Premature ejaculation

If you wear a condom plus have a couple drinks of alcohol beforehand, then premature ejaculation won’t really be a problem.

But if you do it completely sober and without a condom, then yea, premature ejaculation could be a problem.

also, you could tell her you don’t masturbate or look at porn, and might not last long the first time. If they happens, just have sex again 20-30 minutes later after you recover.

 

no alcohol. Don't get used to it for having sex, you need a clear head also alcohol makes it very basic and animalistic. Sex is supposed to elevate you not otherwise.

Just relax before sex watch a TV show or something, arrived to sex very relaxed and with awareness of what you are doing. Being relaxed is a counter attack to fight or flight response and your autonomic system which is in charge of ejaculation if you are relaxed and aware more easy to control ejaculation

You can turn the lights off or little light to avoid overexcitment of seing the girl. If you want use a little of numbing cream lidocaine at the tip of your penis it decreases sensibility and is more easy to control ejaculation

These are other tips
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If you are going out, you are dating. if you are not going for the kiss and progressing it to sex.. then you are just hanging as friends. In generall dating without kissiing, touching, sex normally leads to friendship and you can't get out of it easily.

It's only going to be embarrassing if you make it embarrassing. She is going to react according to what you do about it.
If you come fast and get all worried, and tell her to forgive you, that this never happened to you, and you are so sorry about it.. and put your tail betwen your legs.. she is definitevely going to be also embarrased about it and unconfortable with that situation. She is probably not going to be very excited to see you again.
But.. if after comming fast you just laugh about it and make fun of you or just tell her that she is too much hot for you that you can handle yourselve in a joking manner, the mood of the room is going to be totally different. You are going to be totally confortable with it, and she is going to be confortable as well, all because you behaved totally cool about it. Then you can procced to kiss her and give her pleasure in other ways until your little buddy is ready for action again.

You can also use condoms that promote delayed ejaculation, like the ones with rings or the ones that have a subtanse in it that kind of put your little friend calm and not that exited.

 

The more you have sex the easier it becomes to control your arousal and orgasms. Whatever happens on your first try shouldn't be taken too seriously, especially if she's also a virgin. If she has a fun time and you seem to have enjoyed it, she's gonna be happy. Here's some tips to make sure she enjoys it:

