Problems During Sex with new GF

Discussion in 'Dating during a Reboot' started by Antiphap, Jun 29, 2018.

  1. Antiphap

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    Been dating this woman for the last 3 weeks. It's been great so far. To sum it up she loves everything about me. We have had sex about 5-6 times already. However, my performance is lacking. And I know it's because of PIED. I never got the full effects of PIED in the past. In fact, I was using porn heavily for months before losing my virginity to a different girl last year. And even then. I still performed amazingly during my first time every having sex. But I could not climax during my first time having sex. I felt proud that I was able to make her orgasm via penetration. But I just know something was wrong with me. My penis was not at full power. I later learned that It was a delayed ejaculation as a result from my porn usage.

    That is when I discovered NoFap and how to cure myself. Anyways, I never saw the woman I lost my virginity to ever again due to her ties with her ex boyfriend bringing problems.

    Later after the "break up" I started rebooting. Went on a 30 day streak of NoFap hardmode. The flatline was terrible. I had a lifeless dick. Anyways after that, I thought I was cured because I would start waking up with erections and getting them during the day more often etc. After the 30 day period, A girl flaked on a date and I never looked back since I felt disrespected so I went to a stripclub instead and got a lapdance and it made me very horny. I relapsed. After that I kept porn use to just once a week for the next couple of weeks. But I got back on my grind to completely remove PIED/Delayed Eyaculation our of my system since I was starting to figure out women completely by listening to dating coaches and starting to approach women in public. I was TIRED OF PORN. I WANTED REAL SEX. Instead of watching porn I would use those cravings to go out and try to meet women. I learned some game.

    And That's when I met the woman I am currently dating. Like I said before, we have had sex about 6-8 times. she has spent the night at my apartment many times already. But sex has not been consistent, some times good and sometimes a fail. It's really bothering me. I have not watched porn for about 4 weeks total. 1 1/2 weeks before our first date and within the 3 weeks we have been dating. I have lost my erection inside of her a couple of times and I thought it could've been the anxiety of her not being on birth control or the use of condoms which remove sensation quite a bit but overall I really believe it could be a little bit of everything plus not recovering completely from porn. I also mention that the sex we have had has been incomplete. I have not been able to climax inside of her due to no birth control pills. It makes me anxious and takes away my excitement. After a couple of times of pulling out before busting I just lose my erections. Can't get exited after that. it's as if I have been practicing "stalling" or whatever the terminology is with a real sex partner.

    I told her about my problem and she was very compassionate and willing to help with recovery. She is crazy about me and very compliant with everything. she ordered some birth control and we should start getting back to business soon once I return home from a short vacation.

    Will having sex during reboot delay recovery? I wanna be able to bust multiple times during sex and for that I need a full reboot.
     
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  2. STAR DUST

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    One word KAREZZA
     
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  3. STAR DUST

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    You must eliminate porn permanently
     
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  4. MetaGame

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    Been in a similar spot. Here is what u do. Don't deviate.


    • Stop porn / masturbation
    • Stop being hard on urself and overthinkin it. The stress and anxiety will kill ur erection and the pleasure. Seriously FCKING CHILL.
    • Resensitive/heal the skin/nerves around ur dick. Use coconut oil / aloe vera / natural lotions that heal skin.
    • Do not use these to get baited into masturbation. It would like putting on a cast then ripping it off to scratch an itch or using the cast to shafe ur limb for a small itch. Put it on for some hours, wash it off then repeat.
    • Sometimes sex and the point of orgasming does interfere with nofap. Look up Karezza. It will take the pressure off u to cum, u will last longer and u will keep ur benefits.
    • If that is too difficult for u then find some thin condoms u like. Stop lazy buying thick condoms u hate because ur too afraid to figure out one u can use. I hate condoms too but they are necessary.
    • Make sure ur healthy/ have good blood flow. If ur overweight then lose weight. If ur eating garbage thats blocking up ur blood flow. then stop. YES this affects it way more than u know. Ur body is an engine. Put clean oil in it or when it has to perform especially under stress it wont be ready.



    Avoid bending ur legs or awkward positions

    Feel free to look for something called MACA in the drug store. It is a herb that can naturally help u sexually. Dont take too much of it or it will make u too horny to stick to nofap.

    Use one of those birth control apps + achieve the pull out method with high accuracy. Give urself extra safety days before and after the app says just in case her cycle is off that month. The pull out method does work statistically when practiced well but u wanna double up on that and not have sex with her when she is ovulating.

    U can also buy spermicidal lube.

    This works. Just actually do it. Don't half ass it or do it until it works a little and then fall back into old habits by thinkin u solve it after a few weeks.
     
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  5. STAR DUST

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    Good stuff! KAREZZA is great
     
  6. Antiphap

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    *Update* I just had the best sex I have had in my life! she got on birth control and it was amazing. Unrestrained sex!
    I busted inside of her twice! It was so satisfying! She was crazy about it when I did it.
    She gets pleasure out of seeing me get pleasure. She loves to look at me when I bust. It went great.

    Started by fingering her to orgasm then the following happened:

    Busted 3 nuts total
    -1st nut was the best but I was so sensitive I did not last that long but not that short either.

