Quitting masturbation

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by Dajoe411, Nov 30, 2019 at 3:39 AM.

  1. Dajoe411

    Dajoe411 New Fapstronaut

    Hello all,

    I came across noFap looking for a way to stop mastubating totally.

    Before I got here, I was a major visitor to brothels and sex houses (started at age 15). These places are in every corner in my country and very cheap as $3-$10 for a decent round of sex. I thought at first that it was because I didn't have a girlfriend or sex mate so that was why I visited brothels, but it became apparent that I had a problem when I got my first girlfriend and still visited this places even though my partner and I had sex more than 3 times a week.
    This has been the trend with all my other relationships, some times I have multiple partners I have sex with but still visit brothels for cheap thrills in addition to almost daily pornography and masturbation. Luckily for me, I didn't contact any STDs.
    On 1st September 2019, I made a decision never to visit brothels again and since then I have been able to stop. This was largely due to my religious beliefs and prayer. And has been easy to drop this but I still struggle to abstain from porn and masturbation. Even though I have drastically reduce frequency of masturbation, I still masturbate at least three times week.
    My current partner is a virgin, and want to stay so till marriage. Atimes she gives me hand jobs to relief me but these days that's none existent. I have a "side chick" who I have sex with but started to feel guilty cheating on my partner so I had to end that.

    I am 25+ and my heart has remained filled lust. And if I am to be honest, there have been times where I forced my partners to have sex with me (date rape) only to feel guilty and beg for forgiveness. I feel terrible about myself when this happens.

    24th November, I made a decision not to masturbate anymore but the thought keeps coming to mind. Frankly, it is starting to feel like habits than enjoyment. I find myself saying things like "it's time to masturbate" and having a strong feeling to do so just to satisfy that nudge. My plan is to stay 365 days without masturbation. I pray this works.
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  2. romlel

    romlel Fapstronaut


    You took a first, good!
    The path is long but rewarding.
    Have an interesting journey!
  3. Tiger uppercut!

    Tiger uppercut! NoFap Moderator
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