Quickly losing motivation, how long can I keep going?

I can relate to much of what you have said here. I also used to relapse under stress. But as time has progressed I have realised it's not that simple.

To me, nofap is not just about fighting PMO. It's about how you react to a thought or an urge for PMO. Nofap in itself can sometimes get quite stressful. So try not to worried too much. Try keeping your calm and consider a pragmatic approach. Try keeping the pressure on yourself to the minimum. You might fail, but the efforts put in trying will bear you fruits.

Regarding all the other work you have, the only way ahead is Plan and Execute. That's it. But don't make your plans absurdly, take one step at a time (baby steps). I hope that you will be able to come out of the weaker mindset and start solving problems rather than just thinking about them.

 

If you are not giving up you are not losing and im sure you can win!Good luck <3

 

There's something missing from your post: Your why

What is it? Why are you doing this? What do you want to gain?

It's difficult to carry anything through if you don't have a good reason for doing it. Maybe you do have those reasons, but it's extremely valuable to get a good list and go over them consistently (if you're familiar with daily affirmations, I highly recommend them).

People tend to get very attached to numbers and streaks. Those don't really exist, it's just a way of challenging yourself. Conquering the mental game is really the biggest part of this and that is much harder to quantify.

 

I see you were away in Germany and did not relapse.
I find travelling v difficult. Am away from my wonderful wife at present and spinning into difficulty.

I read your thread and am really inspired that you went so long and made such progress. The relapse you have experienced I can understand and my heart goes out to you. Just know that we have all been there and it is not the end of the story.

I find that I beat myself up a lot when this happens to me. Having somewhere like this to direct all that energy helps, if only to connect in and being in a place that people understand what it is to relapse.

very very best wishes to you

L.

 

Well this is something that will get you out of tough situations most of the time but also allow yourself to let loose when you are in not so much stress, you are not a machine.

Also, while planning time is important, I believe that some unplanned time must be kept for our loved ones (esp. parents, or friends or people important to us). What I have seen is that my parents know me the best (my friends might know what I want). So when I am not able to figure something out, I ask for their advice.

 

Hi everything you said hit me like a dagger especially the acne part. i had a 25 day streak in which cystic acne and under surface painful bumps reduced to only one. then i relapsed.. within next two weeks acne got HORRIBLE! omg i felt gross and these under the surface bumps man.. killing me. now i'm at 24 days and the bumps have mostly subsided. it's getting to the healing phase and my skin is better. My biggest motivator for nofap is acne. your skin is so bad because you relapsed so much. even one day of lots of mb and porn set me back in terms of acne for about 2.5 weeks. it's horrible but you must decide: good face or good orgasm? WHY are you allowing yourself to give in to this habit if it's giving you a disease. you wouldn't do something that causes horrible skin problems and disease would you? but you are by continuing this habit so STOP NOW BRO

 

If motivation is your only tool for fighting this, you will lose. That shit is finite.