Rebooting, but for what?

I know it sounds a stupid question but what do you think? Your hand grip is much stronger, you do it for hours and has been doing it for years. I'm not trying to be sarcastic here only trying to point out that you already now the answer for that, by the way, I have the same issue so 30 min of sex for me is like premature ejaculation., I would be happy with that. In my life I used to take +1h or more which some girls liked others don't but at the end probably around 80% of the time I had to finish off with my hand. I only reached O during oral sex once in 20 years since my first time.

Regarding your title question, I would think that besides any physical issues your wife may have, she already expects that the "session" is going to be long and ending in pain so she developed this automatic behavior to shorten it. It's something for you to talk about with her, your issue and her issue, and if you, for instance, could be able to O faster she would also be able to stay longer than she does now and would be more pleasurable for both.

I don't know if this happens to you also but for me to reach O I really need to pound fast and hard, so that might also be something that hurts her. My wife complained about it sometimes. And this varies, I had girlfriends that really enjoyed hard and fast but others don't.

 

Go ahead, repress your sexual frustrations then and go along with your deluded rationalizations. The older we get, the more excuses we make for our shortcomings don't we? Perhaps remind yourself of why you even signed up to this website.

"We can run from adversity or we can face them and conquer them."

Dig deep and figure it out; only you hold the answers to your predicament.

Or don't.

Its your life.

Mateo

 

Congratulations on your 14 days btw. Keep it up! I tell you why rebooting. For yourself first of all and your daughter too at least. Stop watching porn helps every part of your life, trust me. It's only good for you. About your wife, why did you get married with her if she never liked sex the way you like it? I assume sex worked before between the two of you, perhaps discuss openly with her. She is your wife afterall

 

Well, for me i never had any problems with having sex with the girls but its not actually a sexual thing. Well, some part of is sexual and the other parts are not. For me, i signed up for fixing my dopamine level because life is much better with a healthy dopamine level. If you signed up, there must be a problem that you noticed in your innerside so you just have to find it i think. Good luck with your wife i hope things gets better soon!

 

Hey!

Keep that counter up, thats pretty great for the first try. If you quit fapping it will not just be beneficial for your DE, but you will have a whole new viewpoint to the world. Also, you can have O with sex pretty quick if you are on a nofap session (I promise you that). You will change in ways you cant even imagine. For me, I got a whole other vibe, and you dont need to be spiritual to get it. Girls just checking me out more often and they text me more often. I get that you are married so that wont be reasonable for you, but you might just attract your wife in an other way. After 30 days she can give you 2 min handjobs, which could be beneficial for both of you, if she is not into these sexual things as more as you do.

I think sharing this new thing might interest her too, you know her better. You should give it a try and maybe she will view things differently after.

 

I'm new here but I thought I would offer some thoughts... I think it's commendable that you were able to stop PMO. You say you've always watched porn and you suspect that it contributes to your delayed ejaculation. If rebooting yourself will help improve your delayed ejaculation, then it seems worth it to me. You don't mention if MO has shortened in duration now that you decided to stop watching porn.

Another thing, sex with your wife doesn't have to be PIV. BJ and HJ are a couple of options. She may hate BJs but I wonder if she may try it for you if you were to offer something in return. Relationships can sometimes operate with a little give-and-take. Are there things that she likes/wants that are sensual but not sexual? I find that talking to a partner about problems is critical. Assumptions, fears, likes, dislikes, needs, etc.... they need to be aired out. Maybe your wife enjoys massages, kissing, rubbing, fingering, cunniligus, etc. instead of PIV sex. The more options you explore, the better your relationship could be.

If you improve your ejaculation time, then maybe your wife would agree to more sex. If you can improve your relationship and your sex life, then it's worth it. It might not be easy or quick, but having a better relationship and life in the long term is worth it.