RE: SSA, What next?

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  1. GeeJ

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    Hey, I am guy who has SSA.

    I have been like this as long as I can remember puberty sucker puching me in the gut.

    So I am a SSA guy, what do I do next?

    I come from a religious background, and I try to lead a so called quote "religious lifestyle".

    It tells you what not to do, but then you are left with so what do I do next?

    The options I am aware of is Singleness which basically involves Celibacy.

    For you guys that do not know this word it basically means lock mister or miss up forever because you aint never gone get none.

    Their is only so much I can fill my life with to endlessely keep myself too busy to realise that I am single for the long haul.

    Is anybody else aware of being SSA and not single.
     
  2. Hi Geej,

    I don’t know what your Faith is but I do understand to a certain extent the daunting feeling of the prospect of life of celibacy. I don’t really want to get into the specifics of my life experiences but I can say a movie called Everlasting Hills helped me.

    https://everlastinghills.org/movie/
     
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  3. GeeJ

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    Thank you, Augie.
     
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  4. onceaking

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    What's SSA?
     
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  5. Same sex attraction
     
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  6. onceaking

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    Oh... I looked it up online and it said it stands for Social Security Administration.
     
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  7. Castielle

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    Hey man! That is definitely a difficult struggle to have. I feel for you. I am attracted to the same sex, but also the opposite sex as well, so it's not as difficult for me.

    I've always struggled with understanding the Bible's views on homosexuality. I mean, it's very clear that God views homosexual behavior as a sin, but I wasn't clear on why.

    These videos from Pastor Mike Winger really helped me so much. I know it's long, but I would really recommend you listen to all of them. Especially if this is an issue you deal with personally, i think it could be really helpful. A few hours is worth your time to have a better understanding of God's view and of what your options are.








    He also has this same content on his podcast, Bible Thinker, which you can find on most any podcast platform. If you prefer that format.
     
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  8. Castielle

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    Also, to this point, I just want to say that I believe God has a plan for your life. And if you are walking in faith and obedience and love for Him, you're not going to live a boring meaningless life. Marriage is great and so is sex, but they are not the source of joy and meaning and purpose. They should not be idols. They are not the most important things in life, and you can have a wonderful, rich, meaningful, and happy life without them. As long as you have God, you will be okay.

    I can tell you that whenever I step out in faith and start pouring more energy and time into my relationship with Jesus and what he wants me to do with my time, it's hard at first, but it NEVER disappoints me. It's ALWAYS a million times better than whatever idea I had for my own future.

    This song always helps me remember that. It talks about how God's dreams for us are so much bigger than our own. Sometimes we hang on so tightly to our own idea of what will make us happy, that we might miss out on the incredible plans God has for our lives.

     
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  9. onceaking

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    You can still be gay and have a faith. Of course, some religious people will have issues with what I've said (I wouldn't be suprised if some them get mad at me over what I've said), but I think there is a way to have a faith and be gay. You can be celibate if you want to but I don't think you have to.





    Matthew Vines and Vicky Beechings have books you might be interested in reading.

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  10. ultrafabber

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    See my topic here, it will help https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.p...atural-progression-from-straight-porn.235514/

    If you need more help getting rid of ssa, let me know
     
  11. GeeJ

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    Thank you, for the advice.
     
  12. GeeJ

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    Thank you, for the support.

    I do not think I will read those 2 books.
    They will conflict with what I believe the Bible says.

    I never really wanted to have SSA feelings and the lifestyle in general displeases me greatly.
    This is another thing I do not get involved.

    I can not speak for anybody else they will have to work out their salvation and can be a difficult road.
    Same sex and opposite sex attracted.
     
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    You can be gay and have faith just like you can be an adulterer and have faith (by praying for forgiveness). That does not mean that you can continue being gay and expect no penalty for it, just like you can't continue to be an adulterer and expect no penalty for it. Being gay is not an identity, it's a behavior.

    The whole premise of repenting is to stop doing the sin.

    There is also no such thing as gay marriage, that is a perversion of Christianity.

    The "LGBT Church" is completely illogical, it's like saying "The Adulterers Church" or "The Thieves Church".

    Just make sure you don't believe the lies of homosexuality not being a sin.. It's definitely a sin. I respect you deeply for fighting to overcome it.
     
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    Hey man, I really respect you for adhering to your religious beliefs despite your situation.
    Over where I live, there are religious therapists and psychologists that try to help young people struggling with SSA. In some cases they've managed to turn around or almost turn around the attraction. It's not foolproof, it doesn't always work, but sometimes it does.
    Another relatively new program is trying to couple together SSA men with SSA women towards marriage. I believe the point of this is that at the very least, each person can understand what their spouse is going through.
     
  16. onceaking

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    You're right about everyone having to work out their own salvation. One of the troubles with many Christians is that they don't accept everyone is on their own journey. I think you can still be a Christian and act on SSA but you should do what you think is right.
     
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  17. ultrafabber

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    It's exactly like saying you can be Christian and keep committing adultery. Stop encouraging Christians to sin, you're doing a very serious offense.
     
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  18. onceaking

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    No I am not. It is not the same thing as adultery. You may think it is a sin but that is your opinion. It's not mine.

    Are you wanting to apply to be my post monitor?
     
  19. ultrafabber

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    No, it is literally a sin. That's very straight forward. As is adultery. As is stealing and so many other sins.

    So is encouraging others to sin and lying about the Bible.

    If i come across other lies and encouragements towards Sin for other Christians, make no mistake that I will intervene. I'm tired of seeing indolent and irresponsible so called Christians destroying Christianity.
     
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  20. onceaking

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    Your understanding of Christianity is actually indolent. I am not irresponsible. I've come to my position after listening to many scholars, educating myself on history and studying scripture. I think you consider the complete picture rather dwelling on the highlights.

    I do not lie about the Bible. You belittle the Bible with your indolentce.
     

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