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Really good tip that helps me overcome urges!

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Cool guy tough guy, Feb 26, 2018.

Was this technique effective?

  1. Yes

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  2. No

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  1. Cool guy tough guy

    Cool guy tough guy Fapstronaut

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    I won't make this thread really long, because I value your time. I just wanted to share a tip with all of you that may help you as it helped me, big time. We all have experienced procrastination at least once, whether that's doing the homework your teacher assigned you Sunday night or you were told to run an errand, but didn't do it until it got really late. Well, I have a "technique" that uses what most people cause a weakness to great effect. Every time you get the urge to masturbate and your environment allows you to do so, i.e (bedroom, home alone) tell yourself you will masturbate in 30 mins or an hour. Any allotment of time that isn't too little or too long is okay, 30 mins is just what works for me. So after you get the urge and tell yourself, you'll masturbate in 30 mins, let's say, once you've reached that 30 mins, ask yourself once again whether you want to masturbate right now desperately or if you'll do it in another 30 mins time. Tell yourself you'll masturbate in 30 mins and if you can occupy yourself with something creative or physical. Punishing yourself, I found does not work and telling yourself, you'll never do it again will make you more likely to do it again. In summary, every time you get the urge, tell yourself you'll do it in 30 mins. Once 30 mins has elapsed think if you really have to do it or if you can do it in another 30 mins. This "technique" makes it easier to use your limited willpower as you only have to use it once every 30 mins.
     
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  2. ZenAF

    ZenAF Fapstronaut

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    I would only resort to this if every other way failed.
    The reason being you're lying for the good cause, but you still lie. In the moment where you say "I will masturbate in 30 minutes" you are reaffirming the belief that it's ok to masturbate. The fact that you don't do it just means you're dishonest with yourself.

    I think it's helpful to see yourself in a relationship with that part inside of you that wants to masturbate. You can't get rid of it, it's part of you. So you need to align your goals with it, to act as a unity and to not always have to argue with it. It most probably lied to you in the past to get you to masturbate (like "let's look at some porn, not to jerk off, just to see if I can resist" is one common lie) so now you feel like it's ok to lie back to get your way.
    You have to understand that it's you, the you who makes choices, that turned the lusty part of you into a greedy needy lying monster, by consistently
    making the wrong choices. So instead of seeing it as an enemy that you need to lie to, see it as a beaten down family member that you need to heal.
    In my humble opinion that will lead you to a quicker recovery.
     

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