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questions, THANK YOU

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Mjnycparee, May 12, 2017.

  1. Mjnycparee

    Mjnycparee New Fapstronaut

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    hey guys, I have a question.

    In a few months my boyfriend is coming into town and we will def be having sex. If I can't come from the sex do i leave it at that? or what are the rules?

    Thanks in advance, J
     
  2. Steve Sancteria

    Steve Sancteria Fapstronaut

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    the actual rules are set by yourself :D

    The thing is, during PMO, your brain is having similar activities as doing drugs, however, these activities are different while you have sex with a partner.
    So while real sex is healthy, PMO is the actual un-natural part of the whole thing you try to fix.

    However, staying away from orgasm during reboot has the benefit that you avoid the "chaser-effect" you might wanna google what this exactly is but this bad boy will give you some though days after orgasm.

    As well as staying away from orgasm in general will make it easier for your brain to adjust dopamine receptors and setting up everything to "close default".
    BUT as I said, you are your own boss, you set the rules...I personally would just stay away from porn and self pleasure, having fun with your partner is something else...actually a healthy thing to do if your not overdoing it.
     
  3. Bearish

    Bearish Fapstronaut

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    There are suggestions, as Steve says, and how you structure your recovery journey depends on your goals. It also depends, in your case, on how much a part of your journey the bf is. If you haven't told him anything, then start with that. If he's with you and supporting you, try engaging in intimacy that's not all sex, but relishing each other's company, and let that stand for sex, because really, that's what sex should be about.
     

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