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HemingwayBing · Feb 1, 2018

I'm 20 and there was a point in high school where my life seemed so promising and now I'm a college dropout, completely lack motivation and suffer from bad anxiety. After learning and hearing other peoples stories about nofap, I knew it was what I need to do. I'm now on day 7 and honestly it hasn't been that hard for me to refrain from PMO I guess I have strong willpower and I just know I need to stop but I still sometimes find myself having bad thoughts to which I begin to get aroused but so far I've been able to refrain put those thoughts away and do something else. Im sure most of us PMO addicts all have gone through "fetishes" in porn watching, I know ive gotten into some pretty messed up stuff that I regret. So I guess my question for you is, do the thoughts and desires of the messed up fetishes go away? I need to know. I feel really guilty about some of the things Ive thought about while being under the wicked PMO spell and I just don't want to believe that thats me. I can refrain PMO, sure, but do the thoughts go away? The messed up ones at least, I know there will always be sexual desire. Please reply somone I'm new to nofap and could use people to talk to about it. Thanks.

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Septimus · Feb 1, 2018

Welcome! I'm glad you're here.

You ask:

HemingwayBing said: ↑

So I guess my question for you is, do the thoughts and desires of the messed up fetishes go away? I need to know. I feel really guilty about some of the things Ive thought about while being under the wicked PMO spell and I just don't want to believe that thats me. I can refrain PMO, sure, but do the thoughts go away? The messed up ones at least, I know there will always be sexual desire. Please reply somone I'm new to nofap and could use people to talk to about it. Thanks.
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My experience is that you can get past the vivid memories of porn images, of fantasies, and other things associated with fetishes. Here are a couple of things that help for me:

1. When unwelcome and unwholesome thoughts come along, immediately change the focus of your thoughts. What I found helpful was to think of very specific things that aren't sexual, like apples or bricks or trees. As soon as I tell my mind to think of "trees," then I immediately am thinking about trees. It works really well to displace thoughts that are trouble.

2. I pray; if this is something you are open to, try it. Try inviting God into your thoughts; ask God's help. Talk to God about what you are feeling and experiencing. One way this has helped me is that I have sometimes come to see that there is something deeper at work in my fantasies and fetishes, and that something deeper isn't really sexual or even bad at all. It represents something I want or need, disguised as something sexual. Focusing directly on that underlying issue is a great thing to do.

3. I also found it helpful to pray specifically for God to take away the inventory of images that I'd filled my head with. This worked really well for me. I would pause and pray, and imagine myself "pulling" or moving the stack of images, from my head, and giving them to God. Maybe that sounds silly, but it worked.

I'm sure others may have suggestions as well.

HemingwayBing · Feb 1, 2018

Very helpful thanks I used to pray a lot years ago before the PMO ago got really bad, so connecting with god is definitely something I'm going to start again. Thanks for the the advice but mostly thanks for just replying, it really helps to have someone lend out their help and support really makes me feel stronger and not so alone in this journey.

Septimus said: ↑

Welcome! I'm glad you're here.

You ask:

My experience is that you can get past the vivid memories of porn images, of fantasies, and other things associated with fetishes. Here are a couple of things that help for me:

1. When unwelcome and unwholesome thoughts come along, immediately change the focus of your thoughts. What I found helpful was to think of very specific things that aren't sexual, like apples or bricks or trees. As soon as I tell my mind to think of "trees," then I immediately am thinking about trees. It works really well to displace thoughts that are trouble.

2. I pray; if this is something you are open to, try it. Try inviting God into your thoughts; ask God's help. Talk to God about what you are feeling and experiencing. One way this has helped me is that I have sometimes come to see that there is something deeper at work in my fantasies and fetishes, and that something deeper isn't really sexual or even bad at all. It represents something I want or need, disguised as something sexual. Focusing directly on that underlying issue is a great thing to do.

3. I also found it helpful to pray specifically for God to take away the inventory of images that I'd filled my head with. This worked really well for me. I would pause and pray, and imagine myself "pulling" or moving the stack of images, from my head, and giving them to God. Maybe that sounds silly, but it worked.

I'm sure others may have suggestions as well.
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