Porn Induced Erectile Dysfunction(PIED) & Premature Ejaculation(PE) and it's cure

110+ days of recovery without any PM & sexual fantasies

I think it's best if one goes without any ejaculation.Semen retention is the key here.As much as one can hold it,as soon as brain and body rewires and gets to normal.No doubts as have experienced it!

To do this,is a bit tough for addicted brain.Its tougher ,if someone is in relationship.

Personally for me,any ejaculation makes things a bit tough and withdrawals start showing ,though very mild at this stage(+100 days without FPMO).I am in flatline since past 1 month.For me the frequency of sex has been twice a month so far. That's how I concluded to have a better coordination with recovery and maintaining my married life.I think it's not the fault of our spouse ,coz we are addicted but they too are affected severely somehow.

Had seen many videos wherein it's emphasized to have sex with real partner to get and rewire for bonding and it's claimed that it had helped many to come out of addicted pathways.

For a person like me who started M first at age 17 and then P at age 25 and abused myself continuously for around next 11 years without any interaction with real partner and having sex till I married at age 33,this self abuse duration was around 19 years i.e. from age 17-36 which is quite long.Thanks to Almighty that I came out of all this and I'm feeling much better.

Can anyone here elaborate more is it good to have sex with spouse during rewiring?? Did it work ,moderate sex and recovery simultaneously for anyone here??

 

Day 141-09.09.2021(no PMO)

No PMO since past 141 days.I am only indulging in real with my wife and don't want to ejaculate but most of times I do not succeed in holding it.I get erections.My body responds to my wife interactions.I get and keep it hard for hours ,not always 100% though,mostly not.But in process I ejaculate even during foreplay and minutes during PIV.

Yesterday night we cuddled again.Then we slept holding each other without clothes.In the process,I was hard but not 100% and kept it for a long time may be 1 hr then I could not hold and ejaculated due to sensations.Afterwards,we slept as it is.

In morning,my sleep interrupted around 6 am and I peed.Then again we slept holding each other right and I had hardness ,though not 100%.My sleep was like half slept,half asleep then around 7:30 I was in some dream and BOOM! I had a wet dream. So in 10 hours ,had 2 ejaculations.I know I'll feel fatigued and all but still I wanted to rewire my brain slowly now to get what I want.So I have chosen this path now.Lets see how it's working.I have ready many accounts and they emphasize to rewire to a real person.Now I'll give myself rest and try it again after 2 weeks just to ensure not many ejaculations(mostly I'm unable to control) in case.
Our brains have plasticity and all.So let's rewire it again to get what I want to be familiar with a real person and learn to control and hold ejaculation during foreplay and PIV.I have updated all this above just to have a record and see how it goes.
I want a normal sex life and want to be involved and present during the moment with my wife.Dont want to creat any imagination or visualisation or anything such.such want to see all through my eyes and feel it and be there.Its not that I am doing it for my lust no.I want that atleast my wife gets normal life.And meanwhile if I can improve myself.Sex is not my motto as whatever I'm going through had made me really dead from inside but I want to feel alive.

PMO is bad.P in any form is a killer and poison.Itll finish you from innermost.Stop it at all cost otherwise its very costly.


I chose to rewire mode now and still my struggle continues....

 

Thanks for your response.Its encouraging.
I'm trying to rewire now.its been 140 days of no PM & no O to PM.I try to connect and get what a normal is with a real person.in process ,I'm unable to hold it mostly.But I'll continue it now.if you have anything positive ,pls.share as I need it badly.

Thanks for your time.

 

Day # 203- 10.11.2021​

Still going strong.Never indulged in PM since 21-04-21 and it's been 200+ days.I orgasmed or ejaculated only in wet dreams and during trying to rewire with my wife.

Had lot of improvement like better skin,hair,energy,stable mind ,digestion ,sleep and overall mood.but still I'm through fatigue,sexual exhaustion,sleep quality and feel of rested even after 7-8 hours of sleep ,sexual exhaustion & PIED not gone.

I think,they all need more time to heal.And may be sexual exhaustion and fatigue are the last things that gets normal in this journey.

Still whenever trying to rewire with my wife ,I try to cuddle,kiss,tough .I get hard and most of times I ejaculate within 10-12 minutes of getting hard and we'll before penetration or even if I'm not willing to sex.it all goes in head and my brain feels quick inrush of chemicals and I feel as if I'll come.i don't want to ejaculate but still I do.After effects are bad and still a problem to me.Recently,when at verge I told my wife that I need time ,left everything and just took deep breaths .my got soft and list erection and may be after 5-7 minutes we started again cuddling and kissing and again I got hard and when at verge I told to stop and again relaxed ....this way I didn't ejaculate this time and it happened after a while.
Still it's not fulproof and ready to go method but last time it worked.I eased my wife through others means and she had her orgasm.

I don't want to ejaculate and want to learn non ejaculatory sex or intimacy.I think still a long way to go....

I'll report back improvements....
Thanks everyone and this community.

 

Thanks for encouragement. Mine is most probably one of worst case as I abused myself for almost 19 years without any experience with a real person and I was nog aware what was wrong and what I was doing to myself.God!

Never going back to FPMO ever .just want to live a peaceful life with my wife & family.I know still a long way to go for normalcy.I hope Everything will be allright.
Thanks.

 

I'm on 325 day on no PM. I have not indulged in any sexual activity with my wife since this November and it's been 4 1/2 months.I wanted to give a rest to my mind and body and see how things go and improve.In these 10-11 months ,I never relapsed to PM but tried to rewire with my wife and failed almost everytime due to ED & PE.So I attempted to give a break to that too but now it's affecting us and our relationship.4-5 months without sex in a marriage is not normal at this age.
I get normal and regular morning wood. During all these months I had 3-4 times wet dreams too.Thats the only thing through I ejaculated and evey ejaculation brings sever symptoms and that last 3-6 days and then things get normal.

Now I'm thinking to start engaging once a month and try to have better intimacy and sex with my wife.I don't want to hurt her any more due to this issue.shes very supportive and not saying me anything but I can understand it's affecting us.

I really don't know hows my ED & PE but I'll try my best.i'll update how things go on now.

Thanks.

 

Things are definitely better.I have still not indulged in sex rather we are trying to establish better intimacy between us.Except sex ,we try to do everything like kissing,cuddling,talking and caressing.And it's working slowly.Most of times ,I am unable to be in the moment and it seems kind of some brain fog or lack of concentration or inability to be in the moment.But whatever it is,my mind and body is responding positive.

Actually ,it has to be learnt.Slow,calm and peaceful Love making has to be learnt then only things will improved.I was able to get better erections,maintain it for longer time and tried to be in the moment and enjoy.That eased a lot of tension and made me comfortable.I'll do it even more and often.I'll update the progress.

Hope you are doing well.Enjoy the journey.

 

There is only and only one solution abstinence from PMO and all kinds of virtual sexual stimuli such as texts,photos,videos,voice, imagination,thinking and all.
It'll take its own time as per the damage caused.very slow process but it must be trusted.