    -2nd nut was all about her. My penis became flaccid after the first bust. We both had to put extra effort to get me hard again. I don't know why but it was very hard. She got on top and I slowly got hard again but it took a good deal of effort and time. And even though I came while she was ridding me I felt I was not at full power. But it was still good

    -3rd nut was the most fun but not the most pleasurable. We were in bed talking and cuddling for a couple of minutes and I got hard again. I put her in doggy style on the side of the bed while I was trusting her hard for like 15 min straight while making her moan hard to the point of being concerned of waking the neighbors orgasm cervically. I was less sensitive since it was the 3rd time but I was somehow harder than on the 2nd nut and It enabled me to go as hard as I could without having to worry about busting too soon because I was actually really putting effort into busting and it was not easy.
    I had to stop since she was not lubricating much anymore and we were both starting to feel sore. Lack of lubrication makes sensations become more painful than pleasurable. Then we went to cuddle again and finished via masturbating mutually.

    It was amazing and I somehow felt energized after sex! I felt I wanted to go the gym afterwards!

    I will most definitely be investing in some lube so I can keep pounding her for as long as it takes for me and her to reach climax during the concluding parts of sex.

    I feel pretty great and more confident in bed! I will continue on nofap for the rest of my life! real sex is so much better than looking at disgusting porn. Heck just thinking about these fond memories makes me hard and wish she was here right now for some more fun.
    I know I have more recovering to do. It makes me even more exited to see even more improvements in the future.
     
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  7. MetaGame

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    A bit too graphic but congrats lol.
     
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  8. STAR DUST

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    Good job! ASTRO GLIDE. BEST LUBE. Start to explore what she likes most.
     
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  9. NuevaAmerican

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    Goddamn you gonna make me relapse with those descriptions. lol . congrats bro
     
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  10. Antiphap

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    The best advice I have for nofap is to date someone. There is no stronger motivation to continue on nofap than dating. The frustration of not being able to perform well will get you porn free in no time. There is no better motivation than when you are under pressure. I don't even think about porn anymore. I have replaced a bad habit with the best one. Get your girl on birth control pills and bust away!

    Best road to recovery is be on a month streak on NoFap hardmode. Then wait till the flatline stops and start dating again. Watch this video on this guy's experience on recovering. he is really great. Also check this guy's story .

    I REALLY recommend these two dating channels to get your dating game on point. They really helped me become a better version of myself.

    correy wayne
    https://www.youtube.com/user/coachcoreywayne (listen to this one more and read his book first)

    this funny guy called alpha male strategies offers great advice but also a little bit different and more evil and entertaining :)
    He offers a lot of the tips that correy wayne give but I believe his dating crowd is a little different than correy's.
    https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC0it1cu-mt_IcvLTQ4CWcHw
     
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  11. NuevaAmerican

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    Thanks for the helpful links. I just got out of an 8 month relationship (my first dating in a long long time due to low confidence from pmo and other bad lifestyle choices) and it did help me a lot because I couldnt get it up the first three times we tried to have sex. So embarrasing and horrifying that it made me realize I had a problem and start taking NoFap seriously. Problem was, I didnt have the discipline to NoFap but i DID go the longest streak ever of 8 days. We did have sucessfull sex for a couple months with the help of pills sometimes, sometimes not. But now that the relationship is over I can concentrate on a 30 days of hardmode nofap. After like 5 dates with this chick, I turned her off and she ghosted me, then I discovered Corey Wayne and, then she hit me up like a week or 2 later and I had some tools in my arsenel from reading Corey Wayne and she wanted to be my girlfriend girlfriend, by the time we had that conversation months later, I wasn't really into it so that shit's done now but yeah Corey Wayne was a godsend for me.

    I'll check your other links out, Thanks bro
     
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  12. GettingAGrip

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    I'm in the same situation right now. I've been dating this girl for about 2 weeks now and we tried having sex but I flatlined. I couldn't get hard for a while and when I did and we started having sex, I went soft inside her.

    I told her about my problem and that I'm recovering, she didn't take it very well and wanted me to have time by myself to "heal"...
     
  13. STAR DUST

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    DAMN THAT SUCKS
     
  14. GettingAGrip

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    It does. But it is what it is, honestly. If she's not okay with it I'm positive there are many other girls who are!
    I'm trying to stay as positive as I can :)
     
  15. STAR DUST

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    ABSOLUTLY NO PORN & KAREZZA / TANTRA
     
  16. STAR DUST

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    Sorry to bust your bubble but no woman wants a guy with a soft dick who can’t get it up. You did it to yourself take responsibility. Don’t blame her like it’s her fault its called PIED PORN INDUCECED ERECTILE DYSFUNCTION BUT IT SHOULD BE SELF INDUCED ERECTILE DISORDER. YOU PUT YOURSELF IN THIS STIUATION AND YOU CAN GET YOURSELF OUT. NO NEED TO LOOK FOR A WOMAN WILLING TO SETTLE FOR MEDIOCRE SEX. YOUVE GOT THIS.
     
  17. GettingAGrip

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    Oh, no I know! Sorry I might've phrased it wrong haha. This is all my fault for the years of intense P&M and I take full responsibility!
    I'm just working on ending this PIED curse once and for all. THANK YOU!
     
  18. Maikel1

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    Ahw please.....
     
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  19. STAR DUST

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    I’m here to help people not debate
     
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