Problems finding a gf

Where are you meeting them?

 

Hello @Kairose, first of all, do not blame yourself for this, it happens very often both in us men and in women. You are focusing too much on having a romantic relationship at all costs. From my experience what I can tell you is to let go of all sorts of doubts or various apprehensions, do not look for continuous answers, you see this is a mental trap: I have a doubt/anxiety, I try to give myself an answer (based on evidently not real facts) --> I am not satisfied with the answer I give myself --> I feed the doubt/anxiety even more. Life is full of unexpected events, it is not possible to control everything around us, moreover, it is up to us not to be overwhelmed by situations. Finally, continue to live your life, cultivate your interests, your friendships, your study or work and you will see that doing so will also improve your self-esteem and approach to girls, take care of yourself. God bless you too.

 

The interest in another person is good, if lived adequately and healthily, the line between attention and control is not always easy to understand for each of us. You will see that you will find your personal and own path, with patience. Have a nice day.

 

That is difficult, it has costs me a lot to manage it. Well but not to the extent you are feeling it.

What has helped me, it's basically experience and dating a lot. Then you learn that nothing is forever and even if it is death will put us apart at any moment.

Experiencing death of people I love has helped me to love a woman freely and not getting overwhelmed if she acts distant.

Also my mental state is her mental state you don't just share body fluids you share everything with a woman, your energy, who you are. So if I'm anxious she is getting those bad vibes from me and all I want is her to be happy.

 

try to live in the moment so you will not make up scenarios with them that are not true.

 

Yes.. attraction works like that. If you show that you are all over a woman, she is going to run away from you. Only ask her out and have fun in person.
Stop chating all day long.. phone is only to set date.
Currently you are behaving femenine. All the things you are feeling are what woman feels when they interact with the guy they like. For woman that is normal, for man is not, masculine man that are confident and dating woman is just another good thing about their life.

You are giving dating woman a lot of weigth in your life. Dating woman should be just another fun stuff to do in your life besides your hobbies, passions, ambitions, friends, family, work, etc.
if you don't have things going on with your own life you are going to put a lot of focus in filling it with another person, you should be fully happy been alone and not depend in other person son fill you life.
Build an amazing life by your own and then go and date woman just to add another fun stuff to do in your free time.