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Question About How to Deal With Urges; Would Love Help from Someone Experienced

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by FPRA, Jul 28, 2018.

  1. FPRA

    FPRA Fapstronaut

    Hello,

    Last week I broke my streak of 4 weeks and I also relapsed today. I am trying to cut down on my triggers but I feel like I can try and cut them all out and it still won't make a difference. I have started working out more, drastically cut down my time on my computer, started reading more books, and tried to do more activities. I have totally cut out reddit, facebook isn't on my phone (and I don't use it much on my laptop), and Instagram I was able to get an app with only the messenger (I need it because for some of my dance friends it is my only communication. It does allow me to see profiles though which has been an issue.)

    The problem is I still get sexual urges for porn. It just creeps into my head and I feel like as soon as they come, I have no way to get them out. I can resist them for a few days even, but eventually I break. It comes first as really desiring sex, then devolves into wanting porn. For those days I can't think about anything but the desire. Nothing seems to break it: today I felt horny so I went out to eat with my brother to try and get my mind off of it yet I still masturbated. The other week I tried going out to a dance event to refocus, but as soon as the event ended I could not stop thinking about masturbating.

    I've always thought that human connection or food could help (my blood sugar can be unstable even though I am not a diabetic and that low sometimes makes me want to masturbate). Now I have trouble resisting because I just can't see a light at the end of the tunnel; I feel like once I get the urge im already gone. I am trying to cut out all of the triggers I can, but I can't cut absolutely all of them without isolating myself from my friends.

    The simple cure to this is of course be busy with school and work, but my summer classes ended and my job ran out of funding a month ago, so its kinda too late to get another one before school starts (Its complicated). I have a month before school starts and I really want to avoid porn for that month. Once school starts it will be a lot easier.

    I'm just wondering if you guys have any ideas on how to deal with the urges. Thanks
     
  2. Woodcutter74

    Woodcutter74 Fapstronaut

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    Cold showers.
    Read books on meditation.
    Walk for an hour to calm your mind.
    Remember that sexual desires are normal but are temporary. It does not last 24/7
    Learn more about the art of manliness online.
    Practice a hobby.
    Learn more about sexual transmutation and how you can use that energy to accomplish great things

    Also remember that with porn, you are only seeing a two dimensional women on screen, digital but not real. It is not like being with a real women, touching her, smelling her, kissing her. The real woman is a thousand times better.

    Know on Nofap, you are not alone. Thousands and millions of guys go through the same thing. And surprisingly many women too need sex too and are not getting it.

    If I have more ideas, I will send them to you friend.
     
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