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Problems with porn blocker

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by safa61947, Sep 30, 2019.

  1. safa61947

    safa61947 Fapstronaut

    I have no problem setting up a porn blocker. Tried several methods. I even set a password. But I always find a way to deactivate it.

    Can someone suggest me something aside the obvious "control yourself" (yeah man great advice try to follow it yourself)
     
  2. Silver382

    Silver382 Fapstronaut

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    You can password something to keep your self out you have to get someone you know and trust and not have the password
     
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  3. safa61947

    safa61947 Fapstronaut

    I'll invent some excuse to ask the person the password. Honestly, I think this will just make me ashamed for no reason.
     
  4. Silver382

    Silver382 Fapstronaut

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    I understand I did not think it would work but it's hard to block your self. I a weak moment it to easy to get
     
  5. MisterDirection

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    I use accountant 2 you. It blocks NOTHING you can exempt apps and things so it doesnt record.

    Real time alerts on keywords go to accou stability partners you set up to be notified and then a detailed report goes out 1 time a week with every single thing that I do on my phone computer or tablet.

    It's not about the phone controlling me
    ..its about me controlling me and that gets easy when you have to justify and explain everythi.g you are doing.

    My wife is admitting. But she's totally hands off...my APs are 12 step people as well as my sponsor so she is not triggered by anything alert wise or report wise which can happen
     
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  6. Silver382

    Silver382 Fapstronaut

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    I'm a little confused
     
  7. Silver382

    Silver382 Fapstronaut

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    I'm a little confused
     
  8. safa61947

    safa61947 Fapstronaut

    Can you send me a link? I want to try that. I searched Google got in many accounting (finances) websites. :)
     
  9. Silver382

    Silver382 Fapstronaut

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    what do you me an send a link
     
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  11. MisterDirection

    MisterDirection Fapstronaut

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    Lol...stupid autocorrect

    It's called Accountability2you

    Spelled just like that
     
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  12. Silver382

    Silver382 Fapstronaut

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    Oh ok it's software ok
     
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  13. Yellowknife

    Yellowknife Fapstronaut

    I really hate to tell you this … But I wrestled with this as well.

    Hard. For a long time.

    Rather than investing in better blockers, you need to invest time into what is making the urges uncontrollable.

    You can only slow yourself down. No matter what, you'll always find a way around any impediment that you create for yourself. Always. It has an extremely high failure rate as you've discovered yourself.

    I'm not going to say 'man up' or 'just stop' because that's stupid. You need to figure out why you are having such a persistent issue.

    Clearly, you want to stop, and I wish you all of the best with it.

    I couldn't do it until I went cold turkey, no blockers will ever work 100%, and depending on blockers means if you accidentally see a pair of tatas somewhere or have access to an unusual device you are screwed. It doesn't work and it's a path to failure and I suspect part of why you are relapsing is that you are continually banging on a method that doesn't work for you.

    The answer isn't in computer software, it's in your brain software.

    Perhaps its in filling time, or avoiding certain places and behaviors that trigger you. Perhaps it's therapy, or getting depression treated. I don't know what your answer is my friend, but it is clearly, 100% not this. Journaling has helped me massively, mine is visible and detailed. Part of my issue was getting my ADHD treated.

    It's possible you are low dopamine in general due to another underlying cause.

    I know it's frustrating, but you also know how creative you are when you are wanting to have another binge.. most of us are.
     
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  14. Silver382

    Silver382 Fapstronaut

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    I understand what you are saying it is keeping your self busy or occupied
     
  15. Yellowknife

    Yellowknife Fapstronaut

    Hey, I edited my post for a bit more meat and potatoes. Might want to reread it in case you didn't see it soon.

    It's to avoid behaviors that lead to PMO.

    Let's say, I don't know, you play sexy computer games or something. If you know something has sexual content, and it's going to arouse you then you PMO... stop doing that.

    @safa61947

    Let me offer something nobody else has. Have you considered that you are not yet ready to quit PMO?

    If you go to my journal you'll find I've quit more than PMO, and it's staggered.. I started with soda … I had a 2 litre a day habit, then sugar, then refined sugar....

    Quit something OTHER than PMO. Keep masturbating for now.

    Do 20 push ups a day for a couple weeks. Walk the dog every day.

    Get something else into your life that you can be proud of and build your confidence. You need something that you do every day, something 'significant'. 20 push ups a day, walk the dog, clean your room or something that requires effort, but you know would make a productive change.

    Then make ANOTHER change..... and ANOTHER after that.

    When you finally have three things that you have under control, try PMO then. You'll feel like a new man because you are bolstered by the other successes in your life. Do NOT try to quit PMO until you have three other things in your life that you've kept going for awhile.

    This is what I did, and it's worked for me.

    Check out my journal.

    Let's work on your ability, confidence and strength. The same as exercise but for mental ability.

    It's entirely possible this is just too big of a bear to wrestle yet, so let's learn to wrestle bear cubs first, then we can take on mama bear.

    I can see from your journal you are reaching a place of despondency, so let's try backing away from that and building you up some. Approaching this while desperate, fatigued and sad will not let you focus your strengths on it.

    @ItsInTheBag what do you think?
     
    Last edited: Sep 30, 2019
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  16. The most efficient tool, as stated above, are accountability apps and software.

    I use Ever Accountable on Android and Mac.

    In terms of blockers, what you can do about the password is:
    1. Go to random.org, and generate a 16 character string that you can use as your password.
    2. Go to futureme.org and send an email to yourself with the password. You can chose when you will receive the password. Select 1 month, 2 months or one year, whatever time is best for you.
    3. Be warned: u wont be able to get the password back until you receive it by email.
     
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  17. StonePlacidity

    StonePlacidity Fapstronaut

    nothing can stop you, porn blocker is a force from the outside. You have to stop yourself from wanting to watch porn from the INSIDE
     
  18. Make a long random password and burn it or let somebody set it up for you and that should be a stranger whom you will never meet again. Lots of ideas.
     
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