Reality: Achievable?

Dear Fapstronauts,

I got informed about this website after I read a blog written by one of us. It was about the success, peace and change within himself he encountered after taking this path. This platform, which connects like mindsets, will be helpful for me to know where I am. As of now, with all the delusions and masturbation, I think I have been led into a virtual world. I think coming out of that world is the only suitable solution for me to lead a normal (mentally balanced) life. With the help of this platform, I would like to set small targets and move towards a life without masturbation. Meanwhile, whenever there is an urge, I would like to control myself and use this platform to describe how it feels and what I should do. I would like to affix all the negative terminologies(it being a sin, it only for jobless,etc.) against the term or thought of masturbation. I would be needing your help in reaching the goal of no masturbation.

 

Thank you.

 

Hey D.J. Nice meeting you here.

I got detached from porn. It seems very unreal. My only addiction was Maturbation and the pleasure of orgasm. Now that i have been to this site, it's challenging me to be away from such means which seem to attract you at first but you repent them later. As I have confessed here, I have a long term plan of leaving it. I have tried it before but never confessed. I was unsuccessful then. Today is my fourth day and I am doing well. I have thought about posting my threads in the age 25-30 forum.

Following is the link of my first post.
https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/challenges-and-fightback.95804/

In short, I am looking for a distraction to overcome that urge. I know that mind plays a major role in such situations. To control a mind is meditation. But, apart from that, if you try to think of that urge and categorize it in your mind and then control it (your ego will, come once the quantity and nature of the urge gets pictured, help you do it). If the urge is too high, I figured out that you can always try to move out of your zone and go for a walk (to a public place). It might help you overcome the urges in your inner world and think about something real.

Also, like most Indians here, I love to say that the traditions help us overcome this urge. We But, when you don't have sex until you are married (it's my view) and you don't masturbate, I think it becomes difficult to get yourself relieved off stress. I don't smoke and drink. But, it's not impossible. I don't know how I can keep myself calm and meditate. Therefore,I think reading some devotional books on self control or books on emotional quotient might be of help in near future. What is your say on this?

How are you doing to control PMO and what stage are you in? I see in your posts that you generally give advise to people like us. What is your way of relieving stress?

 

Thank you Nofapsincebirth for your input. It's true that staying out of boredom or never allowing your mind to feel boredom is primary to have the streak which you are experiencing. However, I will congratulate you once you cross 365 days. Let's be strong and truthful to ourselves. It will help us in being pure and healthy. This also seems to have a positive impact on our attitude and behavior towards others. I am very much willing to experience all such things in near future. Hopefully, this anxiety will keep our minds awake and kicking. Let's be in touch and help ourselves by pulling out all the unwanted and virtual thoughts.

 

That's some number. Will look upto it. Congrats though.

I think it feels like just any other number for you at this point. Your mind might not even be caring about this pmo anymore. (y)

 

Rightly said.
Today I am back to Day Zero after ending my first streak of 5 days. The urge was not that strong but there few things because of which I had to MO. I used to MO very frequently (sometimes 6-10 times a day). This made me very vulnerable. Before thinking of joining this site, I had faced few problems. 1)Erectile dysfunction. 2) Premature Ejaculation. All this due to high frequency of MO. The momentary pleasure took me in and I became it's slave.

These are self diagnosed problems. I got worried and had to experiment again to confirm them. With the urge I had, I tried to MO (yesterday night and today) and got to know that the problems might be temporary. I still don't know for sure but am comforting myself. If you have any idea about the prevalence of such problems at my age, please let me know. Also, the nature of the problem. Permanent or temporary? And, in future, when the time comes, will the problem still persist? Will I have to wait for few days for such things to become normal? How does it work?

 

Yeah sure. Thanks for the advise.