1. Know your anatomy. Look up a diagram of a vulva. Not a sex one, like a scientific one. There are 4 main "things" in there: the lips, the clitoris, the urethra, and the vaginal opening. The lips are the skin flaps around the vulva. You usually gotta move em out of the way to get to work in there. The clitoris is an organ that feels really good when touched. It's located around where the lips meet up top. It feels different than the other flesh around it. The urethra is where she pees from. Don't mess with that. Her vaginal opening is the big hole on the bottom where you put your dick in. No matter what diagram you see online, it won't look like hers. All vaginas are so different it's ridiculous. Just remember the general locations of stuff, and then try and figure it out with her.
2. Get her ready with lots of foreplay. I think there's 2 categories of foreplay: mind foreplay and body foreplay (the primary sexual organ for men and woman is the brain, but I'm just gonna use mind and body foreplay for this example). Girls usually need both, especially if they're inexperienced. Mind foreplay is all about getting her mind comfortable with the idea of having sex, so do things to make her comfortable with you. Take her out on a date, watch a movie, go to the park, or do a fun activity. Mind foreplay is usually non-sexual. It's all about making her happy and comfortable with you. When it's getting close to sexy time, move to body foreplay. The best thing to do is just kiss her. Get in a position where you can feel her the most, and just hold her and kiss her. No need to time it, but you can never go too long. You can increase the intensity at whatever pace feels comfortable, but don't go too fast that you need to end it. Stuff that's usually ok without asking is holding her lower back, putting your hand on her shoulder, and holding her hand. If she's ok with it and is putting her body all over you than feeling the back of her neck/skin of her upper back, holding her thighs, and grabbing her butt will also get her body ready.
3. Get on the same page as her. If it's getting heavy and the situation is right (no one else is home, you have a condom, neither of you have to leave within an hour, etc.) straight up ask her if she wants to have sex. Make sure to emphasize you were really ok with kissing but noticed she was getting into it and wanted to check in. Be really excited about whatever she says, and get like a triple check that she's down with it.
   • I would suggest going to second and third base before having sex to familiarize yourself with each other and the general feeling of intimacy, but idk what the kids are up to these days. Leaving PIC sex off the table for a while, even if you both go down on each other and then just makeout naked for a while, is a good option because it leaves something else for you both to do. You're not entitled to sex with her afterwards, but if she has a good time it's likely she'll want to return. Also naked makeouts are the best haha
4. This is where the sex begins. Everything after asking her to have sex and her agreeing is doing that. I can't tell you exactly how to do that, but here are some tips:
   • Smile a lot, talk to her, tell you how you're feeling (not "I love you" more like "I'm so excited!"), ask her questions, and just have fun. It's fine if you're nervous, but don't let it petrify you. She's probably just as nervous haha.
   • ASK HER WHAT SHE WANTS AND IF THINGS FEEL GOOD. You're not a pro so don't act like one. If she doesn't know what she wants then try out different things. You don't need to ask her every 10 seconds, but if you don't hear her moaning or physically reacting to whatever you're doing asking her if it feels good is the move.
   • The two main positions for "pre-penetration activities" are her on her back and you on top of her with her hips above yours or you on your back and her straddling you.
   • Make out in your underwear for a while. Feel each other and get used to the warmth and connection.
   • Don't suck on her neck because she'll get a hickey, but kiss all over the area between her ear and shoulder and softly breathe on that area. You can whisper how happy you are in her ear.
   • You can look her in the eyes every once in a while and smile
   • If she likes it you can give kisses on different parts of her body
     • good ones are back, tummy, thighs, neck, and chin
     • mehh ones are her calves, arms, and bellybutton
     • one that probably isn't the best for her first time is her ass crack or around her butt (unless she tells you to!)
   • boobs:
     • The natural instinct is to just bury your face in the middle, but this doesn't feel good for either of you and might make her a bit bored. Here are some good ways to stimulate once her bra is off:
     • making a "W" with both your hands, each under one boob, groping them, and moving them around
     • kissing/sucking all the parts of her boobs, especially on the sides (both left and right of each) and underneath
     • licking around the whole boob with both "soft" and "pointy" tongue
     • licking around and over the areola and nipple or flicking your tongue
     • soft pinching and twisting of nipple
     • Whatever you do, keep doing it for a few minutes. See what she likes and ask her whether to keep going. Smile and look up at her every once in a while
   • vulva (can go with either fingering, oral, or PIV)
     • Before any of these, get her vagina ready to go. Rub around the inside of her thighs while you kiss her. Be slow. Keep her underwear on for a while so you can run your hand over her crotch a few times. Bring lube beforehand and only go in once she says she's ready.
     • PSA: The vagina is wayyyyy lower than you think. Like way lower. Don't freak out, just figure it out.
     • Oral is the easiest to be mediocre at. Your mouth is wet so it can't really feel bad, but if you don't know what you're doing it won't feel great. Here are some easy strats to try:
