I would like to ask the SO's of something that happened with my SO today. My wife is beginning the painful process of reckoning my PA and sex addiction (including a past with strip clubs and prostitution) with our life of 21 years together. My task was to sit with her intense emotions as she is going this process of reckoning. Here are my questions: 1) did most of the reckoning or reconciling the truth of what happened and coming to terms with the long past happen with other SO's? Perhaps with therapists? What helped you in this reckoning process to go through and deal/integrate the pain rather than run from it? 2) did you process the addiction with your PA directly? Was it in the presence of a therapist, or was it just the two of you? 3) how did you deal with the intensity of the betrayal? 4) Were you able to see the person apart from the addiction? 5) what advice would you give a couple earlier in this journey in this reconciling/reckoning process? Thanks so much. Any insights would be greatly appreciated.