Rebooting...but starting a new relationship

I´m going to tell you, what I told all the other guys here before.

There´s no penis necessary to please a woman in bed. Just ask any lesbian couple.
Women love the intimacy of sex, the penis is just the icing on the cake.
Just don´t pressure yourself to have sex. This will only make the ED worse.
Your agenda should be not to go beyond foreplay. Trust me there there will be no girl, who says no to an hour of passionate foreplay. And who knows what happens. Maybe there will be some movement down there. If not it´s allright too.
And after you made love, no matter if you could get it up or not, you should tell her. I know how hard it is to open up to somebody about this, but it´s worth it.
Otherwise she will think something is wrong with you, or that she is not good enough for you, etc... This would hurt her self esteem and that is no way to start a healthy relationship.

 

For how long have you been going out with her? You could alays tell her you want to wait for sex and behave in a way she gets and build your relationship on an emotional side. She should be Ok.

If she is won't stick around then you have lost nothing. Better having people who don't have intention to stay leave sooner than later

 

If you want a relationship with her, you need to tell her about it.

all addictions are lifetime addictions and will be with you all your life. If she knows you have this addiction, how it affects you and your current recovery methods before anything serious happens, then it will help prevent or reduce how it affects her AND will keep the stress, shame, guilt that is normally associated with the addiction due to keeping something so large a secret.

If you tell her and she rejects you, you still proceed with your recovery.
if you don't tell her and she rejects you, you still proceed with your recovery.
If she tells 'everyone' then she's an ass, you still proceed with your recovery.
There's no shame in admitting an addiction and actively pursuing recovery.

 

Learn to use your fingers and tongue fast