Question for people with good streaks

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by buffness, Feb 22, 2020.

  1. buffness

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    What drives you guys to reach over 30 days? I really want to quit P&M because I absolutely hate holding the title of being a wanker as it makes me feel cowardly and weak which in turn shatters my self-esteem and confidence, but I fail every single time. On average my nofap streaks barely last a day and the longest I've went was around 12 days. Every time I relapse, I calm myself down and promise that my next streak will be legendary but it never is. It's always the same. I'm stuck in a cycle. How do you guys do it?
     
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  2. Kligor

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    Hi buddy.My best streak was 269 days hardmode,i relapsed might 1.5 month ago.Now i m on 12 streak days.Always remember why you started nofap,remember how bad PMO effect to your life,be truth to yourself.Avoid any type of sexual stimulation.Porn are not natural.Remember this,this might change your mind for some long time.Porn is pure illusion,all of that sexual fantasies you imagine will never come true,watching porn is nothing else than losing time,damaging your dopamine,losing your semen,living life with big dark circles under eyes,low energy level,porn is evil and porn is trap made for weak minded people.
    Wish you all the best buddy,keep going!
     
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  3. kropo82

    kropo82 Fapstronaut

    I'd been failing to stop for six years then I found this site. The combination of support, encouragement, and challenge I found here helped me put the final pieces in place. My journal here was important, it gave me a way to ask for help and it was somewhere for me to reflect on the different techniques I read about here and tried for myself. Good luck.
     
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  4. fg4795

    fg4795 Fapstronaut

    I know that probably it's not what you want to hear, because you would like me to tell some secret code I discovered, but simply we reached a point where for us enough was enough. I mean it is not necessary something really negative but you came to a point in which you say I can't be that person anymore, and then you start, you conquer ony 20 days, but you want to improve again because you do not want to go back,so you go 30, 40 50 and so on. If you're stuck it means that your why is still weak, you would like to quit, but deep in your mind you are sure that is not a serious problem so in the end the relapse thought is still here in your mind and will conquer you. Now you have to be the conquerer.
    Find your why and design your way.
    Here something that may help you find it and relax when the bad times will occur:
    -Healthy eating( Avoid too much sugar)
    -Exercise( can break the tension you have within)
    -Meditation(Will help to know yourself better and find your why and your goal)
    -Avoid P-subs( Erotic films, half-naked dancing model on IG and stuff like that)
    -Avoid replacment of addiction( e.g. if to not masturbate you have to watch brainlessly TV 12 hours per day you're achieving nothing)
    This is about Nofap. The others tips you will find in here(cold shower, no social and stuff like these) are not necessary for a good streak, these are things about self-improvement but as I already told you, you will understand this when you will find the why behind the streak.
    Find your why my friend and you will conquer the world.
     
  5. IGY

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    I am not wanting to put you down, but your problem is right there in that sentence... "my next streak will be legendary". Those of us that have been attempting this for a long time can tell you it is bloody hard to make progress with this issue. But if you have unrealistic expectations, you are setting yourself up to fail. So, I recommend you set achievable goals. If necessary one day at a time. Complete one successful day and aim to add a second... a third... and so on. If you are really struggling break the day up. Make sure you do not relapse when you wake up. Don't have a quickie in the school toilets. :rolleyes: Concentrate on staying clean in the evening and do not have your phone/laptop on when you go to bed. Slow and steady.
     
  6. scarecrow1

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    I would say I needed motivation to hit on REAL women in social settings.

    You need balls so to speak to approach a woman and risk rejection.

    You don’t need that when you are searching for adult movies or using prostitution.

    I made a decision, got rid of all internet, and tried not to look back.

    do the same
     
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  7. buffness

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    Yeah I'll give this method a shot. I've just been relying on the cold turkey method for the past 4 years with fuck all progress.
     
  8. IGY

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    How about writing about your masturbation and porn problem in the section New to NoFap? It is a way people can get to know the specific issues you have and people that relate to what you say will comment. From that, you might find a boy to be an accountability partner. It is much better than doing it alone. Just be honest, no one here will judge you brother. :)
     
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  9. buffness

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    Yeah, one of my 2020 goals is to get a girlfriend which is gonna be a little hard for me because I'm only 17 this year and don't go to school anymore (I study online now) so I'm gonna have to ask out chicks in public lol. I tried to get this one chick from school last year but the big man got rejected. I kinda cringe when I think back on my pathetic attempt but eh, at least I learnt something..
     
  10. buffness

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    Yeah I'll give it a try, I just wanted some expert advice/opinion.
     
  11. phwrancesco

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    Only commitment. If can't even get to 30 days, then you're wasting your time here.
     
  12. at first, it was dellusions and bluepilled mentality. but as i progressed, i realized some things and i developed other commitments way more demanding than nofap whcih made nofap a lot easieer
     
  13. Jonnyb4

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    These basically sum up my advice entirely. The WHY is the big driving force to keep you going when it gets tough. Make that reason so big n strong n clear in your mind that there isn't a relapse waiting around the corner.

    I'd tried stopping it all many times before nofap. But never had a real reason WHY. I was just quitting because I knew I should. Never lasted more than a few days. I joined here, started posting about my feelings to it all, reading and commenting on other posts and found my WHY.

    80 odd days later here I am still going, and it's getting easier all the time.
     
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  14. Haddock

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    Take one day after the other. Don't try to achieve a legendary streak. Start with a small challenge, even if it seems easy to you. Try 7 days. Then, add one more day. You made 8 days. Great. Why stop here ? You surely can go to 9 !

    I'm currently with 128 days with no PMO before me. I didn't try to reach 128. I started with 80 days as I knew I already succeed such a streak. It was a first step. Then I took the days one after the other. Every day I woke up and tell myself "I do not want to reset my counter today." Try my "method" instead of starting a "legendary streak". I'm sure you're really motivated when you say so but the motivation it does not stay long... This is why you only need to stay motivated one day, but the day is TODAY.
     
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  15. Marshall 5

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    Be prepared to suffer. You need a fighting mentality. It won’t be easier next time. The urges will be just as strong next time around.... but YOU will be stronger!

    For me, daily exercise has been crucial. I feel physically stronger and more positive, plus I get that energy out.

    Getting past those first 2-3 weeks is important, because even though every week has challenges, you at least might start to weaken various other habits and behavioral patterns that often lead to PMO.
     
  16. JR-62

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    Man this is so true. I’m just coming back on here. I did really good and then thought I was too hot for this place. I did okay for a while. But there something powerful to have the support of others who have stood where you do now. Once I relapsed it has gotten really ugly, There was no one to help me get back up and the momentum just carried me down.
     
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  17. There is no secret formula i realized unless you are delivered through the Holy Spirit; even then you have to be alert and watchful that you don’t backslide. You have to hate pmo and be determined.
     
  18. Philip Bruen

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    The first couple of weeks are the toughest for cravings, see if you can hold strong for them and I promise it will get easier, you'll also notice positive effects about round then so that they should give you motivation.
     
  19. OhWhenThe

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    Honestly .... for me I think I fapped once too many and broke my libido, before that I'd really struggle to even get to day 2 as I felt genuinely horny all the damn time. I'm coming up to week 5 now and it's been easy, I just hope I can get that horniness back but this time I promise myself I won't abuse it and will channel it into more productive areas rather than fapping it away.
     
  20. buffness

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    So what is your why if you don't mind me asking?
     

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