Reading Journal

Discussion in 'Off-topic Discussion' started by Miguel, Jan 12, 2014.

  1. Miguel

    Miguel Fapstronaut

    Hey friends,

    I'm a newbie to the NoFap community. Along with undertaking the NoFap challenge, one of my other goals for this year is to read more. Today I completed reading (well listening to the audio-book) Dale Carnegie's How to Win Friends and Influence People. I would recommend it to anyone. I will briefly highlight the main points from the book so that maybe you guys can use them in your lives as well. I highly recommend that you take to time to read/listen to the entire book though.

    Part 1: Fundamental Techniques in Handling People

    1. Don't criticize, condemn or complain.
    2. Give honest and sincere appreciation.
    3. Arouse in the other person an eager want.

    Part 2: Six Ways to Make People Like You

    1. Become genuinely interested in other people.
    2. Smile.
    3. Remember that a person's name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.
    4. Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
    5. Talk in terms of the other person's interests.
    6. Make the other person feel important - and do so sincerely.

    Part 3: Win People to Your Way of Thinking

    1. The only way to avoid an argument is to avoid it.
    2. Show respect for the other person's opinions. Never say, "You're wrong."
    3. If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically.
    4. Begin in a friendly way.
    5. Get the other person saying "yes. yes" immediately.
    6. Let the other person do a great deal of the talking.
    7. Let the other person feel like the idea is his or hers.
    8. Try honestly to see things from the other person's point of view.
    9. Be sympathetic with the other person's ideas and desires.
    10.Appeal to the nobler motives.
    11.Dramatize your ideas.
    12.Throw down a challenge.

    Part 4: Be a Leader: How to Change People Without Giving Offence or Arousing Resentment

    1. Begin with praise and honest appreciation.
    2. Call attention to people's mistakes indirectly.
    3. Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person.
    4. Ask questions instead of giving direct orders.
    5. Let the person save face.
    6. Praise the slightest improvement and praise every improvement. Be "hearty in your approbation and lavish in your praise."
    7. Give the other person a fine reputation to live up to.
    8. Use encouragement. Make the fault seem easy to correct.
    9. Make the other person happy about doing the thing you suggest.

    If you guys read any other books that you think will be of benefit to the members of the community, can you make a post with the name of the book and the main points? I'm sure all the members will appreciate it. And I hope the points from this book will help some of you guys as much as it has helped me.
    Last edited: Jan 12, 2014

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