Reasons to live.

Infrasapiens · Nov 25, 2019

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Bro I have been through some dark times and I'm still trying to figure it out today. I'm not going to convince you not to kill yourself, I couldn't care less what you do, I'm probably not even going to give you a reason to live, I'm just going to tell you what I think. Here's my take on things:

The whole 'meaning to life' thing is bullshit. The question 'What is the meaning to life?' doesn't even make sense, it's a stupid question. I probably don't need to explain to you the reality of things, that human life is a big coincidence, we are just collections of atoms on a big rock, yada yada... I think you probably already know this. Yet you are still looking for a reason:

"I am not a hippie poet looking for "The meaning of life or I'll kill myself". I just want a reason to live, a normal, regular reason. What is the point of living if everything is terrible and can only get worse?"

You know how reality is but you don't accept it. You are going to be dead in however many years and no one will bat an eye. The only person who is really looking out for you is you. Maybe your parents are but thats it. And ultimately they don't have much power over how you live your life, they just 'care' about you, which probably means they will give you a roof to live under and food no matter what, but that's not going to make life worth living. What I'm getting at here is no one is going to hand you the life you want.

I can cruise through uni, live off my savings and not go out to much, hang out with the same friends I have had for years doing the same shit every weekend, get a job with my degree to just get by, work through the week, go home and get takeaway and watch youtube videos at night, go out with some 'friends' on the weekend for drinks, maybe meet a chick thats is bearable and pump out a few kids with her, buy an ordinary house and pay it off, retire and play golf for 20 years, watch my grandkids grow a bit then die.

I can acheive that life with no work. I can cruise through doing the bear mininum and live an average life. But fuck that. That is not a life I want. Right now I am at the beginning, I am an 18 year old kid in my first year of uni. I was unhappy with living off savings so I got a job. It wasn't easy, I applied for probably close to 200, and was invited to 10-15 interviews. Finally I have found a super good job, close to my house, work isn't to hard, bosses are sick cunts.
I was unhappy with my body, so I started going to the gym. I did my research and found a good program and learnt about proper nutrition. My friends gave me shit because they thought the program was gay, but I stuck with it. I dragged myself to the gym 3 or 4 times a week for the past year and a half, and I'm so fucking happy I did. You wouldn't believe how fucking good it feels to have chicks that would be disgusted by me a year ago stare at me, chicks who I thought were way out of my league flirt with me, to have people watching you squat heavy at the gym, to have dudes intimdated by you.
I was unhappy with how I looked, so I fixed it. I look like a champion now. I used to have gay hair and dress like a slob. Now I go to a proper barber and get a decent haircut every few weeks, I have well trimmed facial hair and I dress in clothes that I think look dope as fuck and accentuate my gains.
I was unhappy were I lived, so I moved. I found a mate who wanted to move out, we looked at a few houses, applied for a few and got a super good one. Its not the prettiest, but its cheap and close to my uni, it's also incredible having my own place.

I am not trying to brag here. I am using my life as an example. If I want something, I work towards it. I am unhappy with my relationship with women right now. I am working on my confidence and social skills, but I am still not there yet. I still don't have the balls to escalate with a chick, and until I do I will be getting no pussy. There is no one to blame but me. If I want to fuck some chick I have to overcome that fear and take the next step. Until I do my life will not be as good as it could be.

I am just getting started too. In another year I will be even bigger, I am going to start learning spanish and do a trip to south America, I am going to learn to invest and invest some money from my job. I am going to build my confidence and start making new friends. When I graduate I will get a better apartment, make even more money and do some more travel. Hopefully by this point I will be surrounded by people I genuinly enjoy spending time with, and I will have the confidence to talk to any girl I find attractive.

Fuck man I'm not sure where I am going with this. I guess I'm trying to say fuck all that gay philisophical shit. It's simple. You have to make your life worth living. No one else will. Theres nothing deep to it, it's all about how you feel. It is going to be hard, you are going to have to grind in the gym, you will be rejected, you will have to spend late nights studying. But then there will be some fleeting moments of extreme satisfaction that make it all worth it.

I had a quick read through this thread, and your life sounds shit. Fuck the dudes saying a reason to live is to look after your parents, or to have kids, or to live for your passion. Do it for you. Do it because it will feel good. Imagine being so fucking good at your job that you have a bunch of people that look up to you and come to you for advice. Imagine being so attractive that you have the girl of your dreams begging to fuck you. Imagine living in your dream house, cooking yourself a delicious breakfast every morning in your enormous kitchen with beach views or some shit. Imagine being able to look at your bank account and realise you will never have to worry about money ever again. Imagine people being intimidated by you because of how succesful you are.

