Premature Ejaculation

Discussion in 'Problematic Sexual Behavior' started by Fykmnp, Oct 7, 2018.

  1. Fykmnp

    Fykmnp New Fapstronaut

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    So at the age of 12 i started masturbating in the begening i masturbated at least 4times a day and watched much porn but with the time it got less and less but i kept watching and masturbating but not for more than once a day, the problem is i ever wanted to cum quick to have my orgasm as quick as possible and this never seemed to be a problem for me until i was 16 and had the first time sex, i cummed after like 10 seconds... My gf left me after 2months later because of this now i'm 20 and it got a bit better i have a new gf but without beeing drunk i can hold on maximum for 10mins and this just because i read recently about a breathing technic and letting my muscles relax, anybody can help that i could hold on longer while sex?
     
  2. GA93JDeereboy

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    I'm sure their are alot of things. I have a question. Are their any guys on here that dont have a problem with premature ejaculation? Idk what the avg time is for guys is it between 2-7 mins? But even that seems quick. What is the avg time for guys? Because I think PE is a common thing but is it difficult to overcome? Me for example I've been quick alot of times. At the time I didn't really think much about it until you learned that woman dont like it.
     
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  3. You're showing a distortion induced by porn. 10 minutes of PIV intercourse is not abnormally short! Guys who fuck for 40 minutes strsight do so because they are porn stars using drugs, or PMO addicts who have de-sensitized their dicks (which was me, much of my life).

    See https://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/love-sex/how-long-does-sex-normally-last-a6971406.html also https://www.esquire.com/lifestyle/sex/a5943/average-sex-time-0709/

    10 minutes of PIV is plenty - but that only works for most women if there is a bunch of foreplay! And for many, direct clitoral stimulation as well.
     
  4. I got the problem even worse than you. I usually feel over sensitized and I do think it involves overly tense muscles too. I do think it is worse from PMO and hope that reboot will help. You're 19 days is better than me. Keep it up and let me know if longer reboot helps!
     
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  5. LonelyDude21

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    You have sex at 16? What country do you live at bruh?
     
  6. GA93JDeereboy

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    Interesting article. So it isn't all about to keeping on going and going. Do other stuff as well. Make it fun. Yes as a guy I would want to keep going and going, but you just need to know the balance. The survey said the average out of the study for all the couples was 5.4 minutes. Time range from less than a minute to over 40. Also the time you last probably depends on how sexually active you are. If you are at it everyday vs every month or whatever the case is, you will probably be able to keep going from all the experience. Dont feel bad. Idk how quick you were on avg with your ex gf but hey you can do foreplay etc to make up for it too. I'm sure it is normal to last like 10 secs or less than a min your first time. Dont feel bad. If your up to 10 mins of piv, I'd say your doing good
     
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  7. Fykmnp

    Fykmnp New Fapstronaut

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    Luxembourg here is 16 late, i know girls let us call them sluts who has the first time with 12 years perhaps in europe people have earlier sex than in usa? Because i know in france and germany is similar, we start having sex at young age
     
  8. when you get close to cumming just slow down or stop
     
  9. I think I only ever did it by letting her be on top for most of it. ;)
     
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  10. Fykmnp

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    But 10mins are just when i'm lucky you understand, look like yesterday we had sex and it dured like 30secs for me to cum i feel so shameful after that...
     
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  11. How long until you can go again? At yout age it usually isn't long - you just have to keep her busy with other stuff until then. You have hands, you have a mouth.....
     
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  13. elonmusk

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    Europe?
     
  14. LonelyDude21

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    That's a continent not a country.
     
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  15. elonmusk

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    Correct and in most European countries it is legal to have sex above 15.
     
  16. LonelyDude21

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    Oh wow lol i didn't know. I'm Asian so yeah.
     
  17. ultrafabber

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    Stop calling them sluts wtf? What if that was your sister or mother or daughter?
     
  18. LonelyDude21

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    He said that the girls allowed others to call them a ****. So that's fine. Unless the girls didn't do anything that is slutty then was called a ****. Then there's something wrong. Also, it doesn't matter who is the ****, a **** is a person who do slutty things. Even if it's one of your family members is a ****, you can't deny that fact. Anyway, can you watch that tone of yours? We're here to share our opinions and answer the question of the thread, not to argue.
     
  19. iaj

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    - "Durex Performa" (these 'delay' condoms have a numbing gel at the tip to desensitise your penis).

    - Meditation/yoga (sounds corny but your body holds a lot of tension and stress. Using methods like this will help you relax more.

    - Certain positions are less strenuous than others so combine these with your breathing techniques and it'll get better.

    - Reset your expectations. For all of us on here- we've been manipulated by porn. We think we're supposed to last ages and climax like a fountain. But biologically; the quickest climax is the safest way to survive in nature amongst the animal kingdom. We're more alike to animals than we are different. This is not an excuse, this is a reminder.

    - Age. You're only 20 now. With age comes confidence and when you care less about what other people think, this kind of stuff will matter less. Ironically caring less about what others think leads to a more care-free conscious. Then you won't be competing against a clock, you'll just get lost in the moment and accept that each moment is different- some long, some quick.

    - Anti-depressants have a side effect of not being able to cum. I'm not saying, take medication, but what I am saying is; if the side-effect of a 'hormonal balancing' drug is delaying your E, then you need to find natural ways of relaxing more and letting go of stress and tension. Both mentally and physically.
     
  20. ultrafabber

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    It doesn't really matter if they allow it or not. I don't know if he himself called them as such, the point was they should not be called as such. Not arguing, stating a fact.
     

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