       • First off kiss the insides of her thighs. Give some licks up and down. Breath a little bit of her crotch in and exhale on her (this always kills em aha). Kiss over the underwear for a bit then take em off
       • With a soft tongue lick right over the lips in the up direction. Do both sides. Get your saliva all in there to get it nice and slippery. Pressing too hard or too soft into her could make it feel bad for her, so ask her how hard she wants you to press your face in. Say if she wants she can use your head to press you in or pull you back
       • Do the same thing but between the lips. Be soft when you get near the clit.
       • Ask if it feels good and if there's anything she likes or wants to try. Give the whole thing a kiss before getting back to work.
       • With a harder tongue stimulate the middle region between her lips. Pretend there's syrup in every little cranny and you're tryna reach in and get it out. You can stick your tongue inside her vagina, but your tongue is very short and thin so thrusting back and forth won't feel good; lick up around the sides of the hole.
       • After warming her up find her clit. It's a good idea to use your hands to separate the lips and find it. It feels different than the surrounding flesh. Tell her to show you where it is if you're having trouble. Especially for virgins it kinda hurts to lick right on it, so lick in circles around it or softly put your tongue over and down it. Ask her how hard to press your face in. If it feel good for her press your tongue right over it and just move your face up and down. If she's not as sensitive you can actually suck it between your lips almost like giving a bj to a tiny dick. You can lick it also while doing that. That's the most intense and most girls need a lot of warming up to get there, but it feels the best.
       • If you notice her reacting really well just keep going. If you're absolutely exhausted or she pushes you away then stop, just give it a good shot. Don't worry about making her orgasm, just make sure she enjoys it.
     • Fingering is trickier because the instinct is to jam it in and out and try to get in deep. This doesn't work because fingers and dicks are just not the same.
       • Best way to go is usually with her on her back, you somewhere else, and your fingers going in with your palm facing towards the sky.
       • Slowly put in one finger, let her relax and contract around you a bit, and then do some small thrusting and "curling", where you curl your fingers back towards your palm. The curling is what's gonna feel good. Don't jam your finger into her insides, but feel around and try to identify different textures and "hardness" of her insides. Ask her what areas feel good to touch.
       • If she's ready take the one out and put in the second. It's usually pretty hot to look your finger with her juice on it, get your saliva on the other for lube, and then put it back in. Same thing, just feel around and curl your fingers. Try to have your fingertips always touch her front wall, but rub them along different locations when you curl. If she reacts to a certain spot stay around there.
       • If its feeling good for her maybe go a little faster and harder. Do whatever has the best reaction from her. If your fingers are long enough you can sit her her side and curl your palm near her clit and stimulate that with the bottom of the palm. It can get tiring so watch out.
       • Just don't jam your fingers in and out and don't try to puncture her insides. Feel around for good spots and then "curl" near it with your fingers. Also make sure your fingernails are v short. More than 2mm is too long
     • PIV is the most awkward and strange, especially for virgins. Just be cool, laugh a bunch, and see how each other feels about it all.
       • Easiest position is missionary. If she wants to switch it up then speedbump is easy too. It makes the path for your dick to follow easiest. If it feels great and you wanna switch it up go to cowgirl, though some virgin ladies aren't comfy with it and it can kinda hurt your dick.
       • Her vagina is gonna be warm. You cannot expect it haha.
       • Make sure the condom is on correctly and lube is nearby. Please use the lube. PLEASE.
       • Have her bring her legs up, position your penis just inside her, then slowly ease your way in until you're lying on top of her. It will probably be a lot for you both. Probably don't go all the way in Sit inside her for a minute, look in her eyes, and give her some kisses. When she's ready move back and forth a bit, slow and steady. Get used to the angle and how you move your hips to go in and out. You might want to separate yourself from her a little bit to get an idea of how to move your dick in and out of her.
       • No need to slam yourself in, but vary your depth and angles to see what's best for you two. If you both like it just keep going. Tell her how good she feels. Be ready if she tells you it hurts or to stop. Otherwise just keep doing what feels good for you both
       • Odds are she's not gonna cum. Don't worry. If you've been taking care of her this whole time, making sure she feels good, and trying to get her off, she's gonna love the whole experience. If you feel an orgasm coming, tell her you think you're gonna cum. Don't "try" to cum, just keep doing whatever you're doing; you'll probably start going faster and deeper. There's no need to scream your lungs out, but letting her know it feels good and that you're coming is gonna be a big turn on for her. When it happens it's literally like nothing else.
     • Afterwards...
       • remove yourself in a timely manner, take the condom off, tie it up, throw it away, wipe your dick off, put on your underwear, and cuddle the shit out of her
       • tell her how good that whole experience was, how good she felt, how pretty she is, how happy you are to have shared that experience. ask her how it was and what felt better than the other things. don't want to critique each other per say, but asking what felt better than other things is totally fine

 

Even if you arrive to quickly who gives a split? On round 2 you ll get her