Reasons why I’m afraid to start dating

Hi,

thank you for your post. You are the first one, who subscribes a problem that i also have.
Masturbation ist getting me harder and more pleasure than real sex.

I also working on it and hope that over time i get the completely reboot. If i have sex, then only with prostitutes and then i need also a fantasy to get hard.

My advice: Stay on the Path of semen retention.

If you manage to get a date, then use it. Don't tell the girl about your unexperience.
And if the date is going to direction of sex. Just tell that you believe in old values and for you it is important to know the person better. Tell her, that you want to wait at least 3 months.

I hope i could help you.

 

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Reboot for sure.

As for sex in a relationship, most women don't care about performance all that much as long as the guy seems "in to it." If you can't hold your erection, just go down on her and she'll be thrilled. Making a woman cum with your finger also isn't that hard, and she won't think twice about it. Of course, that isn't as good for you, but it will give you options to mix things up if things in the dick department aren't going as planned. Experience, in other words, should be the least of your concern. Humans evolved (or were designed--whatever you believe) to have sex. It comes naturally to us. Of course, porn and masturbation can inhibit our naturally ability to have sex by conditioning our brain to respond to a different set of stimuli. But this is a problem with porn dependency, and not lack of experience.

Try dating around. Try not having sex with a woman on the first date. You will both be more comfortable that way. Try not being too drunk/high/whatever. As much as you can, try to stay out of your head and just be responsive to your sexual partner.

 

You definitely don't need to worry about this. I was 31 when I started. I suspect most of the women you meet are going to feel as awkward as you do in a dating situation. Real women (or at least those I've met) are a million miles from those super-confident, highly experienced women we see in porn videos.

 

You gotta remember man nothing in porn is genuine or real. Its one of the reasons I'm trying to give it up. Everyone here wants to get over their problems and experience real genuine relationships with real genuine women. There are many women out there that may feel the same way you do. You just gotta put yourself out there and get a feel for things.

I myself just started NoFap. Had a relapse yesterday after 16 days of no PMO. I don't think that's too bad for my 1st real try at it. It set me back but I'm gonna get back on the horse and try again.

A good way you can meet quality women is through friendships you already have. Your guy friends might bring their girlfriends and THEY might bring theirs friends as well. Boom.

Cold approaching women that you've never met before can be super awkward for both of you and can be especially terrifying for the guy. It is for me at least.

And if you don't have a lot of good quality friends go out to places that you like to frequent and try to get in with a group of people. Chit chat with them and become part of their circle. The whole meeting women through social circles that I mention earlier could happen and on top of that you can develop genuine close friendships with people you already have a lot in common with.

Humans are social animals so go out and be social. Don't get stuck in your head so much. Just be yourself and you'll be fine.

Stay strong my man. You got this!

 

Being rejected or ignored after putting yourself out there brings huge depression. Hard to start over looking for love with a smile after that happens a number of times. You feel a mix of absolute rage and sadness.