Pregnant and don’t know what to do, help

I am sorry to hear your story and sorry to say this, but … it’s probably only going to get worse unless he stops masturbating to trans porn. It’s an addiction and he has it. He won’t get better unless he tries to stop looking at that stuff and he probably won’t be able to stop, not really stop, without help.

 

Sorry to hear your case - although due to your emotional stress you may not understand me fully or well but regardless I will tell you my two cents.

Addicts have mind clouded with their addictive patterns. Unluckily they are endless liars, because addiction is what is speaking, not them. Every addicted person is slave, don't have free will unless he or she is supported by therapy. Of course his action is hurting you, but remember you always have free will to leave him when his actions don't change and when there is no will in him to change.

You both need therapy. In this kind of emotional pain you are also prone to distorted decisions.

I would advise you to withhold with abortion and tell him to stop one more time, otherwise you consider, due to his behavior, to kill yours unborn baby by abortion. He can respond to this and change but he can also be not responsible to your need.

Moreover I would ask you to leave someone's distorted behavior as an excuse for abortion. It can further damage your psyche. Maybe if there will be no possibility of change, you will be at least able to save yourself and your baby from this situation by splitting with him and living on your own.

Personally I believe that no behavior of SO in relationship should be an excuse for abortion. You can always find other ways.

I keep my fingers crossed for good solution.
Please be wise - you are mother, woman and guardian of life.

In my case, meeting woman that I truly loved was like a 1000% booster to leave porn addiction forever. It was enough to stop. And healthy actions followed my decisions, so today I'm free.

 

If u decide not to abort, I know a couple who would love to adopt.

 

Hi Anna, i would love to give you my point of view. I had in the past encounters with trans escort and at the time i couldn't understand why; the only thing i knew it was this thought in my mind about it that i couldn't stop until i would do it , don't enjoy it and walk away from it for a lot of months if not year. I asked to myself if i was bisexual after all but i the truth was that i never felt any attraction for men (even if i found myself PMO on gay videos). Now that i'm aware about my addiction i can see how it went; i was so used to P that i wouldn't get excited anymore and then i started to PMO on trans and gay videos. At first i was disgusted on myself and it felt so wrong but in the end i would always get at the O. O by O i started to believed i liked that kind of stuff and there happens; i had to move the fantasy in reality. The whole situation really fucked up my mind, making me doubt about myself sexual orientation. Now that i started this journey my mind is not foggy anymore and i can see clearly how the addiction was driving me to try things that i don't really like.
I learnt everything in the hard way, loosing my partner that has been for me everything in my life.
Now after 3 months after the brake-up i'm still griefing and i'm using all my pain, disappointment and hate for myself against this addiction.
Unfortunately he has to recognize to be an addict and that would be his first step in the reboot, an hard, long and exhausting reboot....but not impossible. Don't make this fight yours if he doesn't want to make it his first.

 

A child needs at least one healthy parent in order to grow into a healthy adult. If you have a child with this man, neither of you will be healthy. His problems will become your trauma. You will struggle. Please don’t bring a child into this situation. I wish I had known about my PA’s problem before he agreed to have a child with me. I wish I had had the chance you do to not bring a child into this mess.