REAL, GENUINE BENEFITS I'VE EXPERIENCED

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by iaj, Jan 2, 2018.

  1. Hitto

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    No problem bro ever since I stopped fapping and porn I've stop being my worst enemy and things like self improvement and self discovery drive me
     
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  2. iaj

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    Ditto Hitto!
     
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  3. Coffee69

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    Reading your post gave a really positive feeling.
    I am only at 34 day of Nofap but I can relate with some of the benefits that you have wrote.
    For me the brain fog has really gone down.
    Also I don't have the feeling of demotivated anymore without any reason especially at work.
    I am married for 3 years now. Now I really feel that my wife is way more beautiful than ever..
    Porn really screwed up your mind.
    There will be no more fap ever for me. I am really determined to overcome this
    super BAD habit.
    Thanks to your post here. It really helps.
     
  4. iaj

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    Thank you for commenting. I'm glad it helped and congrats on 34 days. I'm with you bro about squashing this habit once and for all! I'm not married but that's the next step I want to take in life. Then I'd like to have kids. I'd hate to be a father who faps - there'd be something really awkward about that.
     
  5. zakes

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    Great post!

    THE STRUGGLE CONTINUES, VICTORY IS OURS!
     
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  6. zakes

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    Great post!

    THE STRUGGLE CONTINUES, VICTORY IS OURS!
     
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  7. MarkTT52947

    MarkTT52947 Fapstronaut

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    thanks I am copyig the whole thing and going to check it out offline every day!
     
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  8. iaj

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    Stay strong
     
  9. iaj

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    Thanks man - do whatever helps and congrats on 4 weeks
     
  10. anewversion

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    The big issue I am facing is the shrinkage that happens to the penis.

    After 6 days on nofap my penis just became lifeless. It also get very small.

    Even though with every passing day my mind was getting more and more hungry, my penis didn't even twitch.

    Not even erections.

    It seems like no one mentions this aspect of nofap and it makes sense why things like jelqing exist. When you are nofap unless having regular sex the penises ceases to be an instrument of sex. So it shrinks.
     
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  11. iaj

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    I know what you mean. We fap so much that our manhood is almost always pre or post orgasm. It’s like having a semi 24/7. The intial phase of nofap will make it seem like it’s shrunk in comparison, but it’s only short term. It’ll go back to normal, you just need to get way beyond a week. You can do it!
     
  12. anewversion

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    Serious question. Do you do any penises exercises or edging?

    I consider edging on the whitelist as it maintains penis tumescence.

    Also to get the full benefits of semen retention, edging is encourage. (According to a tantric website I read)
     
  13. iaj

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    No I don’t dude. I believe obsessing over your penis in that way is a part of the same problem. Let it all go and focus on new things entirely.
     
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  14. RetroMike

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    Awesome post! @iaj
     
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  15. anewversion

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    Ok cheers.

    Maybe it's just my addicts brain making excuses.
     
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  16. iaj

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    Yes, exactly! Well said. It's that kind of self-awareness that'll get you through this.
     
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  17. anewversion

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    So you completely abstain?

    Back to my question of shrinkage of the penis. Do you have a GF?

    The one thing noticed during my last streak, is my brain was getting hungrier and hungrier but my penis was lifeless and didn't even twitch.

    It also shrank. Tiny, no more erections.

    Obviously this was temporary as now (I relapsed) I am back to normal but on nofap I shrank.

    Please help me rationalize this.

    For the first time in my life I may have a gf (I'm 36 :rolleyes:) and yet despite deleting my 10 year porn stash I am back on the fapping again. :confused:
     
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  18. MarkTT52947

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    different for everyone. You spent all this time and money tuning your penis to an unnatural bunch of porno anti sexual fantasies. You spent all that time running away from the real world. Like me you HURT your penis and sexuality and what the brain has connected to it, do you think that comes undone in 5 minutes.

    It can take months for your body and mind to rewire themselves but that not just of you stop, but if you replace the negative crap with positive work

    Do not expect the Nobel Prize and 76 willing Virgins jut because for a week you were not fapping. Realize when we do it, we rough ourselves up and it takles a lot of time to unwire it but only if you replace that void with good things.

    Sure it is going to feel disorienting and vacant. You and I did that stuff for a reason. You need just not to stop but to replace that lazy nasty habit and thinking with something completely new.

    WE HAVE TO CHANGE OURSELVES AND OUR LIVES TO STAY FREE
     
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  19. iaj

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    You're clearly on here because you want to quit, so keep the faith and keep going/trying. You said yourself that you think it's your addictive mindset that's obsessing over your size, so that needs to stop. The physical and mental side of this problem will go when you give nofap enough time - don't expect the nofap process to cure you after a week. It's going to take longer. I abstain but I do have a GF. We're both really busy with work and we don't live together so sex is occassional. Otherwise I stay focussed on different things. It gets easier and the benefits are worth the initial struggle.
     
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  20. MarkTT52947

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    Yeah I think for me being clean this little time I have makes me come back to confront demons I fled into porn and masturbation to flee. I know the guilt I felt after going onto the sites and after masturbating got me motivated to make up for it by getting to work on things I was lagging. I know a lot of feelings about myself that I submerged are more open. I know that without porn etc I may be making it up by hiding more with Internet addiction.

    I also know that abusing your penis in masturbation and abusing your sense of sexuality through porn can give you ideas about having problems that are more aprt of the porno mindset and body abuse that you need to shed.

    It became incredibly difficult for me to experience orgasm in sex when I masturbated and the more I masturbated and the more my masturbation was driven by pornographic concepts that got kinkier and kinkier. On the short run, back when I was single, it made me feel and women I circulated with feel I was "good" in bed, and made me feel more concerned with the size of my penis and duration, rather than the enjoyment I experienced and the quality of the relationship I engaged in.

    In the long run it drove me to see myself as a sex object and to see women liking me because of the physical size or duration of my penis, but also drove me to women who were more and more into porn inspired sex. Uniformly, I found that led me to involvement with women who were deeply emotionally disturbed on a level of a regular pattern of finding out the woman involved had a psychotic mental illness at a certain point or carried out other behaviors that were morally and legally incompatible with my life.

    I would not want to be with a woman who could not accept that because of a health situation my sexual organs were not up to some imagined level of size or ardor or duration.

    Moreover, woman are used to men setting upont hem for sex when they do not feel like it and when their health is not up to it, especially when they are used to being with men who are corrupted by sexual addiction and porn addiction. Maybe your girl friend might be more understanding about this than you think.

    Frankly, if your girl friend is NOT going to be understanding about this or not want you because you are not a certain size or duration or performance, she may be a girl, but she is not your friend.

    If you are holding on to a practice that wrecks your body, messes up your mind, and is going to ruin your life to be with this girl or to gain her approval, its your values, its your sense of yourself, it is what this has done to you that has to be changed.

    YOU HAVE THROW ALL THE CRAP THAT COMES FROM MESSING YOURSELF UP INTO THE TOILET AND FLUSH IT OWN. If you had a girl friend who told you she needed you to share a heroin addiction to stay together, you would not worry about how to do it. You would dump her and you would worry about how did you end up with someone like her.

    Start thinking about the whole of your life and trying to make it better and what is some crippled in you that you worry about this. Not downing you, I have been there and done far worse. That is why I care so much about you and everyone else here.

    You need to recenter your whole life. It will take a bunch of time to get over the physical and chemical and mental addiction and as much if not more time to get to the problems inside side that drove you there and slay them
     
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