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Quitting Porn and Weed, any advice?

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by Bamac16, Dec 2, 2013.

  1. Bamac16

    Bamac16 New Fapstronaut

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    Ive smoked weed since i was 14 and pretty much started watching porn around the same age, they went hand in hand. Get high, then spend the entire night watching porn. Sometimes i would go from 11pm to 3am! Insane, Now im 23 and while ive been making some progress over the year (ive definitely slowed down on both.) I know I need to quit them both altogether, i want to get back in the dating game. I haven't had a relationship in 5 years, my last relationship suffered because of porn, i thought i couldn't get an erection because i was nervous. Now i know it was all the porn and probably the weed that did me in.
    I just looking for advice and tips of how to make it thru the first 30 days! Mainly on the porn, but if you have tips about weed that would be also to! I want to be healthy, have a normal sexuality, not look at women as sexual objects. The porn i would sometimes find myself watching would make me question whether or not i was 1 step away from becoming a sex addict or something worse. As far as weed goes if anyone's interested, i just don't feel the same about it anymore. I don't have fun when im high, i just feel like shit,spend to much money and end up feeling shitty in general.

    p.s. I'm on day 3 right now and ive been feeling a little bit better, ive had dreams about sex. Which i pretty much expected, but i also find ive been irritable as fuck hah please tell me this goes away. My emotions are insane hah
     
  2. Ubjamin

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    I hear ya man, I too started smoking pot when I was young. I used it as an escape mostly, but I know that's not how most people got started. For me master bating and porn was ten times harder to quit. I still use pot occasionally but I never buy because like you said, MONEY. Honestly PMO was way more addicting than pot, I am on day 11 without porn and masterbation and I think I felt actual physical withdrawals last night before going to bed! I woke up today though and stayed extremely busy and got a ton of shit done. The first couple days after I stopped I too was very irritable, I found working out released a lot of tension, but if your not into that then try meditation. You really just have to focus all that pent up energy away from rage and shit. Focus more on bettering yourself and the transition goes a lot smoother. If you are very serious this is going to be a huge lifestyle change and maybe one of the hardest things in your life, mentally anyway. Idk this is my take on it all, hope this helps and GOOD LUCK!
     
  3. aManaPlanJapanPajamas

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    Binaural Beats + Hypnosis.... try this stuff...
    [video=youtube;qG58o7yeAZU]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qG58o7yeAZU[/video]
     
  4. aManaPlanJapanPajamas

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    Also, I would say that reading things that sound like you are on drugs while being perfectly sober helps immensely. Just replace your mind's burden of craving it's shackles with an insatiatiable craving for enlightenment, like Alice's Adventures in Wonderland. Heck... I even went crazy and read a Book of Mormon until I had an aneurism. ;) (not recommended for me)
    Try the surrealist movement of the 60s, but without drugs. This is pure creativity.

    I think the key here is not to talk with religious clerics about anything...
    From my experience, they usually mean well... but they truly don't know what it's like to do porn... to feel craving... and ultimately to escape a harsh reality for a mere few minutes.

    Why do I want to quit?

    Because I don't want to escape the hell that is this life for a mere few minutes only to find myself unprepared for the next one. I don't mean in a spiritual sense, but realistically... tomorrow I'll feel horrible because of my choice to give in to the ease of the moment.

    Let the imagination run wild, my friend... but only the mind, not the craving within.

    Imagine for now, a voice inside your head that can speak for your thoughts though your lips stay silent. This is your ally... this is your moment of silence in a world in chaos.
     
  5. mikecowan

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    Yea, I was addicted to both. Weed was pretty easy to quit once I stopped hanging with my weed smoking friends. Many of these friends are still hooked on marijuana. Some have suffered health problems from weed and other things. Porn was harder. I got off for a long time. Then fell back in the pit. Got out. And now I have been free of porn for a long time. Pictures of sexy women are used all over the MSM. So you have to not dwell on this soft pictures. Getting off any addiction is a day to day thing. Galatians 2:20 helps me, but I don't want to push my religious views. Best wishes! Keep fighting!
     