I don't know about you bro, but that sounds like a life worth living to me. And fuck, don't give me some bullshit like you don't think thats possible, or you were born with shit genetics. If you are thinking like that then you may as well get it over with now rather than wasting the rest of your years living some fucking boring life.
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You sound like you were on drugs when you typed that but you have some interesting points.

itz_gioc said: ↑

Long story short...

Do what makes you happy. Improve yourself. AND LASTLY

DO NOT GIVE UP
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Not to sound like an incel, and I am being honest with you, but I don't know what makes me happy. I cannot remember the last time I had fun, or how it feels, or if I even understand it anymore.

SuperPowers said: ↑

Me, I live because I believe the purpose of life is to be your best version

I want an amazing wife and 3-4 kids one day, a career, travel, and I love cycling man, I found my passion in cycling, but that's not what I live for.

And to have these things I need to be my best version.

Were here for a short time to learn some lessons, grow and become our best version and level up. What you're going through is a necessary part of your growth and if you don't learn the lesson you'll be back here until you do.

having said that there is no guarantee what happens after we die, so why end it?

Also be aware that you are luckier that 80% of the human population living in the west. You at least have clean water, there are other people drinking mud. I also question what the hell are you doing studying, drop out man!! Fuck your parents!
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It is curious, yesterday water came after a month, and it was almost black.

What I study is none of your concern.

I don't know why you said that at the end but, your parents too my friend, and you too.

itz_gioc · Nov 26, 2019

Infrasapiens said: ↑

Not to sound like an incel, and I am being honest with you, but I don't know what makes me happy. I cannot remember the last time I had fun, or how it feels, or if I even understand it anymore.
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If nothing makes you happy, then find something that does. Try something new. Don’t just lay there and do nothing. I suggest exercising and join a meetup group or learn a new skill.

lolos · Nov 26, 2019

Infrasapiens said: ↑

You sound like you were on drugs when you typed that but you have some interesting points.
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I got a bit passionate but I mean everything I said

Infrasapiens · Nov 26, 2019

lolos said: ↑

I got a bit passionate but I mean everything I said
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Yes, it can be seen.

itz_gioc said: ↑

If nothing makes you happy, then find something that does. Try something new. Don’t just lay there and do nothing. I suggest exercising and join a meetup group or learn a new skill.
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I have no idea what meetup groups are but I do exercise, I don't know why to be honest.

Infrasapiens · Nov 26, 2019

Laika said: ↑

What makes me continue living is being scared of what happens after I die.

Black screen of death?
Paradise land?
Hell?
Being trapped on earth?
Having the chance of coming back to earth and live as an ant?

Whatever It is... I honestly don't want to speed up the process and risk losing what I can enjoy for now, even If I live a shitty life, feeling and getting pleasure from things is rare.
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I go for the "Nothing" scenario when you die.

I have realized I sure use the word "Nothing" a lot.

Deleted Account · Nov 26, 2019

Holy shit, this sounded like me only a month or two ago.
Dude, you probably need a hobby or something that gives you a massive kick of adrenaline (probably why you think kung fu might be good idea).
Enough adrenaline anyways that makes you forget about everything else and zone in on a singular focus where absolutely nothing else matters (cliff jumping or something).
But then again money is an issue. It sounds like almost extreme boredom.

Infrasapiens · Nov 26, 2019

db323 said: ↑

Holy shit, this sounded like me only a month or two ago.
Dude, you probably need a hobby or something that gives you a massive kick of adrenaline (probably why you think kung fu might be good idea).
Enough adrenaline anyways that makes you forget about everything else and zone in on a singular focus where absolutely nothing else matters (cliff jumping or something).
But then again money is an issue. It sounds like almost extreme boredom.
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And what did you do?

itz_gioc · Nov 26, 2019

Infrasapiens said: ↑

I have no idea what meetup groups are but I do exercise, I don't know why to be honest.
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1st: Go on google and type meetup groups
2nd: Sign up and join any group you want (I suggest try something new).
3rd: Attend it

Just learn and try to socialize.

Or if your introverted try reading books. Get a cookbook, learn new ways to make food. I'm giving you suggestions here.

Infrasapiens · Nov 26, 2019

itz_gioc said: ↑

1st: Go on google and type meetup groups
2nd: Sign up and join any group you want (I suggest try something new).
3rd: Attend it

Just learn and try to socialize.

Or if your introverted try reading books. Get a cookbook, learn new ways to make food. I'm giving you suggestions here.
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Is that a first world thing? Because it sounds like a first world thing.

The cooking thing is a good idea but food is not abundant here so it isn't a viable option.

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