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Questions for 500+ day people

Discussion in 'Abstinence, Retention, and Sexual Transmutation' started by SaturnDaytona456, May 7, 2021.

  1. SaturnDaytona456

    SaturnDaytona456 Fapstronaut

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    These are questions for people who have avoided porn, sex, orgasm (including dry orgasm), and masturbation for 500 (or close to 500) days.

    First a tiny bit of background, I am on day 134 (my longest streak by 3X) and am age 32. I have made lots of improvements to my life and routine in the absence of porn and I believe that I am much better off overall. My PRIMARY incentive for forgoing PMO is specifically to transform myself into a more desirable man and a more valuable mate. I have made some observations on the journey that I would like to bring up and get insight from people further down the road:

    1. My flatline periods have changed and somewhat slowed but I seem more energetic and social even while experiencing them. I have been told before that "eventually the flatline periods end" but I am curious what to expect as the months go on. When my flatline IS bad my overall wellness is comparable to when I was using porn every day. Is there a point when a fapstronaut "levels out" and experiences more stability and high energy all (or most) of the time? I feel like I'm getting closer to that but my goal is to go a year minimum.

    2. My benefits seem to have changed as well. April was a very wonky month for me and I struggled with a ton of doubt and "new flatline" where my average mood was somewhat poor and I didn't feel like myself most of the time. I would catch myself getting flustered and I didn't do great talking to women. I still had benefits much of the time but I seemed to feel quite a bit worse than the month before. I keep noticing changes in my mood and actions. The way I perceive myself is CERTAINLY transforming. In any case, this months abundant flatline was less painful than the shorter more intense flatline I experienced early on. Will the flatline periods continue to become more and more tolerable? Is it possible that they will disappear?

    3. Do you lose attraction to women you used to find attractive? Does it change your standards in a way? Are you still interested in women at all? What should I expect going into the next several months?

    I don't want to hear advice from the "I never want to orgasm again" or "orgasm should only be achieved when conceiving a child" people. That may be who you are but it's not who I am- real sex is a value for me. I DO want to have orgasm I just need it to be real and powerful instead of as part of an illusion. I tell myself that sex is real and masturbation is fake; I value sex and sexual release but hold masturbation to blame for my lack of sexual ambition through my teens and twenties. I am obviously trying to correct that now.
     
  2. I started retention on November 23rd, 2019. My plan is not to engage in any sexual activity whatsoever until I am capable of achieving erection by thoughts alone. However long it takes is however long it takes. As it stands I suspect I could easily achieve an erection through masturbation or sex but obviously I am not testing that.

    To answer your questions:

    1. Looking at post withdrawal is like looking at a graph of the stock market. Short term there can be volatile fluctuations but long term trends are positive. Overall I am doing much better than I was during the first year of retention. I still get mild headaches, a bit of brain fog, and indigestion now and then but nothing like before. In terms of sexual health, for the first six months of my reboot my dick was D-E-A-D. Nothing. No feeling whatsoever. Now I am regaining sensitivity and there have been a couple of times where I got a semi through thought alone. I'll probably need another six months or so to feel like I've fully rebooted.

    I recently posted in the PAWS thread about how my back acne, which started after I began my streak, has recently disappeared. So it seems there are still physiological changes taking place.

    2. Everybody is different so I can't give you a definitive answer. I went through PAWS after quitting drinking some years back. For 20 months I was severely depressed and suicidal and then somehow in month 21 I woke up one morning and felt amazing. My post withdrawal from sex addiction has been completely different, it has been more of a gradual recovery. Nothing we can do but to press forward.

    3. Overall women have become much more beautiful to me but not in a tits and ass way. I don't know if I can explain this well but I find myself drawn to the overall feminine aura. Receiving a coy smile and hair toss activates my primal brain like nothing else these days.

    A woman's hair. A woman's eyes. A woman's smile. A woman's gait. A woman's smell. These are things I notice much more than I ever did in the past.
     
  3. hulkfresh23

    hulkfresh23 Fapstronaut

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    i really liked your questions, i am overing the 199 days and i feel great. the main thing i would like to say you is dont be obssesive about anything just enjoy the trip and feel the strong that nofap give you. there are a lot of thing i have in my mind to share with you as a for example: like flapline and loneless but at the end of the day even more when i dont have sex with no woman i feel that i need it. i was busy for the last 6 month, i hanged out with friend i was witn my family i my mental health was stable. every day i feel good, no desequilibrium. always fine. before i remember i was more ungry or without mood to do stuff do you know what i mean? like tired and now i am ready for anything. with the girls. i would like to have more girls to be honest but i cant complain i thing before i was more succesfull thant now but its because before i didn't care if the girls was pretty or udgly lol i my hole of messure was wide haha from my start until now all the girl who i had sex was so prettyand i feel prouf of it. that if not an importa thing but its for me. i goona post my trip with more detail forward my trip is amazing and somebody can take it as an inspiration. i think now with a huge pectective that the fap is a shit
     

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