  6. yeah, I quit weed almost a year ago and I agree with everyone on here. It's pretty easy once you either stop hanging out with the friends that smoke pot or in my case, throw away your pipe and whatever you keep the weed in. lol I actually found it kind of "therapeutic" in a sense cuz I threw it all over the bridge into a river. Idk if it's, kinda cheesy, or kinda dumb, but either way it was still profound.

    As far as porn goes I look at it like this. On of the last videos I watched, it was one of the casting couch ones where it's like an "interview process" for something bigger and then the guy recording it has his way with the women. And the girl in the video said she needed some money and that's why she was there. The entire time she was very uneasy and you could tell she didn't really want to do anything but the guy in it was convincing enough for her. After he makes her do whatever he wants, she leaves and then comes back in and says her car died. So, the guy gives her a ride only if she blows him on camera. At the very end, she asks if he can make sure the video never gets on the internet because she didn't want to join his program (he was supposed to post the video on certain sites for big name hotshots, so they could get ahold of her and pay to have sex with her). The last 2 minutes were spent where the guy assured her that nothing was going to end up on the internet.

    I had a sort of epiphany or realization after watching this. 1. That poor 18 year old girl, who was very beautiful, thought that this one mistake of hers was going to stay private, and not be out for everyone to see. I think that it is completely stupid to do something like that and not expect the video to go online, but that is for another discussion. And further more, I think it is very naïve to think that this sort of thing only happens to her. So that made me think about some of the porn I watched, and realized that there were probably many other women who realized they made a mistake doing a porno, and then begged to make sure the vid never made it to the internet. 2. Probably the worst thing about it for me was that I had just jacked off to a girl who really didn't want to have sex, and that even though I could see that, I still went ahead and got off to it.

    I guess it comes down to this. Whether we like it or not, porn is and industry comprised of mostly young and desperate women trying to make some money so for reasons I cannot imagine. And if I decide to watch porn, especially when I can tell that the girl does not want to do it, then I
    I'm basically saying that it's okay to manipulate young women for sex on camera or possibly worse (and I say worse because there is some violent crazy porn out there). I decided I didn't want to be apart of that. And I think whether they know it or not, I think subconsciously, many of the guys on here kind of think the same way. We are all better than this and I'm ashamed that I watched and basically promoted that. So stay strong man, I know it's not easy, because even though I mean what I just said, I still struggle. But when I think about this, it helps to fight the urges most times.


    Just as a side note: I realize there are some women that actually want to be in pornography, but it's pretty much impossible to separate those women from the women who are pressured or tricked into porn.

    Good luck and stay strong!
     
  7. My Reasons

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    Try this. If you really have the urge to watch porn then watch 'reverse porn' videos. It'll seem normal at first then it'll make you realize how ridiculous it really is and it's all images on a computer. That's a start.
     
  8. takethecharge

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    I'd say to quit both whatever it takes.

    Both work in some similar ways. You get the high or the orgasm, you stimulate yourself heavily until you reach a peaking state and until this moment everything feels great. But then, after the orgasm and on following hours and days, after smoking pot (especially the next day but the following days too) you are drained of energy, unmotivated, uninspired, you carry social anxiety with you and so you also get miserable results which destroy and sabotage you further more.

    If one could use a metaphor for quitting both it would be sort of like in a movie Limitless. From murky, lost, depressed, fuzzy and wimpy to bright, focused, clear, motivated, firm. Do that shit.
     
  9. marcosharko

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    I think you would be so much better off if you quit both straight away, forever.

    Both weed and porn (this is only my experience) have resulted in terrible 'brain fog'.

    The brain fog that I speak of is this terrible murky feeling, feeling unmotivated, confused, lack of concentration, lack of perspective, poor memory, poor concentration, anxiety, low level depression, etc etc the list goes on and on.

    while you are on porn and weed, the fog itself becomes a barrier to progress. You almost cant beat weed or porn while you are on weed and porn, becuase brain fog weakens your resolve.

    so quit both and get your brain back!

    good luck and stay strong.
     
  10. Mark

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  11. mikecowan

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    I really liked the movie Limitless. It was an interesting science fiction story.
     

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