Rebirth

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by HumansAreStupid, Mar 24, 2018.

  1. HumansAreStupid

    HumansAreStupid Fapstronaut

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    Hey mates! I am 18 year old male.
    It all started when I was about 12 or 13 at a party where my friend introduced me to this shit.
    Started watching it whenever I was alone and introduced it to some of my friends too. But i never matsurbate, until I was about 16 and it took turn for the worst.
    I became heavily addicted the only thing on my mind was this shit. It became a daily habit like a chore which i had to complete daily, I would wake up early just to matsurbate, and on the days I couldnt I would be awake late night. It became something that I had to do.
    My grades dropped,felt weak, lost motivation to do anything and went into a slight depression. A year after abusing my body I realized that I was destroying my body and decided to get rid of this addiction. But realizing a cause of problem and fixing it both of them are different.
    I have been trying for about 1 year to get rid of this shit tried every thing I could but its like a ghost which just vanishes for a short time and creeps up on you.
    It is ridiculous the amount of time I have wasted on this. I suffer from social anxiety and pmo just multiplies it. I does not directly affect you but screws you over in subtle ways.
    I am fed of my life as it is now and want to change it and porn is the biggest obstacle to it. I am ready to do anything to get rid of this mess. Please help me in my journey and guide this newbie. Thank you noofap.
     
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  2. rayzyzz

    rayzyzz Fapstronaut

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    Hey man, congrats that you made the right decision to join nofap, it is good that you only had 2 years of pmo, compared to me (had 9 years of pmo), therefore, your neuro-association to pmo will be much weaker than me! So I strongly believe you can beat this monster! It is really important to start to weaken your neuro-association to pmo by nofap now instead of letting it grow stronger. The first step is really important (blocking all sexual content), if you truly made a decision to quit something, you will not even consider the possibility of doing this again (Tony Robinson). In the meantime, it is really important to build a stronger mind to beat the monster(pmo). Find a book that can improve your mental hygiene and improve yourself mentally, read story from successful story section and see how they manage to succeed. Hope it helps. Let me know if you have any questions during your journal. Good luck!
     
  3. HumansAreStupid

    HumansAreStupid Fapstronaut

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    Thanks friend, I have a question, I generally relapse when I am surfing youtube and see arousing thumbnail see that video/picture and then, well you know how it ends. In that moment I dont get time to think what is wrong and right and its like my brain controls me. What should i do?
     
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  4. rayzyzz

    rayzyzz Fapstronaut

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    hey man, unsubscribe any sexual arouse content on youtube (you already notice watching "arousing thumbnails" has negative impact on nofap. Then just link watching this to relapse, never click on something like this, otherwise, the videos on youtube will appear lots of similar videos ") and only watch the videos that can help with your personal growth. Nowadays , internet are full of negative and sexual arouse content, but in the meantime, it also provide you lots of positive information for your development. You have to use the "tool" in a positive way. Apart from that, it is good to practice observing your thought in a third point of view, when you noticing you are having sexual thought, you had already stop the thought, then you have to think about something else immediately! (such as your obligation for the day) or watch a inspirational/ motivational short videos on youtube). If you follow the thought, It will grow much stronger later and eventually you will lose control. Linking sexual thought to relapse and keep practicing this over and over again, try to reduce the time of this process each time you practice this. I think it is important method to learn on nofap. Since PMO usually started with a single small sexual thought. Hope it helps, let me know if you have any questions!
     

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