engage in romantic spicy things like this with his gf in MODERATION OF COURSE. So you see I personally wouldn’t consider pre cumming to your gf over call a relapse. Especially if you’re long distance relationship. In fact it’s natural to pre cum to someone you’re attracted to, so I don’t get how it’s a relapse if it’s your gf
 
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