Question about masturbation vs sex.

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  1. janvandersteen

    janvandersteen Fapstronaut

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    I don't watch porn. I blocked myself from all porn a long time ago, and haven't really been watching it since. I got through a successful 90day nofap about a year ago. At some point I relapsed, but without porn this time. I masturbate weekly. I want to stop, but well... the urges are real. After masturbating I always feel empty for the next two days (even though I only do it weekly). I am 24yo and still virgin.

    Recently I was chatting with a friend who has a girlfriend. They have sex frequently. I wonder how this compares to my pornless masturbation. The body doesn't really see a difference between stroking yourself and sex, right? You still get this reward (orgasm), which negatively affects the pleasure balance...? Or is there something I'm missing?
     
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  2. I don't know. Personally, I am planning on avoiding sex during my reboot. I'm not really a porn addict as much as a masturbation addict. Porn just makes the masturbation problem worse for me. I am a 21 virgin myself, but what's another 90 days right?
     
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  3. Psalm27:1my light

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    It’s hard to explain but it’s completely different. Masturbation is all about self pleasure. Sex has an emotional connection component, if it’s with someone you care about. Self pleasure leaves you feeling empty. Sex leaves you feeling content. At least for me. My husband has described it that way as well. I think it’s different though if you have sex with someone you’re just using, ie an escort. That also leaves you empty. That’s just my opinion.
     
  4. janvandersteen

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    Thanks for your answer, it makes a lot of sense to me.
     
  5. IbrahimViking

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    Your brain knows the difference. The hormones that are released are different. You yourself start assotiating pleasure with sexual unity with a partner rather than something you do in secret, alone, and hide.
     
  6. Envoy-ofthe-End

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    Wrong. I've had sex and busted nuts 3 times in a row and the next day I feel great. Either went to the gym and did heavy squats or went mountain climbing with some friends, albeit with a bit less stamina.

    Jacking off just makes you mentally weak, because if you pleasure yourself you didn't earn that pleasure. You feel ackward if you do it alone.
     
  7. ok some of these responses are funny. The real difference between masturbating and having real sex is that. Masturbation will hurt your sexual performance. a woman cant please a man, as well as a man's own hand, can please a man. so if you make your self accustomed to the high-pressure heavy grip of your own hand, you won't be able to do your thing naturally the way most women would prefer during respectful sex.
     
  8. InappropriateUsername

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    Bro, I could write a book on the differences between masturbation vs. real sex. Sex is connection, a dynamic with two people, completely different just on a sensory level. Feeling is different than your fist.
     
  9. Envoy-ofthe-End

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    Seems like you don´t have much experience with sex and pmo. It gravely affects your mentality and pleasuring yourself most often than not turns men into dimwit failures. There are vast differences, considering first off I´ve never met another masculine dude that just jerks off. And you can tell who´s head is fucked up because they can´t look at you in the eyes.
     
  10. I look people in the eye and my heads messed up just like everyone else. Haha
     
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  11. goodmimosa

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    The main question is which of them is better.....
    Being a virgin for religious reasons and doing PMO..... is also a sin as sex

    Masturbation OR Real sex

    What about sex with prostitutes... Most times, relationships end up with regrets and broken hearts
     
  12. Psalm27:1my light

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    Lol, to a non sex addict, Sex is by far better!! Hands down sex is the bomb! To an addict,masturbation seems to be better, my husband use to turn down sex every day. Nothing quite as nice as sex with someone you love. I think it may be different though if you don’t love them, I’m sure it would feel great during sex but maybe followed up with regret?
     
  13. I have had sex many times and it's always better than masturbation by far.

    It's hard to describe sex to a virgin who has never had sex. I remember losing virginity and I was like, "wow so that's what sex is like". Blew my mind away. The physical connection, the initmacy, the emotional connection between me and a girl was intense during sex. made me appreciate DEEPER on the beautiful union between a man and a woman.

    Most of the times losing virginity is always awkward and that's perfectly okay. The real magic is when you really are in love with a girl and you have sex with her. That's 10 million times percent better than masturbation by far.

    It's apples and oranges in comparsion (masturbation vs sex). I hope your first time will be fun! Find a girl that you really care about. Don't lose it to an escort.
     

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