Realizations. Introdutions. I recommend that you leave...

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by FabrizReiv, Jun 24, 2018.

  1. FabrizReiv

    FabrizReiv New Fapstronaut


    Although I have only recently joined the "NoFap" community, I have decided to create this post.

    In view of many articles and viewpoints, and the claims, stories, and victories of users on this site, I have been informed greatly on the subject. Throughout my abstinence, I have forgotten many fears, and become more "powerful."

    While a relationship with a girl may be unlikely at my current age, I have disregarded all, including, even known, your thoughts while reading this post; currently, I simply disregard my writing of this text, word by word, as you read each letter, possibly skimming through the text ("a waste of time"), preparing a response, or simply remaining in front of the screen which you are peering into.

    Similar to the material which you are, most likely, trying to avoid, the screen at which you stare draws you closer; does it not?

    Generally, this may be disregarded, or dismissed as a mere piece of text written by a new "fapstronaut" soon to be congratulated or silenced, after your opinions appear on what I should do,
    Or nothing at all.

    As I type, I wonder if an ultra-awareness has appeared within me, as opposed to-----
    One could view many things as wastes of time (i.e. fapping, women, porn, comments, others), or one could attribute importance to them. With this being said, this post defines not only a belief, but a state of mind:

    After wasting time, as shown above, I have not set a "counter."

    Briefly stated, from a personal standpoint, I believe that, among "fapping," "porn," "videogames," or another activity shortened to an acronym to prevent "triggers," the use of this site itself, in an excessive way, may simply replace PMO.

    In other words, a "superpower" may be obtained from turning off the pixels which are before our eyes at the current moment, and engaging in reality, rather than playing a videogame, or, even,

    searching for a definite answer in a virtual space, a virtual thread called "NoFap."

    Finally, after experiencing the positive effects of this practice of willpower, most should be able to simply close the window with porn, videogames, or a "NoFap" thread and enter reality.
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  2. Hi. Welcome to forum!

    Make sure you create a personal journal thread in Reboot Logs section and blog there on a regular basis. As well as just generally be active participant in various forum discussions. I recommend this to everybody new here because it's the major thing that helped me when I was first starting. Just lurking on forums, reading and learning is great. But it usually is so much more powerful to engage. It helps to keep us motivated and accountable when we are active part of community. And keeps this in front of our minds so we don't forget about importance of it and slip away in our old habits. Sharing is also therapeutic. This is a major reason why AA meetings work so good. But that was developed before internet era. These days we can get most of the same benefits online through communities like this. So don't underestimate the power of active participation.

    I would also like to suggest you to look into mindfulness meditation. It has helped me personally tremendously to learn how to deal with urges and triggers. It takes a while to get good at it and notice results, so you need to be consistent with it, but once you do it's very powerful. It has been used by sages for thousands of years to deal with various issues of the mind. And in recent decades the science is also catching up to what ancient sages have know for centuries. Meditation these days are widely used as very effective tool by psychologists for treating addiction and by neurologists for supporting recovery of the brain after physical injury. Plus it is generally a great exercise for the brain the same way as jogging is great exercise for the body.

    You gotta make sure it is proper mindfulness meditation though. "Mindfulness" meditation where we just focus on breath is more like a concentration meditation instead. It works too but differently and not as powerfully in my experience. Real mindfulness meditation however trains you to accept your urges by understanding the nature of them by observing them, not just suppress them by concentrating on something else instead. It makes you comfortable with them. And once you accept and become comfortable with them there is no need to get rid of them, so there is no need to PMO. Only reason why we PMO is because that urge, that itch in our crotch is uncomfortable, we wanna get rid of it. And then after PMO we have our release. Or we simply want pleasure. And inability to have that pleasure makes us uncomfortable. But if we accept that we can not have pleasure then resistance is gone and there is no reason to PMO.

    Acceptance and mindfulness is the key. Check out this Ted talk on acceptance and mindfulness practice, it gives a good idea of what's it's about when it comes to philosophy. The mindfulness practice as described by psychologist in a the video can be used by itself but ideally should be used as supplementation to your daily sitting meditation. Sitting meditation I personally practice and recommend to people is as explained by meditation expert in this YouTube playlist. If you don't like the monk or want other method there is this awesome smartphone app called Headspace for guided meditations.

    Wish you lot's of strength and success in your reboot journey!
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