Prostitution - does a reboot help me?

NoFap helped me to quit PMO but my mistake was to use escorts during my recovery... now I have two problems.

 

You can stop. Weigh in the options. If you are not handicapped and there is nothing wrong with how you look or who you really are you don't need to see a prostitute. When you do stop. You won't be that man anymore. You will become a much better person. You will have control over yourself.

 

Does NoFap cause people to cheat. I have done pmo for 3 days. I have already thought about buying a pack of condoms and going out to have sex with another person

 

Hello @The Viking,

Brother, I am 21 years old and I think my withdrawal from porn is making me consider turning to prostitution. Though I haven't engaged with a prostitute yet, I feel like I AM ON THE VERGE OF STARTING.
I am doing everything in my power from not going, as I know going to this lifestyle can get really ugly, real fast.
For me particularly it is these dam massage parlors that offer prostitution services. I do not want to go because I know most of the women involved are actually victims of human trafficking, and I definitely do not want to support this in even the slightest way.

Could you give me any advice brother?

If you have time, I would really appreciate a response from you. Best regards

 

As long as you haven't gotten into yet, you are good.
But once you start, it will be very hard to pull yourself out. Listen, i was in a similar situation with sexting, and that could have lead to a whole new realm of really bad stuff, like private webcams, possibly even prostitution too. You would be opening a whole can of filthy worms. Just stop and catch yourself now, before it escalates. You will thank yourself later. Don't spend your money and please don't lose your soul by investing into prostitutes.

Don't think about venturing there mate, please. I would post a thread voicing your concerns about this and i'm sure many people will respond.

"once down the dark path, forever will it dominate your destiny"- master yoda

 

Guys, try not to get stuck on the word porn. NoFap uses the word porn to convey the concept of any superficial and artificial stimulation of sexual senses. This includes prostitution.

Now, whether or not you believe what I said just, I would encourage you to consider (perhaps adopt?) this mindset. The reason is that attempting to satisfy your natural urges with superficial methods (aka taking the easy way out) will never work.

Either practice meditation, or find a real woman. I would say any other option is a waste of precious time and energy.

 

Yup, the urge is still there so you're trying to satisfy it in other ways. You seem aware of the situation. Let your PREFRONTAL CORTEX decide on what is best...

 

We say 'just a quick look', or 'just one more time', or 'I cannot stop myself'. Our biological desire is getting us to lie to ourselves.

 

I am trying to use more official/medical terminology so as to not use arousing language. So 'fake t**s' becomes 'breast surgery', for example. Plus the abbreviation 'porn' has quite strong associations.

 

Day 2 for me!! Sick of it all, and can relate to so much here. Actually really looking forward to complete abstain . I have a very addictive personality but managed to beat cigarettes, alcohol drugs but escorts have been the hardest!

 

Understandable, after all the adiction to women is the hardest one to control... but you can do it, every day is a victory!

 

This makes me wonder if porn/escort addiction is harder to get off of than heroin/meth and those kind of drugs... I've never thought about trying hard drugs after the effects porn has had on me, its just not worth it man.

 

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agree it is harder. I wasn't into hard drugs but even the softer ones it was all or nothing. The amount I've spent, the lies, the guilt! I went over a year before and one day just decided ah sure I deserve a break and to enjoy myself as was working hard and studying!! What an idiot, got much worse when I got back. Last few weeks been seeing one every 3 to 4 days carrying out mad fantasies. Feel like shit after it. But this site is just what I needed, felt very alone with no one to speak to about it, actually excited about giving this a real go again, I'm giving up escorts, porn, masturbation, having a regular exercise regime and getting into meditation with head space app! Fingers crossed, had very strong urges yesterday to see one that I saw a few days back but resisted usually I would find some mad justification to do it but was delighted I got through it.

 

You've answered your own question partly, by mentioning trafficking. Imagine the hell of being kidnapped, trafficked, beaten and raped. Imagine it was you or a female that is close to you. Trickier are the 'elite' ones who choose to do it for whatever reason. With these, I would say this: try to command your desires and actions, almost like being your own parent or commander. Look up the prefrontal cortex and limbic system. Basically, I think it means the front bit of your brain can make correct decisions or incorrect ones if it allows itself to be influenced by desires and emotions. Keep going.

 

Jumping in on this thread as I too am addicted to prostitute use and have been for some 30 years. Started with monthly HJs and progressed to (on occasions) weekly visits to massage parlours for full sex. My wife had a very early menopause (although Id started before that) and drinking, presence of dogs and kids and a period when we both flirted with Coke addiction meant our home sex life was very sparse. I'm far form off it but i am controlling the regularity much better after sticking to NoFap for a year or so. Its an aggressive form of addiction and Id love to be free of it.

 

So your off prostitutes for over a year? Thats unreal progress if so well done.

 

I wish!
No, ive managed to regulate, moderate this habit thanks to a year or so on NoFap but it still has me in its grip. If Im honest I dont see me getting free of it any time soon - others have described in this forum how despite all the knowledge and understanding of the addiction it can still sweep you away into behaviours you are trying earnestly to stop and know are against all your principles and morals yet we go right ahead and do them.
I sometimes think that there must be some kind of hidden key that we have to find that will finally kick outour addiction - the search for it is what we are all doing here - we know it's out there and we want it so badly yet something has to change something has to be found to make the switch to a better life and avoidance of these darker habits.

 

Yeah .an understand that alright! Listen message me directly if you ever get the urges and I'll try help you out, I find that I need something to distract me and focus my attention elsewhere, once I have that and someone speaking sense and providing support I know I'll come to my senses!

 

One thing I found that helped me kick it for over a year was in my work calendar setting days, like day 1 then 3 weeks later day 22 etc. It would remind to keep clean but also gives me a goal and something to focus on, when I hit day 300 before I was on top of the moon, it was my own stupidity that ended me back here again!

 

My counter only reflects PMO. I've got a handle on PMO now, but I'm deep into hookers. I'm in my 60s, so I can't do it every day. If I was younger, it would be much worse.