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Questions for all the fapstronauts out there

Discussion in 'Self Improvement' started by camphalfblood, Oct 23, 2014.

  1. Oct 23, 2014 #1
    camphalfblood

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    1. So I noticed that most of you said girls pay more attention to you once you go hard mode for about two weeks or more. I wonder if the same thing applies to girls. Like if a girl went hard mode, will you guys notice her more? Will there be some stronger signals from the girl, or not?

    2. Suppose you know someone from your middle school or high school, I mean, you only know them by name, it's not like you're friends with them, you just sort of recognize each other. Then they started to flirt with you by first liking your facebook statuses, commenting, chatting, eventually asking for a phone number, etc. How would you feel about this kind of flirting? Because it's not like they're totally a stranger.

    3. Can you recommend some good fitness and beauty forums? I'd like to make improvements in those areas too, but I feel like nofap is not exactly the right place to share my progress in that area.

    Thank you so much in advance.
     
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  2. Oct 23, 2014 #2
    Caveat Emptor

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    1. A big part of the reason why people are noticed more is (supposedly) the limbal rings in your eyes. Shortly after an orgasm, they tend to fade, and darken again a few days later, which makes the whole eye appear brighter, which people subconsciously find very attractive. This applies to all people, so yes, girls should get noticed more too, after abstaining for a while. I did a quick google search and found this, which explains it in a little more detail. There hasn't been much research on how orgasms affect the limbal rings, but its a nice theory that encourages Fapstronauts to stay clean.

    2. Why wouldn't you embrace that flirting? All lovers start as strangers or near-strangers (classmates, neighbors, etc.) If you're in that situation, what's preventing you from flirting back?

    3. I don't any specific forums for fitness and/or beauty but there are often fitness threads in the Self Improvement section of NoFap.
     
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  3. Oct 23, 2014 #3
    CommittedtothePath

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    It is unlikely to change your facial attractiveness. It will largely change your mentality and confidence. That will make you more succesful with women but don't expect miracles. Its not like you will be elevated to the state where you can attract any woman you want, that is about the biometrics of your face - i.e. your genetics.

    Staying sobre is still a massive advantage as addiction is a state where you are continuously depleted of your vital sexual energy and all the attendent changes that has when actually directed into positive behaviours. If continuously addicted and only average looking, you are unlikely to exude any positive traits to women at all.

    All that said, some really good looking guys watch porn and still pull women quite easily. Whether or not they will be successful in the long term is obviously a different story. Do your best and dont focus too much on the exterior, you cannot change it.

    EDIT: sorry didnt realise you were a girl not a guy. Still applicable but just change the genders around. Apologies.
     
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  4. Oct 24, 2014 #4
    CasualMe95

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    1. Obviously she will have more hormones and smells etc. Things that females use to naturally attract men and turn us on without us even knowing about it.

    2. I would be thrilled and not hesitate for a second if that happened to me.

    3. Yes I can. I'm extremely passionate about that myself but first I need to know what you would like to see/ discover before I can direct you.
     
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  5. Oct 25, 2014 #5
    Pellaeon

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    Hi CampHalfblood (love the reference by the way. Ride them fish ponies!),

    I don't really know many fitness forums, but if you're looking for advice on how to get more attention from guys, I highly recommend http://www.therulesrevisited.com. His advice on beauty that guys actually pay attention to (as oppposed to "beauty" that appeals to women's sensibilities but doesn't really help you attract more men) and how to entice more men to hit on you is spot on.

    Also, if you're willing to take some of the initiative yourself, there is an appendix at the end of Confessions of a Pickup Artist Chaser that gives some perspective on how a woman can initiate flirting with a guy while still making it appear that the guy was the one who did all the chasing. Supposedly the appendix is available for free somewhere on the internet as a post on some forum...I've never been able to find it.
     
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  6. Oct 26, 2014 #6
    camphalfblood

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    giggleshmack - I honestly have never heard about the limbal rings! Will do some research on that later.
    Not in the sense that someone is flirting to me like that, actually. Instead, I'd like to flirt to someone like that, so that's why I asked you how you would react. :) Thanks though.

    CommittedtothePath - um, yeah. Actually realized that. But then again, sometimes it's not the face that gets my attention, it's... something else... that I can't identify. I do believe now that the same thing applies to girls too, because I have seen really pretty lonely girls and the more average-looking girls who are happy with a guy.

    CasualMe95 - basic beginner stuff, I guess? I'm literally a complete noob who only know the basics of beauty stuff and absolutely nothing about sports or exercising. I'm about 7 or 8 kilograms overweight and would like to lose that much weight and then maintain my healthy weight. I also have a problem about not being able to stand up straight, my shoulders are somehow always a little bit hunched. I'd like to have a better figure.

    Pellaeon - thanks for recognizing the reference. :') The site you gave actually gave me a headache, because the posts in it are so thought-provoking in ways I've never thought possible... especially in the area of "making my first move". I have yet to check the book you mentioned. But the posts about controllable beauty really gets me. Thank you.
     
    camphalfblood, Oct 26, 2014
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